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No one in my care is allowed to be friends or "best friends". Boys don't just play with boys or play with just boy toys. I don't separate toys based on gender and I don't permit the children not to play with someone because of gender.
It makes me so sad to hear that this behavior is still going on.
The kids don't need to hear about it. They need to be kids and play and have fun and not worry about when lunch is or whether Johnny is playing with Sarah or if Matthew is best friends with Johnny or if Johnny likes to play dolls more than trucks. It's all nonsense!
As the provider, you have the opportunity to stop what happens at your house. If the parents don't get along, maybe it's time to tell them to go circle the block until Family 1 leaves. If the kids discuss "best friend" or "you're not my friend", put a stop to it. Everyone is friends with everyone and everyone is treated fairly.
I realize there is only so much you can do, but you HAVE to do this for your own sanity! As for the rest, eliminate yourself from the situation. Tell the parents you won't stand for discussions taking place at arrival/departures. If they wish to discuss something, they must make an appointment. And, tell them that they are welcome to talk with or to other parents...just not on your doorstep.
Once the kids come in in the morning, nip the attitude in the bud. When they depart for the day, shut off. Go into family mode. Don't discuss work, check emails or take phone calls.
I originally posted sending an email. If you haven't, I would...NOW!
No more Mrs Nice Lady! Get nasty and let them know you mean business!!!
It makes me so sad to hear that this behavior is still going on.
The kids don't need to hear about it. They need to be kids and play and have fun and not worry about when lunch is or whether Johnny is playing with Sarah or if Matthew is best friends with Johnny or if Johnny likes to play dolls more than trucks. It's all nonsense! As the provider, you have the opportunity to stop what happens at your house. If the parents don't get along, maybe it's time to tell them to go circle the block until Family 1 leaves. If the kids discuss "best friend" or "you're not my friend", put a stop to it. Everyone is friends with everyone and everyone is treated fairly.
I realize there is only so much you can do, but you HAVE to do this for your own sanity! As for the rest, eliminate yourself from the situation. Tell the parents you won't stand for discussions taking place at arrival/departures. If they wish to discuss something, they must make an appointment. And, tell them that they are welcome to talk with or to other parents...just not on your doorstep.
Once the kids come in in the morning, nip the attitude in the bud. When they depart for the day, shut off. Go into family mode. Don't discuss work, check emails or take phone calls.
I originally posted sending an email. If you haven't, I would...NOW!
No more Mrs Nice Lady! Get nasty and let them know you mean business!!!
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