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  • WDW
    Daycare.com Member
    • Apr 2011
    • 238

    Is this lying?

    I have a DCM who is being sneaky for sure. Yesterday, DCB was sent home with a fever of 101.2. No fever upon arrival, but it showed up around 3. Called DCM, she came and took DCB to doctor. When she got home she texted me that fever was same at dr, and they said it was "probably viral" and if temp was okay in the morning, could DCB come? So I texted back and said "did you get any medicine? If not, and temp is fine all night with no tylenol/motrin, then I'm fine with it." She responded that she "can't lie, they did get an antibiotic and she'd keep DCB home today." Ummmm, I think she DID lie because she obviously wasn't going to tell me. I feel if I hadn't asked, she was going to leave that out. And since when do they give ab's for a virus? Would you be upset? Would you say something... and if so, what/how? I'm not happy... this isn't the first time she has tried this. She always makes her dr appts for 4:30 after she picks up at 4. I get not wanting to miss work but she never tells me she's going and I have found them out to be on ab's before that I didn't know about.
  • littlemissmuffet
    Advanced Daycare.com Member
    • Jan 2011
    • 2194

    #2
    Originally posted by WDW
    I have a DCM who is being sneaky for sure. Yesterday, DCB was sent home with a fever of 101.2. No fever upon arrival, but it showed up around 3. Called DCM, she came and took DCB to doctor. When she got home she texted me that fever was same at dr, and they said it was "probably viral" and if temp was okay in the morning, could DCB come? So I texted back and said "did you get any medicine? If not, and temp is fine all night with no tylenol/motrin, then I'm fine with it." She responded that she "can't lie, they did get an antibiotic and she'd keep DCB home today." Ummmm, I think she DID lie because she obviously wasn't going to tell me. I feel if I hadn't asked, she was going to leave that out. And since when do they give ab's for a virus? Would you be upset? Would you say something... and if so, what/how? I'm not happy... this isn't the first time she has tried this. She always makes her dr appts for 4:30 after she picks up at 4. I get not wanting to miss work but she never tells me she's going and I have found them out to be on ab's before that I didn't know about.
    I wouldn't be upset about it, and heres why...
    I state in my policies that children who go home with a fever need to be fever free without the aid of medication for 24 hours before returning. I also state in my policies that I must be informed if a child has been given medication prior to arriving at daycare. It's not difficult to tell if a child's been medicated when their fever comes back 4 or so hours after being dropped off.

    Finally, it's stated in my policies that if I find a parent is being dishonest with me, especially in regards to their child's health, it will lead to an immediate termination.


    If we leave little wiggle room for parents to mess around, I find there is less messing around

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    • wdmmom
      Advanced Daycare.com
      • Mar 2011
      • 2713

      #3
      Change your policies.

      Any parent that takes their child to the doctor needs to return a slip stating the diagnosis. Then let it be at your discretion whether to allow them to return or not. No note, no return.

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      • WDW
        Daycare.com Member
        • Apr 2011
        • 238

        #4
        Originally posted by wdmmom
        Change your policies.

        Any parent that takes their child to the doctor needs to return a slip stating the diagnosis. Then let it be at your discretion whether to allow them to return or not. No note, no return.
        I like this. I think I will be implementing this. Thanks.

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        • CheekyChick
          Daycare.com Member
          • Dec 2009
          • 810

          #5
          Originally posted by WDW
          I have a DCM who is being sneaky for sure. Yesterday, DCB was sent home with a fever of 101.2. No fever upon arrival, but it showed up around 3. Called DCM, she came and took DCB to doctor. When she got home she texted me that fever was same at dr, and they said it was "probably viral" and if temp was okay in the morning, could DCB come? So I texted back and said "did you get any medicine? If not, and temp is fine all night with no tylenol/motrin, then I'm fine with it." She responded that she "can't lie, they did get an antibiotic and she'd keep DCB home today." Ummmm, I think she DID lie because she obviously wasn't going to tell me. I feel if I hadn't asked, she was going to leave that out. And since when do they give ab's for a virus? Would you be upset? Would you say something... and if so, what/how? I'm not happy... this isn't the first time she has tried this. She always makes her dr appts for 4:30 after she picks up at 4. I get not wanting to miss work but she never tells me she's going and I have found them out to be on ab's before that I didn't know about.
          I would give her a copy of your Illness Policy with a little note stating that you are requiring a note from the child's ped from now on, stating she is clear for daycare - or she can't return until you receive one.

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          • wdmmom
            Advanced Daycare.com
            • Mar 2011
            • 2713

            #6
            Originally posted by CheekyChick
            I would give her a copy of your Illness Policy with a little note stating that you are requiring a note from the child's ped from now on, stating she is clear for daycare - or she can't return until you receive one.
            Stating a child is clear for daycare is the opinion of a doctor. I'd like to think that since it is MY home and MY JOB and MY responsibility to keep everyone safe, a diagnosis will do just that.

            I had a child with a chronic runny nose (green). DCM would take him to the doctor and she's come back saying it's just a cold or he's just teething or it's nothing, there's nothing wrong.

            I got sick of getting notes saying DCB was able to attend. That decision should be solely mine. I now have parents get a note from the doctor with the DIAGNOSIS and if an antibiotic was prescribed. That way there's no lying about it and I don't get the "teething, nothing's wrong, he's fine" bologna!

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            • Kaddidle Care
              Daycare.com Member
              • Dec 2010
              • 2090

              #7
              24 hours fever free before return. 48 hours on antibiotics before return.

              Some Doctors WILL give Antibiotics "just in case" when they say it's viral. People need to run from these Doctors and not go to them.

              Do what you need to to protect your children and yourself from the "it's all about me" parents.

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              • WDW
                Daycare.com Member
                • Apr 2011
                • 238

                #8
                Originally posted by Kaddidle Care
                Some Doctors WILL give Antibiotics "just in case" when they say it's viral. People need to run from these Doctors and not go to them.
                This may be the case. And this mom is one who has said she will "demand" something. I had a child who had a very mild, early caught case of RSV. She was on vacation from daycare Friday, Sunday she was seeming sick, dr on Monday, out all week. I still notified my families just in case but the chance of exposure was small. This mom got antibiotics for both her kids. Umm... RSVIRUS?!?! But still, rules and rules and the sneakiness of it is what makes me so mad.

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