Daycare Family is Leaving, I'm So Relieved, But WHY Do I Feel So Sad and Hurt??

[Meeko]

It's one thing to not agree and have a debate, but quite another to name call, etc - if you do this to adults, what do you teach the children in your care? You should be ashamed of yourself. I'm glad that the OP clarified to me that she did warn them that she was thinking termination. I just think the expectations should be realistic on both sides when the relationship comes to an end. I think many of you could use the other side of the story sometimes. Just because I don't get paid doing childcare for a living doesn't mean I don't have any experience. Come on, there's one lady who only has one child all week that posts on this forum. I watch more kids than that!

And to answer the OP questions, it does matter whether a family gets termed or quits. I've followed threads on here where providers have said it does. Some providers said that they check references every time and won't accept a child who was termed. Almost no one can afford a nanny.

Sorry...bad day yesterday.....very bad mood....(airlines left my elderly parents stuck in the airport for 24 hours). I do however think you need to be more sensitive to the fact that most of us on here do this for a LIVING. There IS a big difference in that and babysitting for friends. Our stress levels can be through the roof sometimes, even though we mostly love what we do.

Remember that a lot of the posts here were written by women who had just been disrespected, let down and are tired of the BS or have a problem that is frustrating them. Our posts may sometimes come across as less than 100% professional.

However...those of us who DO THIS FOR A LIVING......UNDERSTAND that. You seem to expect us to never "lose it". Sorry....but that's why I love this forum! I CAN "lose it" and know that others know EXACTLY how I feel and can sympathize!

I am VERY professional with my business clients. You don't have a successful business for 25 years without being so!

This is my let loose and unwind place. If you cannot see where we are coming from, then it just proves that you really do not understand our jobs...the joys and the tears. We don't come here to necessarily be schooled and trained. We come to give and take friendly advise and ideas. We get schooling from CCRR and licensing.

Sometimes we just want to rant! That's OK! We don't need to be ashamed of ourselves and call each other unprofessional! I refuse to believe that you have never ranted and raved in the heat of the moment in your job..

I'm sorry I called you a troll....but is DOES seem that many of your posts are preachy. None of us are perfect. I like that. It makes me feel like I am not alone. If I had come to this forum and only heard "training" type advise....I would never have come back. Fact is, I found some friends in what can be a very lonely job.

[MyAngels]

Sorry...bad day yesterday.....very bad mood....(airlines left my elderly parents stuck in the airport for 24 hours). I do however think you need to be more sensitive to the fact that most of us on here do this for a LIVING. There IS a big difference in that and babysitting for friends. Our stress levels can be through the roof sometimes, even though we mostly love what we do.

Remember that a lot of the posts here were written by women who had just been disrespected, let down and are tired of the BS or have a problem that is frustrating them. Our posts may sometimes come across as less than 100% professional.

However...those of us who DO THIS FOR A LIVING......UNDERSTAND that. You seem to expect us to never "lose it". Sorry....but that's why I love this forum! I CAN "lose it" and know that others know EXACTLY how I feel and can sympathize!

I am VERY professional with my business clients. You don't have a successful business for 25 years without being so!

This is my let loose and unwind place. If you cannot see where we are coming from, then it just proves that you really do not understand our jobs...the joys and the tears. We don't come here to necessarily be schooled and trained. We come to give and take friendly advise and ideas. We get schooling from CCRR and licensing.

Sometimes we just want to rant! That's OK! We don't need to be ashamed of ourselves and call each other unprofessional! I refuse to believe that you have never ranted and raved in the heat of the moment in your job..

I'm sorry I called you a troll....but is DOES seem that many of your posts are preachy. None of us are perfect. I like that. It makes me feel like I am not alone. If I had come to this forum and only heard "training" type advise....I would never have come back. Fact is, I found some friends in what can be a very lonely job.

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[Lilbutterflie]

Sorry...bad day yesterday.....very bad mood....(airlines left my elderly parents stuck in the airport for 24 hours). I do however think you need to be more sensitive to the fact that most of us on here do this for a LIVING. There IS a big difference in that and babysitting for friends. Our stress levels can be through the roof sometimes, even though we mostly love what we do.

Remember that a lot of the posts here were written by women who had just been disrespected, let down and are tired of the BS or have a problem that is frustrating them. Our posts may sometimes come across as less than 100% professional.

However...those of us who DO THIS FOR A LIVING......UNDERSTAND that. You seem to expect us to never "lose it". Sorry....but that's why I love this forum! I CAN "lose it" and know that others know EXACTLY how I feel and can sympathize!

I am VERY professional with my business clients. You don't have a successful business for 25 years without being so!

This is my let loose and unwind place. If you cannot see where we are coming from, then it just proves that you really do not understand our jobs...the joys and the tears. We don't come here to necessarily be schooled and trained. We come to give and take friendly advise and ideas. We get schooling from CCRR and licensing.

Sometimes we just want to rant! That's OK! We don't need to be ashamed of ourselves and call each other unprofessional! I refuse to believe that you have never ranted and raved in the heat of the moment in your job..

I'm sorry I called you a troll....but is DOES seem that many of your posts are preachy. None of us are perfect. I like that. It makes me feel like I am not alone. If I had come to this forum and only heard "training" type advise....I would never have come back. Fact is, I found some friends in what can be a very lonely job.

Very well said, Meeko!

[e.j.]

Ditto - you and her shouldn't comment either unless you've been the customer at a daycare full time either and if you can't see and acknowledge both sides of a debate. That's what makes sucessful businesses - the ability to empathize and see both sides of situations. Obviously the OP and the rest of you aren't thinking of how the family feels. It would have been fine if the family had been termed but since they are happy going elsewhere, that makes them disrespectful? Can't have it both ways. I have plenty of childcare experience, thank you, so I will continue to comment. I still say she should make it a positive transition experience. And no, I don't think it's normal for her to feel bad, especially after her ongoing threads about this child and how she was going to term him. Almost no one seems to see that side and yet the family is still wrong - you all would have sided with this provider regardless of whether the family quit or she termed them. Customer service training anyone?

Well, speaking as a current day care provider (over 15 years), a former day care parent (3 years) and former customer service rep/ supervisor/trainer (over 20 years).... I would say that the feelings the OP expressed seem pretty normal to me. I'm sure she will help the kids make as positive a transition as possible but it's understandable that she would feel hurt and that she would experience mixed feelings at the prospect of losing this family. She was frustrated by the one child's behavior but enjoyed the other 2 siblings. She also worked hard to help this family work to improve the troubled boy's behavior. It's frustrating when you put that kind of effort into helping a family and they not only leave but make you feel as though your efforts weren't appreciated. I can easily understand why she feels the way she does and why she would use this message board to vent a little.

Sorry...bad day yesterday.....very bad mood....(airlines left my elderly parents stuck in the airport for 24 hours). I do however think you need to be more sensitive to the fact that most of us on here do this for a LIVING. There IS a big difference in that and babysitting for friends. Our stress levels can be through the roof sometimes, even though we mostly love what we do.

Remember that a lot of the posts here were written by women who had just been disrespected, let down and are tired of the BS or have a problem that is frustrating them. Our posts may sometimes come across as less than 100% professional.

However...those of us who DO THIS FOR A LIVING......UNDERSTAND that. You seem to expect us to never "lose it". Sorry....but that's why I love this forum! I CAN "lose it" and know that others know EXACTLY how I feel and can sympathize!

I am VERY professional with my business clients. You don't have a successful business for 25 years without being so!

This is my let loose and unwind place. If you cannot see where we are coming from, then it just proves that you really do not understand our jobs...the joys and the tears. We don't come here to necessarily be schooled and trained. We come to give and take friendly advise and ideas. We get schooling from CCRR and licensing.

Sometimes we just want to rant! That's OK! We don't need to be ashamed of ourselves and call each other unprofessional! I refuse to believe that you have never ranted and raved in the heat of the moment in your job..

I'm sorry I called you a troll....but is DOES seem that many of your posts are preachy. None of us are perfect. I like that. It makes me feel like I am not alone. If I had come to this forum and only heard "training" type advise....I would never have come back. Fact is, I found some friends in what can be a very lonely job.

Very well said. Hopefully your parents are doing okay now.