Do Your Parents Do This???

[daycare]

When a kid has a really bad day and I have to report to the parents, it seems like they are always trying to come up with a reason WHY their child was behvaing so poorly.

I have heard, oh well they went to bed to early/late

You didn't feed them enough food so they got cranky....

Am i the only one who hears this or do other parents try to give reasons fro their children's bad behavior?

[PitterPatter]

When a kid has a really bad day and I have to report to the parents, it seems like they are always trying to come up with a reason WHY their child was behvaing so poorly.

I haev heard oh well they went to bed to early/late

You didn't feed them enough food so they got cranky....

Am i the only one who hears this or do other parents try to give reasons fro their childrens bad behavior?

Do we have the same families?

What's worse is when they blow the issues off completely and ask the kid if they want to go to the park.

[daycare]

omg Really parents basically reward them for acting out....Geeerrr

I have not had that one, but I did get just today..

DCM: " Oh well they must have learned that one here, guess it's yours to deal with"

WTheck NO they didnt learn that here.

[PitterPatter]

omg Really parents basically reward them for acting out....Geeerrr

I have not had that one, but I did get just today..

DCM: " Oh well they must have learned that one here, guess it's yours to deal with"

WTheck NO they didnt learn that here.

Yeah I had the they learned it here before, Actually 1 of the most stupid complaints ever!

The DCM who is better than everyone else btw, says her son (2) had been turning in circles, twirling like. I said ok? thinking it's normal for kids to do that but I didn't teach him that. She says well he didn't learn that from me so u or 1 of your other kids must have taught him that so when he gets dizzy and falls down I am going to be mad and if he gets hurt it will be on your conscience. ::

[Preschool/daycare teacher]

Didn't you know any time a child misbehaves it's because they picked it up at Daycare? Anything that goes wrong with child is automatically daycare's fault

[Meeko]

In the 25 years I have been doing child care I have noticed an interesting phenomenon.

Children only ever mis-behave at day care. At home they are completely angelic 24/7.

At least that's what the parents say..........

[3kidzmama]

This thread makes me think of something that happened when I used to teach 2nd grade... I had to call a parent because her child was acting horrible in class. I barely had identified myself when this mom proceeds to curse me up one side and down the other for calling her and interrupting her naptime... she also said she didn't care what her kid was doing, while he was at school, he was MY problem, not hers...
I sat stunned for a second, then calmly responded, "Well, I can certainly see where your son has learned his behaviors." I hung up as she was cursing again. Sheesh.

[daycare]

Lmao about you hanging up on the mom
But omg really how rude
You know what they say. Apple doesnt fall from the tree

[Meyou]

I always hear that they didn't sleep well last night. Which cracks me up because they all sleep really well here.

[melskids]

I always hear that they didn't sleep well last night. Which cracks me up because they all sleep really well here.

well, dont'cha know thats WHY they dont sleep well at night? cause we let 'em sleep all day here

[DCMom]

I always hear that they didn't sleep well last night. Which cracks me up because they all sleep really well here.

Something I've noticed lately, at least with my dc families, is how many of these kids sleep with their parents??

Not co-sleeping or family bed type sleeping, but going to bed with the kid or sleeping on the floor next to the crib or sleeping on the sofa with them. I even have a 3.5 who is still in a crib at home (has been sleeping on a mat here since two)

Sometimes I just wonder what they are thinking :confused:

[nannyde]

omg Really parents basically reward them for acting out....Geeerrr

I have not had that one, but I did get just today..

DCM: " Oh well they must have learned that one here, guess it's yours to deal with"

WTheck NO they didnt learn that here.

That's called "Tag you're it"

Kid acts badly.
Provider tells parent.
Parent says "it's because of you"
Parent gets to reset the situation and be square like she was when she walks in the door.

She just has to say 15 words "" Oh well they must have learned that one here, guess it's yours to deal with" and she's in the clear. Doesn't have to address it with the kid... you... are do anything in the future to work on the bad behavior.

She should just shout "CLEAR" like they do right before they electro zap someones not beating heart.

[wdmmom]

I had a family that consisted of 2 boys, DCM, DCD and 3 older half siblings.

It got so bad with the 5 year old that I went to the DCD one day because of DCB's behavior. DCM always treated DCB like he was wonderful/amazing/could do no wrong. I found out a day after I called DCD that DCM refused to talk to DCD because of the way DCB was punished!

I used to talk to DCM but when the 5 year old was being rewarded day in and day out, I knew she wasn't the avenue I wanted to pursue anymore.

When I finally did get somewhere with DCD, it was a full week before both DCP's were talking to one another.

I can honestly say that their termination was a blessing because if they hadn't provided it, I was going terminate 2 weeks later!

[momatheart]

Didn't you know any time a child misbehaves it's because they picked it up at Daycare? Anything that goes wrong with child is automatically daycare's fault

:: I love the sarcasim here.

[momatheart]

One thing i have said before to a parent who does NOT have any control in her house was, How do you deal with this behavior at home? We may need to do the same here. She was speachless and didn't say a word. CAUSE SHE DOESN'T do anything and we know it.