Do Your Own Kids Get Special Priveledges?

[ammama]

My kids have their own rooms that they play in, and the dck's are not allowed to go. My older DD7 can go outside whenever she wants to and gets extra snacks at naptime, if she is hungry. My kids don't get treats when the dck's are here and awake though, it feels like teasing to me. We save special treats for after the dck's go home. DD2 is much more a part of the daycare than her older sister, and she can't go outside without me (not because licensing says she can't, but I say she can't).

[TBird]

really they consider them part of your DC? That stinks..

Oh yes...before my kids went to grade school they counted in my numbers. So back then they didn't get special privileges....they were in my daycare.

[AfterSchoolMom]

I guess the biggest challenge here is that though mine are old enough to go down the street to play, ride bikes, etc...it isn't a matter of older kids vs. toddlers for me. My SA's are all about the same age.

I'm glad to hear that others do this too. Not that I felt bad about it before, but it's nice to know I'm not completely mean!

Oh, and I realize that I misspelled "privileges" - any way to change that?

[daycare]

my son accounts for my numbers as well, but he does not have to stay at the daycare or participate in what the dck do.

My husband often takes him to the golf range or chuckie cheese...

[boysx5]

since my youngest is 7 he pretty much gets to go and do what he wants and my oldest childcare child is three so its not an issue here I no longer do SA for this very reason

[nannyde]

The way I care for my son and how I care for dck's is completely different. I wish I could allow the freedom and lifestyle my son has to the kids. It would be wonderful to be able to do that.

[nannyde]

I guess the biggest challenge here is that though mine are old enough to go down the street to play, ride bikes, etc...it isn't a matter of older kids vs. toddlers for me. My SA's are all about the same age.

I'm glad to hear that others do this too. Not that I felt bad about it before, but it's nice to know I'm not completely mean!

Oh, and I realize that I misspelled "privileges" - any way to change that?

We aren't allowed to leave them unsupervised so there's no going down the street to play. My State would close me down if I allowed a kid to go off property or even outside without an adult with them at all times... all the way to age twelve.

[SunflowerMama]

I'm the odd ball out...once again. My girls are the same age (4) as the rest of the dcks and to be honest I am probably harder on them then the other kids because I expect more from them.

Unfortunately in my city we don't have access to our 2nd floor for childcare and that is where their bedroom is. So even if they wanted to go and play in their room alone I wouldn't be allowed to let them.

I think sometimes they may wish they had me all to themselves but they really love their friends and I choose children for the childcare with them in mind. It's usually Saturday night or early Sunday when they start asking "is tomorrow a school day...I want to see my friends".

I'm sure things will change as they get older but for now it works and they are doing great with all our "school" activities and have never asked to be excluded.

[AfterSchoolMom]

We aren't allowed to leave them unsupervised so there's no going down the street to play. My State would close me down if I allowed a kid to go off property or even outside without an adult with them at all times... all the way to age twelve.

Unfortunately in my city we don't have access to our 2nd floor for childcare and that is where their bedroom is. So even if they wanted to go and play in their room alone I wouldn't be allowed to let them.

Your OWN children? No offense ladies, but I'm adding this to my list of reasons not to pursue a license. No one is going to tell me what I can and cannot let my own child do in my own house.

[SunflowerMama]

Your OWN children? No offense ladies, but I'm adding this to my list of reasons not to pursue a license. No one is going to tell me what I can and cannot let my own child do in my own house.

Well my girls are still young but once they get to a certain age they would be allowed to be on the 2nd floor. The thing is in Texas you pretty much have to be registered or licensed if you want to do this as a career. You can't watch any unrelated children w/o something and you can get listed (very easy process) and watch 3. To watch over 3 you'd have to deal with licensing if you want to be legal.

[AfterSchoolMom]

That's too bad. Here we can have 5 unrelated children w/o a license.

I'm not knocking those of you who ARE licensed. I applaud you for it, actually. I'd be able to take on more kids/make more money if I did it, but it just isn't for me.

[daysofelijah]

Oh yes, I'm sure my licensor would get snippy if she knew I led my dd3 go play downstairs when she wants to. (She won't go down alone, only when her brothers are down there.) The daycare kids have no access to the downstairs, but the licensor wrote me a correction because the bathroom down there had a garbage with no cover on it. I told her the dckids never go down to the basement, but she asked if my kids are ever down there and that while I am doing daycare, my kids are daycare kids.

Just one of the many reasons I will not be doing licensed care after this summer. We can only watch one family without a license here in MN.

[nannyde]

Your OWN children? No offense ladies, but I'm adding this to my list of reasons not to pursue a license. No one is going to tell me what I can and cannot let my own child do in my own house.

Not my own kid. He's been playing outside by himself since he was two plus in our backyard and fiveish out in my front. He was about seven when I let him go all the way up and down the street.

My kid only counted till age five BUT I didn't have to follow regs for him that I know of. They would have been up for a battle if they would have required me to adhere to dc rules for my kid.

I didn't comply to 99 percent of them with him. He's home. He's with me.

[JenNJ]

My kids are NOT a part of the daycare. They can do what they would normally do. My 5 year old goes in the yard with the dog and the other kids see him and ask why. BC he is allowed and you are not. My 2.5 year old daughter goes in her room to play or watches a show in the living room if she wants. If my kids want a different snack, they can have it. Its their home, I'm their mom - no other reasons needed.

[SunflowerMama]

My kids are NOT a part of the daycare. They can do what they would normally do. My 5 year old goes in the yard with the dog and the other kids see him and ask why. BC he is allowed and you are not. My 2.5 year old daughter goes in her room to play or watches a show in the living room if she wants. If my kids want a different snack, they can have it. Its their home, I'm their mom - no other reasons needed.

Maybe it's a state thing but I couldn't let my kids outside alone...if state came they would cite me for it. As far as the state is concerned they are part of the daycare so to avoid getting citations they follow the same rules and have never asked to do their own thing.

Also for me I would feel bad giving my kids special snacks in front of the dcks or letting them watch tv in a different room, etc. I just look at it from the parent's point of view. If my kid went to daycare somewhere I wouldn't want their provider doing those things for their children in front of my kids. If it's in private where the other dcks don't see or notice that's fine but to do it right in front of them...just don't think that's fair.

That's just me though.