Mom Cried When I Told Her 2 Year Old Cannot Have Bottle

[littlemommy]

If you have been following my previous posts on this kid, you know that my food program lady said I cannot give this 2 year old a bottle. If he wants rice cereal, it must be from a bowl with a spoon. Milk must be from a sippy cup.

I told his mother last night at pick up that the food program lady said that. Her response was "What?! Not even if I bring it?!" I said "No, I'm sorry. That is their rules and I don't want to get in trouble with them." With tears in her eyes, she said that they've been wanting to get him to drink from a regular cup but the bottle is "so much easier." How is a bottle easier than a cup?! You put liquid in both of them and hand em over.

I said that he doesn't even drink from them at my house, just chews on them and that is bad on his teeth. She said "okay" and walked out. She had tears in her eyes and her voice was shaky.

[nannyde]

What difference does it make whether or not he can have it at your house if he doesn't drink it?

I have a big suspicion that she is putting some sweet in the bottle with his bottles at home.

Can you tell me the hours the child is there and if he eats or drinks anything during that time?

How is his weight and how sickly is he?

[cheerfuldom]

Its easier because she can treat him like a baby for longer and he isn't required to learn anything new. You did the right thing though and its whats best for this little guy.

[Live and Learn]

In the previous thread she said four days a week. Tues thru Fri. 10-4:30.

[littlemommy]

What difference does it make whether or not he can have it at your house if he doesn't drink it?

I have a big suspicion that she is putting some sweet in the bottle with his bottles at home.

Can you tell me the hours the child is there and if he eats or drinks anything during that time?

How is his weight and how sickly is he?

Hes in my home T-F 10-4:30. He has never eaten a bite of food in my care. Mom says that he eats at home. He has 3-4 poopy diapers DAILY in my care, which is NOT telling me he is fed solid food at home. It's not normal poop for a solid food eater. Sorry if TMI but it's really runny. He will sometimes drink milk for me (from a cup) but maybe once a week.

I have smelled the milk in the bottles. They usually smell like regular milk with rice cereal. The cereal is obvious because it is grainy in the nipple.

Not sure his weight, but he doesn't weigh much more than my 16 month old. As previously mentioned, he does not talk or try to communicate, doesn't play with toys or other kids, screams when anyone gets close to him, screams when he gets here and when his parents come to pick him up. Constantly drooly (and not teething, he has all of his teeth that he should have) doesn't make eye contact, doesn't listen to simple commands, ignores me when I say his name.

[SilverSabre25]

Hes in my home T-F 10-4:30. He has never eaten a bite of food in my care. Mom says that he eats at home. He has 3-4 poopy diapers DAILY in my care, which is NOT telling me he is fed solid food at home. It's not normal poop for a solid food eater. Sorry if TMI but it's really runny. He will sometimes drink milk for me (from a cup) but maybe once a week.

I have smelled the milk in the bottles. They usually smell like regular milk with rice cereal. The cereal is obvious because it is grainy in the nipple.

Not sure his weight, but he doesn't weigh much more than my 16 month old. As previously mentioned, he does not talk or try to communicate, doesn't play with toys or other kids, screams when anyone gets close to him, screams when he gets here and when his parents come to pick him up. Constantly drooly (and not teething, he has all of his teeth that he should have) doesn't make eye contact, doesn't listen to simple commands, ignores me when I say his name.

My goodness... this child needs an evaluation by a professional, ASAP. Feeding issues aside, he has some serious delays, whether he's several autistic or there's something else cognitive going on. I wonder if you could insist that the parents get him evaluated and if they don't, report them for medical neglect? Are you licensed, can you call your liscensor or someone and ask about what you can do about an obviously delayed child whose parents are shoving their heads in the sand?

[Unregistered]

re: Mom cried

I feel sad for this child. Something seems to be going on. Have they had him evaluated? I apologize for not reading previous threads if this has been answered. This must be hard on the parents considering the things you have described.

[cheerfuldom]

after all those other details, it sounds like something is seriously wrong. I am kinda shocked that you are putting up with all of this too. All that crying, digestive issues and social issues sounds like too much for me.

[momma2girls]

I added something like this to my contract a couple of yrs. ago.
At age 1- I will supply all food, snacks, milk, and sippee cup(you can bring your own sippee cup if you prefer to)

[littlemommy]

I feel sad for this child. Something seems to be going on. Have they had him evaluated? I apologize for not reading previous threads if this has been answered. This must be hard on the parents considering the things you have described.

My licensing lady said that if I think he is neglected I should call in to the hotline. She also said to maybe wait a while after he is not having the bottle and see if his eating habits straighten out.

I'm a little hesitant about asking the parents about autism or having him evaluated. They have kinda weird parenting styles and are just weird people themselves. I think they would be the type to be highly offended and just leave if I say anything. They act like he interacts with them a lot at home. His dad always says how excited he is to play at home and how happy he is. Maybe it's just here that he isn't happy? You would think at 2 years old he would show SOME interest in SOMETHING?!

[littlemommy]

I added something like this to my contract a couple of yrs. ago.
At age 1- I will supply all food, snacks, milk, and sippee cup(you can bring your own sippee cup if you prefer to)

I revised mine and added something similar, except that I'd prefer they don't bring them. It is a lot to keep track of if every kid brings a cup..and causes jealousy issues.

[nannyde]

could they be giving him mixed grain cereal instead of rice?

[blueclouds29]

I have a 15 month old and mom said she doesn't care how long he's on the bottle. She even warms the milk for him at night! I'm done trying cause its a waste of my time if all he gets at home is a bottle. He's refusing the sippy altogether now. He just had his one year check up and the Dr. said to be off the bottle by the end of the month. So she said, i don't care he can stay on it as long as he wants... Umm who's the parent??? Obviously its the baby!

[Live and Learn]

I'm done trying cause its a waste of my time if all he gets at home is a bottle!

:confused: So the doc said be done with the bottle by the end of the month and BOTH YOU AND THE MOM are still giving the bottle? Hmmm?:confused:

IMO You should be doing what is best for the child no matter what the lazy mom does at home.

BTDT.

[nannyde]

. Feeding issues aside, he has some serious delays

Good post Silver

The thing is that you can't look at it with the feeding issues aside because if they don't eat and digest what they are eating you can get a TON of delays physically, behaviorally, developmentally.

It's like what comes first... the chicken or the egg kind of thinking.

I wish he could come to me