Daycare Provider/Facebook Posts

[Unregistered]

Shes complaining tonight that the downside of running an in home daycare is that her one year old is going to other kids and grabbing toys and saying "mine" and she doesn't think a one year old should know that. WTF, man. They're kids, they do that. They pick up on stuff that other kids do.

I'm so close to going off on her right now! Grrr!

[youretooloud]

Shes complaining tonight that the downside of running an in home daycare is that her one year old is going to other kids and grabbing toys and saying "mine" and she doesn't think a one year old should know that. WTF, man. They're kids, they do that. They pick up on stuff that other kids do.

I'm so close to going off on her right now! Grrr!

It does sound sortof extreme. Your kids are probably fine, but perhaps it wouldn't hurt to look around for someone else. Just call around, or look at websites to see if you get a better feel anywhere else.

You could also talk to her... but, honestly, it's good to see what she's really thinking too.

[morgan24]

I don't think that facebook is the place to vent about the children you are caring for. I wouldn't take any chances, I would find a new provider.

[cheerfuldom]

She sounds like someone who is just really unprepared to take care of a group of kids. The fact that she is complaining that her 1 year old says "mine" shows that she probably has little to no experience with that age. EVERY kid does that especially in a group dynamic. I am guessing that she is a little over her head with this daycare or like others said, just a big complainer.

[Unregistered]

Thank you, you guys are great! I really appreciate all the responses you've given me!!

This is a train wreck...I can't help but wait and watch and she what she says next.

So I think it's time to seriously start looking (not that I haven't been over the last few days) for a new provider. this rubs me in all the wrong ways. I get it, your kid is perfect and all the others are just a pain in your butt.

[PeanutsGalore]

Shes complaining tonight that the downside of running an in home daycare is that her one year old is going to other kids and grabbing toys and saying "mine" and she doesn't think a one year old should know that. WTF, man. They're kids, they do that. They pick up on stuff that other kids do.

I'm so close to going off on her right now! Grrr!

I'm with Cheerfuldom on this one...she's in over her head. Reality check: kids will start the "MINE!" thing even if they live in a bubble.

If this is the only issue and you're otherwise comfortable with the care, I'd have a heart to heart with her. Really. Otherwise, look elsewhere, because she's got some growing to do.

[lulu]

I've been on here so much I figured I better register!

Thanks again!

[youretooloud]

Keep in mind though. Whatever you decide to do, understand that we ALL complain. But, we do it on a place like this where other providers can give us a reality check. Or sympathy... whatever the situation needs.

In her recent public ranting, she'd say that here, and we'd nicely point out that her 1 yr old is in a normal developmental phase, and isn't destined to sit in the principal's office the rest of her childhood. She will indeed move on to another phase that is preprogrammed in her.

What she might really need is a place to vent. We all need a place to vent. Otherwise, we'd be very unhappy, and we'd get walked all over by the parents.

Maybe you could have this thread deleted, then send her a facebook message to invite her to this board. OR, give us her info, and we'll invite her. I know that I became a much happier person when I discovered the internet and online venting.

[littlemissmuffet]

Wow. I'd have been gone YESTERDAY!

As a PP mentioned, someone who thinks it's unusual for a one year old to say "mine" to any toy, piece of furniture, piece of food, room, piece of clothing, ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING IN A HOUSE... is absolutely inexperienced with young children. I hear the kids say "mine" about eight thousand times a day in this house - and I assure you, nothing in this house is anybody's but MINE!
She's inexperienced, and exhibiting favoritism for her own child directly to her clients. That is terribly worrisome to me.

Updating Facebook statuses while I am paying you to be interacting with and caring for my child... :: I don't think so.

Venting on Facebook about needing freedom... she feels trapped. She probably thought taking in some kids for cash would be easy while she's home with her own little one and she's quickly finding out the reality of how INVOLVED and ATTENTIVE this job requires one to be. It's probably much more than she anticipated, and she's already burning out. She probably wants the money, but doesn't want to earn it.

Does she ever post positives?
I LOVE my job, I LOVE my dcks and everyone on my Facebook knows it via my statuses. I don't have any parents on my Facebook, for the record, so I am posting genuinely. If she can so boldly vent about how much she seemingly dislikes (perhaps even HATES) her work, your child is better off as far away as possible. Trust me. Give your notice. NOW.

I agree with the PPs who suggested that a thank you goes a long way, it certaintly does, but seriously, we do this for the kids... at least I do. The kids give me enough thanks. Being able to be home is enough thanks. You know? This chick sounds like she got into this biz for all the wrong reasons and your children will be the ones who pay for it... the best thing you can do for them is pay for a better daycare where you TRUST a HAPPY provider.

We all have hard days... but hers seem more frequent than is "normal" - that's indication right there that something is wrong.

[kimmi]

One of my parents just friended me on facebook. I have been watching her son for about 2 years now. So today im going through all her pictures of the kids and come across one that was taken last summer. Her son was at daycare (my house) and was running down the sidewalk and tripped and fell flat on his face. One side of his face was all scraped up and she took a pic of it and put it on her facebook and said "dcb met the sidewalk at daycare today =(" and then i was reading the comments and all but one was like ohh poor baby. He will be okay mom, and comments like that. But one guy said "you shouldve made the daycare ladies face meet the pavement! WOW, that hurt my feelings! It wasnt my fault he fell running, he was 3 at the time =(

[Unregistered]

This is sad

One of my parents just friended me on facebook. I have been watching her son for about 2 years now. So today im going through all her pictures of the kids and come across one that was taken last summer. Her son was at daycare (my house) and was running down the sidewalk and tripped and fell flat on his face. One side of his face was all scraped up and she took a pic of it and put it on her facebook and said "dcb met the sidewalk at daycare today =(" and then i was reading the comments and all but one was like ohh poor baby. He will be okay mom, and comments like that. But one guy said "you shouldve made the daycare ladies face meet the pavement! WOW, that hurt my feelings! It wasnt my fault he fell running, he was 3 at the time =(

That is sad I think that I would be feeling the way that you felt too. This is why I make it a point not to have clients as friends because of the chance that something like that were to happen. Accidents happen and even though we are watching the kids closely, they still have accidents. As far as the guy making the comment about making the daycare lady's face meet the pavement...some people are just ignorant and make comments that make them sound like cavemen. Still, I'd have hurt feelings too.

[Mom_of_two]

I would not be comfortable with that provider. Agree with pp's!!

I am friends on Facebook with two out of three of my families. I enjoy it, because it is nice for them to see more of my world, and for me to get to know them better as well. I do not 'friend' families myself, but if one brings it up I encourage them to find me. Some people may not Want a more friendly relationship with me, and that is totally ok, too!! Their choice, so I never initiate.

I do not talk about work at all, EVER on FB!!! Except maybe to say 'great day with the kids' or 'lots of fun outside today' or share pics of my Own kids (never share other people's kids pics.)

We all have bad days at work. It is not appropriate to vent to clients. Plus, sounds like there are other issues altogether going on as well. Good luck.

[LittleD]

Some people just need SOMETHING to complain about. I have a fb friend like that. Everyday is a new rant. I'll call and ask if everything is ok, and she says "yes, why wouldn't it be?"

[Unregistered]

test...I've tried posting several times logged in, but my posts aren't showing. ?? Are they stuck in moderator land?

[Unregistered]

Okay, so I guess I can't post when I'm looged in. Anywho.....

I responded (nicely) to her "mine" update saying with til she gets older and brings home all sorts of great words and stories from school. She's in for a surprise then!

I think littlemissmuffet hit the nail right on the head. I rarely hear anything positive, aside from how super awesome/smart/cute/brilliant her kid is. I'd love to see something like "took a nice walk with the kids" once in a while, you know?

As much as we don't want to move him, we think it's time to start looking for another provider. Which is sad. She should know better than to post stuff like that on fb.