Do Your Own Kids Get Special Priveledges?

[AfterSchoolMom]

Right now my child asked to go and play at a neighbor's house, and I told him go ahead. The others are now pouting and trying to argue that it "isn't fair" because they don't get to go too. My opinion is, it's my house and my child, so it's perfectly fair, and none of their beeswax at that.

I also have a hard time when mine want a different snack than everyone else. I try to avoid this when I can, but at the same time...it's THEIR house.

What do you all think?

[AnythingsPossible]

My kids do get special privileges. I think it's hard enough to share their house, let alone not be able to do things they want that daycare can't.
I plan on getting a large above ground pool for my kids this summer. I am dreading the daily arguments I'm going to have from the dck's, but I'm tired of telling my kids they can't have one because of daycare. We are going to fence off a portion of the yard and let them have one.
If they want a different snack, i let them. If they want to go downstairs and watch tv they can. If they want to go for a walk, more power to them!

[cheerfuldom]

I used to try really hard to make everything "even" and you know what? I found that it was almost always my own kids that were sacrificing in this. Now I'm over it. Sometimes my kids do get a special treat or some thing different but thats just the way it is here. Its their house and their mom and things ARE different, no matter what way you try and slice it. Overall, the same rules apply to everyone but I don't feel bad if my own kids get an exception every now and then.

[AfterSchoolMom]

I guess it wouldn't really be so bad if I didn't have one that would argue with the side of a house. "But WHY can't we? Why? Why? WHY? But can't I just..."

[Symphony]

Yep, I tell my dcp at the interview that part of the beauty of this job is I am home with my own kids and they come first. My older kids can carry on as if daycare isn't even here. They (and their friends) do not count in my ratio so they can come and go as they please and they can go wherever they want in the house. My younger kids are a little more on daycare rules, but that is just because they require a lot more supervision from me. However, if two children are crying at the same time and I have to take care of it seperately, my child is coming first.

[nannyde]

I WISH my kids could "go and play at a neighbor's house".

We couldn't treat our daycare kids like our own if we wanted to. The rules for the daycare kids are based on the fact that we are caring for someone else's kids.

[dEHmom]

I do my best to treat everyone fairly, and daycare kids honestly become like family. So most is ok.

DH loves walking in and giving sugar garbage, and so I told him if he's doing that, the dck's can't see it. That means they don't know about it. Mine get to go bike ride, etc.

As long as it's not teasing the dck's I don't see anthing wrong with it. If I decide to give mine a special treat it's usually when the dcks are napping or gone home.

[daycare]

I do.

My kids did not ask for me to have a daycare here in our home. I don't ever want them to feel any more of resent towards it. As long as they are NOT in my DC room, I don't really care what my older two do.

FOr my 3.5 year old, I let him have special things that the others dont. IF he does not want to participate in class, I will let him play with his trains in the front room outside of the daycare. If he had to alawys be under daycare rules, he would be in daycare for more than 55 hours a week. I just don't think that would be fair...

[TBird]

I wouldn't feel guilty at all...my kids aren't in daycare....they are at home and they act accordingly....and rightfully so!!!

[youretooloud]

I wouldn't feel at all guilty about that.

If someone wanted to come pick up a daycare kid for a birthday party, or to go see Disney on Ice, it wouldn't be "unfair" to let him or her go...They wouldn't even consider asking your kids to go.. so, why would it be unfair for your kids to go somewhere?

I think kids just get jealous, and it feels unfair. Until it's them that gets to go somewhere fun.

[SilverSabre25]

Yes, my DD gets special privileges. She gets to play out of my sight. She gets to play outside alone during naptime. She gets to eat whatever she wants during naptime (well, within reason, but she does get treats and things then). She gets to watch TV during naptime. She can come upstairs to the kitchen and have certain things (that she can help herself to). She gets to leave on play dates with cousins or go somewhere special with DH. Her room is ABSOLUTELY off limits--a fact that I protect FOR her with an iron fist.

Like others said. She didn't ask me for this, and I'm doing the daycare partially so that I can be here for her, be the parent I want to be, and give her the life I wanted to give her.

[daysofelijah]

Yep, my boys (6 & 8) no longer have to be a part of any of the daycare doings at all if they choose not to. We homeschool so when they are done with all their work they can go outside, watch tv, go down and play in their bedroom, etc.
My dd is 3 so she still does the majority of the daycare time, but she doesn't have to take a nap and can stay up and play with her brothers or watch cartoons. I don't let her outside with her brothers when the daycare kids are here unless we are all out, because our licensing says our kids are daycare kids when we are in daycare hours. I do let her play out with her brothers when all the daycare kids are gone.

[daycare]

really they consider them part of your DC? That stinks.. my 15 year old takes my 3 yr old on bike rides to the local park all of the time. Some times the 3year old even gets to play baseball/stick ball with the rest of the neighbor hood kids as long as my 15 year old is with him. There is usually a mom or dad out there that I know so I don't mind it. None of the DC parents have even said anything about it. I am sure they have seen my bous out riding bikes or playing with the other kids....

[jen]

Absolutely!!!!! (and I don't feel bad about it in the least...)

[Mrs.Ky]

Yup, they can go wherever they want in the house, my 2 older boys school age can go play at the neighbors, ride bikes in the street we live on a culdsec, my 3 year old has to be more in daycare because I need to keep a closer eye on her but she doesnt have to nap, eat the same lunch, breakfest, or snack the daycare kids eat, and go play in her room when she wants too.