Do You Hate It When Your Husband Is Home During Daycare Hours?

[youretooloud]

My husband was sick yesterday. He's fine today, but took the day off anyway.

I have a screamer.

He just came out to tell me "That baby is screaming".

"Really? I hadn't noticed it.... she's only sitting on my back, screaming three inches from my ear... but, thanks for letting me know.... Captain freaking Obvious".

*yes, he just made me mad*

Apparently, he's chosen right now to have a nap, and the kids are too loud.

[Sunshine44]

Oh yes, I feel your pain. My husband tells me stuff like I do not know it. So in so is crying. Yep. I hear them too. haha. Or So in so is playing with books. Yep, I see them, it's allowed. Someone stinks, yep. That is why I'm changing their diapers right now! Men!

[sharlan]

Ohhhhhhhhhh, yes. I can feel your pain. Mine has been out of work for a year now. He just started working part time and I love it.

[daycare]

My husband is great with the kids....EXCEPT one kid...the kid is severly ADHD and when the kid gets to a point of no return, my husband will just leave and go to the gym for 2-3 hours. Which works out ok, because by the time the child reaches point of no return, its already 3:30.

[dEHmom]

yes, i dread the days dh is home when he isn't supposed to be. ruins my groove.

[safechner]

I know how that feel. I don't hate for my husband to stay home while I run a daycare in my home. My husband will not sit in the house and he will do something to work in the garage or whatever he wants. A few months ago, he was sick and he stayed in her room and locked the door. It doesn't bother him since dcg always screamed. I guess he is getting used to it, who knows.

[countrymom]

mine works days, I just don't need another child added to my mix.

[wdmmom]

My hubby has only stayed home 2 days in the last 4 years and he was truly sick. He spent his days upstairs in the bedroom. Other than having to run after him every hour to refill his drink, get him more tissues, get him his pills or more food, it wasn't too awful.

The day he stays home and thinks he's gonna veg, he better think again!

[littlemissmuffet]

mine works days, I just don't need another child added to my mix.

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My hubs is fantastic with the kids. But it can be disruptive when he is home and has things to do that are not daycare related because the kids all like to hang off of him and be wherever he is when he's home and they get upset when he needs to be doing something sans kids. Otherwise, I like it when he's home because we usually get to have a "family" day... and I can usually sneak in a nap or real break.

[meganlavonnesmommy]

ABSOLUTELY HATE IT! He usually hides in the computer room, or our bedroom and watches tv. Then its not so bad. But if he is doing stuff around the house, it drives me nuts. He has NO concept of being quiet during naptime. He goes in and out of the house, slamming the door shut. He leaves his crap all over so the DC kids get into it. He leaves his shoes, coat, motorcycle helmet, papers, whatever all over, and they put on his shoes, helmet, play with the papers, etc.

Thank GOD he is at work most days!

[NiNi.R.]

ugh men!

I used to dread my husband being home. He is great with kids but would constantly give me unwanted input on things I should do as well as be captain obvious. I'd get so annoyed and tell him I have been doing this for 5 years I have a system that works..help or go away. So when I found out he would start working nights and be home all day I was terrified I would go crazy. But I guess he must get it now cuz its turned out to not be near as bad as i thought it would.

[Unregistered]

mine works days, I just don't need another child added to my mix.

I agree! My husband is a total pain when he is around. Watches tv, in my way all morning, not quiet at nap, my son gets all worked up and no longer follows "daycare" rules when he is home, he leaves his junk all over and basically bothers me the whole time. I am so glad he is RARELY HOME when I am working.

Maybe I should do all these things at his office once and see if he notices.

[jodi]

My husband is great with the kids - very patient - says hi and gives them "high fives" every day. He helps when I'm making lunch, etc. BUT... he talks baby talk to them and it totally drives me crazy. When we are outside I try so hard to get them to play, they don't know how - because they are always right by my side - its always ''' go play"" "go play". When hubby is there he encourages their clingyness by continually talking to them. That doesn't sound nice - what I mean is my kids don't play - they stand there and stare at me. If they do play and stop every minute and attempt to get constant positive affirmations for everything they do. ( Yes... I KNOW you know that is a bird...you are 3 years old ... you don't need to hear "good job" because you say the word "bird". When hubby is there its... "Oh YES...that IS a BIRD...good for you..."
AHHHHH

[jen]

Here's the secret to either making that stop, or getting a little help...

Every time hubby points out the obvious say, "Oh, thanks for getting that! I could use a hand."

He will either help or shut up.

[kidkair]

I must be very lucky. My husband knew very little about kids and interacting with them when we met. He has learned everything about the ways he interacts with them from me. When I see him doing something I don't particularly like (usually tone of voice or phrasing) I pay close attention to how I interact with the kids and he adjusts to what he sees me doing. He is absolutely wonderful with them and will correct me sometimes if I'm having a bad day and being short with the kids. He works sleeper shifts at group homes so he's home and awake most days. I love it! He does all the shopping we need, he fixes things around the house, he does dishes and kitchen clean up after meals, he helps bring out food for picnics, he goes on walks with us most days, and after work we can spend time together. I actually dislike days he's out all day and I have to do the kitchen stuff because it takes time away from the kids or from my down time during nap time.