Own Kids Vs Daycare Kids

[WImom]

When mine where here in my childcare I treated them like all the other kids. Now that they are school age they have a choice. Stay out of the daycare and do your own thing or join us but then your getting what we have for snack, etc.

They have to choose in the morning and stick with it.

[DCMom]

My kids got no special privileges. I was probably a lot tougher on them than the dck's because I knew they were raised a certain way and I had specific expectations for them as their parent. However, I do give "treats" out to some dck's and not others when it is deserved. If one child earned a treat, it doesn't mean everyone gets one too. I don't put a sticker on everyones reward chart just because Billy went potty.....kwim?

I agree. When I moved the daycare exclusively to the basement, then they got to be upstairs alone, hang in their rooms, watch something 'non-daycare' tv, have something different for lunch, etc. BUT they also were 8 and older, had grown up in daycare and certainly knew my expectations of them in relationship to the daycare kids. They would never even THINK to eat an ice cream treat in front of the daycare kids. That is just mean and meant to hurt feelings.

As a mom, I would be pissed that my kids were being subjected to that and I would be looking for a new provider.

Treat others the way that you would like to be treated, it's as simple as that.

[dEHmom]

i keep thinking of that commercial that's on tv for the insurance company or something, where the kid asks for icecream and the guy says no, but a new kid comes in and gets some.

[e.j.]

A friend asked me this yesterday. She was telling me that her provider goes to the local coffee place daily to get herself a coffee drink, but doesn't get the dcks anything because it is "her treat". After school, she stops at McD's to buy her kids ice cream, but not the dcks because "they are her babies and they deserve a treat". The daycare kids are in the car while she enjoys her "treat" and they are in the car when her own kids enjoy their "treat".

As a provider how do you feel about this? As a parent, how would you feel about this?

The kids in my care are treated as though they're my own. I can't imagine treating them any other way and I can't imagine how this woman could do this to the kids in her care and still be able to sleep at night. If my own kids got special treatment, it was after the day care kids went home - never in front of them. I've always thought it was important to treat my day care kids the way I would have wanted my kids to be treated in their day care. As a provider, I feel angry reading about it. As a parent, I would be livid. I wouldn't want my kids in anyone's care who thought this was an okay thing to do.

[jen]

The McDonalds thing is way out of line, but I think the coffee is totally fine. Heck, I do that to my own kids! I also drink diet Coke during the day but I don't give pop to daycare kids or my kids. ALL the kids understand that it's "Jen's drink." I've never had a kid think twice about it.

I would never give my kids a "treat" in front of the other kids. Honestly, I think thats just mean.

[dEHmom]

yes i agree, there are certain things i do or drink/eat that NO KIDS get. except my 3 yo son who will guzzle my coffee if i walk away from it.

but for treats and such, 1 kid would never get something the others didn't, and everything i give is always the same portion size too. no one gets 3 cookies and the other 2. kwim? of course older kids eat more lunch/supper than the babies do, but everyone eats until they are full.

[AmandasFCC]

I would never allow any kind of special treatment for my own children (or anyone else for that matter). If one person gets something special, everyone gets it.

I agree, though I admit, when I stop at Timmies, it's for me and no one else :: Sometimes if I'm feeling generous I'll get them some tim bits but the vast majority of the time I just get a coffee for me.

[WDW]

The coffee thing is kind of different from the ice cream thing. Personally, I don't transport my kids, and live in a small town, so any coffee I drink is from Mr. Coffee. But to me, the coffee is something that kids woudn't want... most kids anyway, so it's not that mean... plus NO kids get it. The ice cream.... that to me would be a reason to pull my child. M E A N mean.

[TBird]

I don't think the coffee is an issue (I tell my own kids that coffee will put hair on their chests, LOL) but the ice cream...now that was just mean.

My own kids would be SO HURT if I treated them to ice cream in front of the daycare kids and didn't offer them any. As it is, my own kids will barely take a SNACK without feeding it to the DCK's!!! I believe in treating my kids but dang...it can be inconspicuous or wait until after 5:30 for heaven's sake!!!

[jen]

Have you ever noticed that when we post anything that supports daycare parents and children that we never hear a peep from our unregistered daycare-hating guest? I just think it is so odd that whoever that is spends so much time on here berating providers, never comments on positive posts, says they will never use a home provider again, and yet continues to troll.

So weird.

[dEHmom]

Have you ever noticed that when we post anything that supports daycare parents and children that we never hear a peep from our unregistered daycare-hating guest? I just think it is so odd that whoever that is spends so much time on here berating providers, never comments on positive posts, says they will never use a home provider again, and yet continues to troll.

So weird.

yes it's just someone trying to rile us all up. i think the best course of action, is to completely ignore those. but EVERYONE needs to be on the same page, and ignore all of those rude unregistered posts that are meant to get us all worked up. maybe they will get bored and leave us all alone

[jen]

I TOTALLY agree!

[Meyou]

Welll.....I go through the Timmie's drivethru almost every morning after I drop my girls at school with two dcg's in the car and I usually just get myself a tea. However, they get a snack when we get home and I get timbits about once a week for them. They ask everyday, "Is today a timbit day??" haha

But overall....well behaved children get treats and naughty boys and girls don't get treats at my house. It doesn't matter if I incubated you or not.

[anabel]

I do treat my kids differently to daycare kids, they are my kids and they are different! I treat them differently in that they have much more freedom than the children I care for, because this is their home and they have the full run of their own home whereas dck's do not. I love my dck's and treat them with great love, but my own children are just that, my own. I need them to know they are special to me, and different to the other children in our lives.

I would not, however, dream of giving my own children a treat like an icecream in front of my dck's and denying the other kids the same treat. That's just unkind. I treat my own a little differently, but I do not treat daycare kids unkindly just to make my own feel special. I make all the kids feel special.

[SilverSabre25]

My kids get lots of priveleges the dcks do not get. The McDonald's ice cream in front of the dcks is really rude though. That seems mean. That I definitely would not do.

This, exactly.

My DD's special privileges all happen out of sight and knowledge of the dcks. She does not nap, so she gets a lot of different treatment then.

The coffee is not a problem for me though, 'cause I drink Coke, coffee, etc sometimes and the dcks and even my own DD can't have them. I don't think it's a problem for kids to grow up understanding that sometimes grown-ups get treats that kids don't get.