Personal Vent So Mad I Could Cry

[PitterPatter]

I wouldn't cancel your plans if u have to lose money. I would take my child with me if I couldnt find anyone else. Before u even look I would discuss this with your in laws as it is their home not the SIL. If they take her side I would be done with them all. Oh after I tell the SIL that she needs to grow up and find a home of her own!

I hate to be so blunt but I don't know how else to say it right now, I think that is totally ****ty of them to do to u the last minute! Sorry I had inlaws that were like this and it is partially why I am a single Mom now!

[daycare]

I wouldn't cancel your plans if u have to lose money. I would take my child with me if I couldnt find anyone else. Before u even look I would discuss this with your in laws as it is their home not the SIL. If they take her side I would be done with them all. Oh after I tell the SIL that she needs to grow up and find a home of her own!

I hate to be so blunt but I don't know how else to say it right now, I think that is totally ****ty of them to do to u the last minute! Sorry I had inlaws that were like this and it is partially why I am a single Mom now!

My husband I come from two totally different back grounds he asian and I am from egypt. We were both born in our home countries, but grew up most of our lives in the states... There is something to be said about his parents and they way that they think that I cant figure out and often get upset about it, but can't really do too much to change anything.

I guess it's just a matter of being understanding of different cultures....

BTW this may have been horrible of me, but i told the SIL that maybe she should go stay at her MIL house if she does not want to risk getting sick from an UNsick child. is that horrible of me? I think I may have started a war oh no

[AnythingsPossible]

Have you actually spoken with your MIL or has this all been through texts and phone calls with you, your husband and SIL? I would call you MIL and speak to her, tell her about the money you will be losing if you have to cancel, how much you and your husband need this time away together, and point out that she saw your son and he obviously isn't extremly ill.

Tell her if you don't get to go on your trip, she may have both her children living at home with her

[daycare]

Have you actually spoken with your MIL or has this all been through texts and phone calls with you, your husband and SIL? I would call you MIL and speak to her, tell her about the money you will be losing if you have to cancel, how much you and your husband need this time away together, and point out that she saw your son and he obviously isn't extremly ill.

Tell her if you don't get to go on your trip, she may have both her children living at home with her

that last sentence would not be a threat, that would be her dream come true. Yes huge mama's boy.

SO guess what....my girlfriend is going to cancle her hair appt on saturday and come stay the weekend at my house. She was so mad when I told her. She is 41 and has never had any kids of her own, so she is super excited. I have asked my 15 year old son not to stay at his friends house the entire time just in case my friend needs the help with my little guy.....


I think I have done a great job of biting my tongue. Trust me, this is not the first time something like this happened with the SIL or In-Laws...

I am so done with all of them right now...I just want to get to my weekend....
Ugh and now I do have a sick kid here and am sending one home...... OOOHHHHH BOY

[tulip1969]

It sounds to me like this is what happened:
Sister-in-law has no life
She is jelous that you are taking a trip
She hears your son has a runny nose
tells you he can't be watched by her mother because "she doesn't want him getting her daughter sick"

Now.....
Has anyone spoken to the mother-in-law? This is your husbands job not yours. Tell him to speak to his mother. He should ask her why she is totally suporting his sister and he needs a favor from her and she won't do it. My mother-in-law is a piece of work so I know all about this type scenario. I try to have my husband deal with her so I do not have to. Unfortunately this has resulted in health problems for him (severe ulcers) and we now keep our distance whenever possible so he doesn't have another flair up.

[daycare]

It sounds to me like this is what happened:
Sister-in-law has no life
She is jelous that you are taking a trip
She hears your son has a runny nose
tells you he can't be watched by her mother because "she doesn't want him getting her daughter sick"

Now.....
Has anyone spoken to the mother-in-law? This is your husbands job not yours. Tell him to speak to his mother. He should ask her why she is totally suporting his sister and he needs a favor from her and she won't do it. My mother-in-law is a piece of work so I know all about this type scenario. I try to have my husband deal with her so I do not have to. Unfortunately this has resulted in health problems for him (severe ulcers) and we now keep our distance whenever possible so he doesn't have another flair up.

I guess my husband did talk to his mom, but nothing came of it...
Im over it, I am lucky my friend is going to come stay at my house to watch him.

I get upset at my In-laws all the time. They live 25 min away and they NEVER come to see my son. They only have two grandkids the one that lives with them and mine. It's just sad because my son will never get to know his grandparents. The saddest part is that my parents live in another country and see my son more than my IN-laws do.

I think that the last time they were he was 4th of July.................

[sharlan]

SIL doesn't want your son there because then she and her child won't be the center of attention.

It's nice that your friend is stepping up and helping you out.

[daycare]

I think u hit the nail on the head.
Sad thT adults act this way

[youretooloud]

I guess my husband did talk to his mom, but nothing came of it...
Im over it, I am lucky my friend is going to come stay at my house to watch him.

I get upset at my In-laws all the time. They live 25 min away and they NEVER come to see my son. They only have two grandkids the one that lives with them and mine. It's just sad because my son will never get to know his grandparents. The saddest part is that my parents live in another country and see my son more than my IN-laws do.

I think that the last time they were he was 4th of July.................

It is sad... but, in the long run, it's best. My cousin was the favorite kid. We all knew she was. We were the others. My grandparents tried to be fair. If they gave Kelly a gift, they sent us basically the same thing.

But, still we weren't the favorite. I would not have wanted to spend a whole weekend without my mom in my grandparents house... because we WEREN'T the favorites... we were a bother to them. We were in trouble a lot, but Kelly never was, even if it was her idea.

My other grandmother... we were ALL her favorites! You could ask any one of my cousins right now, and each one would claim to be Grandma's favorite. She adored us all equally! I loved going to her house, because she really loved having us there. We were the light of her life.

[SilverSabre25]

daycare, that really ****s, I'm sorry you have to deal with that. IL issues are awful and frustrating. Glad to hear that you have a friend who's got your back though! Bring her something really nice from your trip, and enjoy!

[daycare]

It is sad... but, in the long run, it's best. My cousin was the favorite kid. We all knew she was. We were the others. My grandparents tried to be fair. If they gave Kelly a gift, they sent us basically the same thing.

But, still we weren't the favorite. I would not have wanted to spend a whole weekend without my mom in my grandparents house... because we WEREN'T the favorites... we were a bother to them. We were in trouble a lot, but Kelly never was, even if it was her idea.

My other grandmother... we were ALL her favorites! You could ask any one of my cousins right now, and each one would claim to be Grandma's favorite. She adored us all equally! I loved going to her house, because she really loved having us there. We were the light of her life.

I know what you mean....the funny part is that my SIL claims that my husband is the favorite and he always get what he wants... the get what he wants part is true, but it is obvious that they rather be with thier grand daughter than my son.

I wish there was a way to have it all equal, but I know I can't change them.

I am nervous about going on my trip now that things have changed, I hope my little guy does not give my friend a hard time.. he can me a monster some times... but then again cant they all...