Do You Hate It When Your Husband Is Home During Daycare Hours?

[dEHmom]

Here's the secret to either making that stop, or getting a little help...

Every time hubby points out the obvious say, "Oh, thanks for getting that! I could use a hand."

He will either help or shut up.

Thanks! I will be using this!

I know my dh's secrets too. Like when he does laundry, he loads that baby full right to the lid. takes about 3 loads to dry them in the dryer and they are obviously still dirty cause he over loaded it. This is a trick, so I say "NEVER DO LAUNDRY AGAIN" or he folds the clothes so badly (i have a bit of ocd and I HATE the way he folds. I have to redo it all, so he's gotten out of that part of laundry as well.

He does a lot of things badly, poorly or whatever else, so that he won't have to do them again.

[Mom_of_two]

My husband is great with the DCK's, and works 8-5 so is not here when the kids are often. On occasion if he goes out of town he will get home early afternoon. He is great with the kids, and offers to help but it definitely shifts the dynamic- kidfs get more rambunctious with him, and my own girls more sidetracked (like if he comes in and leaves they might get sad or want to go and can't etc.) He definitely understands I am working and tells me my job is hard-- one plus to hubby being around sometimes, he sees the work we do! He is also my sub and knows the drill with all the kids, which makes his presence easier if he happens to be here another time too

[DCMom]

My dh is home by 4pm most days. The kids love him; he can always tell if it's been a trying day and asks what he can do.

We try to coordinate our days off so he isn't home when the daycare is open; but it happens once in awhile. I don't mind~it changes up the routine and he knows that dc is my first priority those days.

[AmandasFCC]

I actually quite like it when my hubby is home. He stays out of my way, gets chores done that make my life easier, and knows when nap time is, so if he needs quiet for something, he waits until they're sleeping. He gets it, I guess

[momofboys]

I like it when my husband is home. But then he helps out, plays with the kids, etc. The daycare kids LOVE him & he loves them right back. The twins I care for love to sit on his lap & read stories with him. I'm happy when my hubby gets home b/c it gives me a mini-break!

[Blackcat31]

I love when my DH is home, because that means he isn't here at daycare! :: LOL!!! Seriously though, he is great with the dck's and comes into town everyday for lunch. He dishes up plates of food, serves, wipes little hands and faces and helps the kiddos have a great lunch time experience. He then helps with getting all the littles down for nap and my older ones ready to go outside to play. His mom ran a 24/7 childcare while he was growing up so he knows how this song and dance goes.

Choosing to open a daycare was a mutual decision and he is as helpful as any substitute or assistant could ever be. (cheaper too! ) The up side is he has a vested interest in this business too so....

My kids all get so excited when he gets here. He lets them help when he does little fix it projects and he always makes sure he plows the snow exactly where they want it so they can build a snow fort. He has also had his fair share in teaching some of the little ones how to ride a bike or build a sand castle or how to pump themselves on the swing set. I think my dck's would be lost without him. I know my lunch time routine would be crazy if he wasn't here so I am glad when he arrives!!

[AfterSchoolMom]

I love it when my DH is home. The kids love him. He's subbed for me a few times as well.

However, I will say that he used to work from home and was here EVERY SINGLE DAY. I didn't care for that as much.

[Meeko]

My husband has 12 siblings. He grew up in a house filled with kiddos...so he's completely at home. I do my day care at my son's house, but my husband comes down to see us, substitutes so I can run errands etc. etc. He reads to the kids, plays ball with them and talks with their parents!

[Sugar Magnolia]

So Lucky....

My husband is my full partner in our small center. But I AM the Director, so technically I am the boss. Lol! Its great having a guy in child care!!! The little ones from divorced parents really benefit having a good male role model around! Its so funny, just like in families, if they don't get the answer they are looking for from me, they quietly go ask "dad"!!! LOL!
But there is a downside---we spend 24/7 together. Its not uncommon for us to unload on each other on the ride home! Thank goodness for my assistant teacher too, someone else besides the hubby to talk to!

[jessrlee]

I also love having Hubs home. He is great at supervising outside time so I can get a break, making lunch, or just giving me a hug and kiss on his way to run errands. I can't wait for him to get home and bug me again!

[Meeko]

My husband is my full partner in our small center. But I AM the Director, so technically I am the boss. Lol! Its great having a guy in child care!!! The little ones from divorced parents really benefit having a good male role model around! Its so funny, just like in families, if they don't get the answer they are looking for from me, they quietly go ask "dad"!!! LOL!
But there is a downside---we spend 24/7 together. Its not uncommon for us to unload on each other on the ride home! Thank goodness for my assistant teacher too, someone else besides the hubby to talk to!

Your set up is a lot like ours! My adult son is my full time assistant...but it used to be my husband (he's the stay at home parent for our younger daughters now!) and we loved working together. My husband would tell people he can kiss his boss and it's OK!!!

Our day care parents love having a man around too. A good role model is so important for the kids who don't have a father around. My husband and my son are so good with the kids. My husband has been known to round up all our day care boys on a Saturday morning and take them to play ball at the local park. They don't have dad's around and it means the world to them.

Have you ever had anyone turn their noses up at your situation? Over the years I have had a few moms who swear they won't leave their kids with a male. Sad really...I think it's great for the kids.

[sharlan]

My husband has always been good with the kids. They used to love it when he came home from work and sat on the sofa with a big bucket of popcorn or cheese and crackers to share. They would all just curl up around him..

It was great this year because he could go pick up the 5 yo from K and I wouldn't have to load up and go.

But, I'm off my routine when he's here. Things just don't flow as smoothly for me.

[SandeeAR]

I LOVE when my DH comes home. He is the kids Play Toy! He has been working 7 days a week since July 4th, 2010, yep nearly a year now. In that time he has been off a total of 8 days. (Long story, he is a mgr that has been without an asst for a year).

The kids love him so and their time with him has been limited, so when when he comes home, he plays with them almost everyday. They LOVE it.

[Childminder]

My DH has been my assistant for about three years now. At first It was an adjustment and I tried to keep the kids away from him as much as possible. He sat and watched tv or surfed the internet alllll dayyyyyyy longgggggg! If I had a screamer he would irritate the he!! out of me not by telling me the kid was screaming but getting in the kids face and loudly telling them"hey, your crying, don't cry, your hurtin our ears...." Thought he was helping

After a few months I helped deliver (I'm a doula) a sibling to a boy I had in care and after that I just I just started handing the baby to DH when I was busy taking care of the others or fixing lunch or whatever. He ended up spoiling the baby and has become my assistant.

It has gotten to the point where I count on him and miss when he's not here. He is the one that takes the kids outside each day and controls the kids when I am busy. As much as I wish he could find a job and help financially I love that he's here.

[Sugar Magnolia]

Your set up is a lot like ours! My adult son is my full time assistant...but it used to be my husband (he's the stay at home parent for our younger daughters now!) and we loved working together. My husband would tell people he can kiss his boss and it's OK!!!

Our day care parents love having a man around too. A good role model is so important for the kids who don't have a father around. My husband and my son are so good with the kids. My husband has been known to round up all our day care boys on a Saturday morning and take them to play ball at the local park. They don't have dad's around and it means the world to them.

Have you ever had anyone turn their noses up at your situation? Over the years I have had a few moms who swear they won't leave their kids with a male. Sad really...I think it's great for the kids.

We DO sound a lot alike! Husbands rock! Kids love 'em! I'm not sure if I've had people turn their noses up, if so, they never stated it was because of him.... If people did that to you, then they are not very smart or close-minded. Their loss Meeko!