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  • daycare
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    • Feb 2011
    • 16259

    Personal Vent So Mad I Could Cry

    So this weekend my husband and I are going away for out 10th year anni!

    We have had this weekend planned for almost 3 months. We are going to go to carmel by the sea. If any of you know the place, you will know that it is a very nice place to visit.

    Our plan is that our 3 year old is going to stay the weekend with our In -Laws, our only famliy near by that can watch him.


    So my son (3yr old) came down with a slight cold this past weekend, just now getting to the tail end of it. So my MIL just stopped by becuase she was in the area for work. She wanted to drop off some stuff for my son. 10 minutes after she leaves i get a text msg from my SIL. (she lives with the in-laws and also has a 3year old girl) The text msg says:

    My mom told me that XX is sick and I don't want you guys to bring him over here this weekend becuase he will get my daughter sick!

    i respond that he is not sick, that he is just getting over a cold, no runny nose, no fever, but slight cough, he is suffering from allergies as well. Which the cough could linger for days to come.

    She then goes on to say, well I am planning a trip to San Diego next week to meet my firends and I don't want to take the chance of any of us getting sick.

    So I forward all the text to my husband and tell him to deal with it, I am trying to deal with the kids.

    10 min later my husband calls really mad and says my sister doesn't want us to bring our kid to the In-laws this weekend so that we can't go on our trip.
    So it looks like we are going to have to cancel our plans...

    I am so upset. I can't believe how selfish my SIL is. So I ask my husband, well if she is so worried that her daughter is going to get sick, maybe your parents can come spend the weekend over here at our house and watch our son. Husband calls back and says NO, his parents don't want to do that becuase who will watch the niece. yes my SIL has no parenting responsibility to her child at all.

    So I call the hotel to cancel and they inform me that there is a 48 hour cancellation policy and we will loose our money for the first night, but get half back for the second night. That means we will lose $750.00........

    So now I am trying to figure this all out... I don't want to lose the money and I don't want to lose the trip. I guess if it comes down to it, my son goes with us....ugh

    I am so upset and so mad.........I want to say something, but I am so mad right now the only things that I would say are things i will regret later.

    thanks for letting me vent.................wish the weekend was over
  • mac60
    Advanced Daycare.com Member
    • May 2008
    • 1610

    #2
    So why is the sil running the parents lives. ugg, I would call the mom in law, let her know the child is NOT sick and that you will be bringing him. I hate people who think they are always in control.

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    • daycare
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      • Feb 2011
      • 16259

      #3
      Originally posted by mac60
      So why is the sil running the parents lives. ugg, I would call the mom in law, let her know the child is NOT sick and that you will be bringing him. I hate people who think they are always in control.
      My SIL has NEVER moved out of her parents house. She is 37 years old and has done nothing with her life...Her lazy POS husband lives there too...

      I dont want to call my MIL becuase it seems like she is the one who started this fire....

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      • wdmmom
        Advanced Daycare.com
        • Mar 2011
        • 2713

        #4
        Take your son to the doctor and get a note. Then shove it in your SIL's face and go on your trip! ::::::::

        Tell her you didn't realize that a cold was SOOO severe, being's you are the childcare provider and all and other kids have been around him with no sign of illness.

        Tell her to **** it up and shut up and enjoy your mini-vaca!

        PS...It's not HER house so for her to say that would go in one ear and out the other and if she still has an issue, tell her she can cough up the $750 you'll be out!

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        • MN Day Mom
          Daycare.com Member
          • Mar 2011
          • 246

          #5
          That totally ****s. I would have dh call his mother and say "Seriously?"

          Do you have a friend or another relative that could possibly help you out??

          So sorry... hope this gets worked out for you!

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          • Crystal
            Advanced Daycare.com Member
            • Dec 2009
            • 4002

            #6
            oh, yes, I'd be pissed too. I LOVE Carmel....we visit there often.

            Tell hubby to insist with his parents or you are going alone You sil sounds like a real gem

            If I wasn't going out of town I'd offer to keep him for you.

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            • sahm1225
              Advanced Daycare.com Member
              • Jun 2010
              • 2060

              #7
              do you think your mil really started the fire? Or could she just have said a comment about how his nose is running?

              Can you just take your DS with you? Do you have other family nearby? I wish you lived closer and we knew each other because I would offer to just take your DS for the weekend..

              Just take a deep breath. Things will work out

              HUGS!

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              • JJPlaycare
                Daycare.com Member
                • Apr 2010
                • 292

                #8
                Have your in laws come watch him at your house!!! : )

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                • daycare
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                  • Feb 2011
                  • 16259

                  #9
                  I asked that and they said NO.....

                  I wish it were as easy to tell my In-laws that I don't care what my SIL says, but as you can see they are under her eveil spell..

                  I think the note thing sounds good, I will ask my hubsnad to take him tomorrow since he has it off....thanks for that idea

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                  • momofsix
                    Advanced Daycare.com Member
                    • Oct 2009
                    • 1846

                    #10
                    Oh how frustrating for you, I'm so sorry. I think I'd just take your son along with you and not even deal anymore with the in-laws. Is this the same sil that has the child that watches tv all day? If so, your son would be better off not going there anyhow. (((hugs)))

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                    • MamaBear
                      Daycare.com Member
                      • Dec 2010
                      • 665

                      #11
                      Carmel

                      That really ****s. I hope you can find a replacement sitter!! I'm from Carmel originally. Born & raised there. Beautiful place so I hope you can get there!!! If I still lived there I would offer to watch your son for you!

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                      • daycare
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                        • Feb 2011
                        • 16259

                        #12
                        Originally posted by MamaBear
                        That really ****s. I hope you can find a replacement sitter!! I'm from Carmel originally. Born & raised there. Beautiful place so I hope you can get there!!! If I still lived there I would offer to watch your son for you!
                        you are so sweet.... Im crushed...but I should have known better anyways... I have never left my son there for a weekend before and I guess its a lesson learned..

                        My nearest realtive lives 4 hours away.

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                        • daycare
                          Advanced Daycare.com *********
                          • Feb 2011
                          • 16259

                          #13
                          Originally posted by momofsix
                          Oh how frustrating for you, I'm so sorry. I think I'd just take your son along with you and not even deal anymore with the in-laws. Is this the same sil that has the child that watches tv all day? If so, your son would be better off not going there anyhow. (((hugs)))
                          you have a great memory yes this would be the one, but my IN-laws don't let my son do that when he is there... They will let him some time but for the most part they are always interacting with him..

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                          • youretooloud
                            Advanced Daycare.com Member
                            • Mar 2011
                            • 1955

                            #14
                            Don't cancel the plans, either take your son with you, or try to find someone else to keep him.

                            It'd be a long time before I helped sister in law with anything. The next time she wants you to do anything for her, say "Oh, I heard your daughter cough... so, I don't want to catch anything from her". But, be sure to wait until the last minute so she THINKS you are going to help her.

                            Clearly, the daughter runs the family... so, I'd try to distance yourselves from them. Since you don't matter as much as your sister in law.

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                            • AfterSchoolMom
                              Advanced Daycare.com Member
                              • Dec 2009
                              • 1973

                              #15
                              Is the 4 hour away relative a close relative? Would they be willing to come and stay at your house for your trip if you tell them you're in a tight spot?

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