Just Don't Think I Can Physically Do It Anymore!

[dEHmom]

it definitely sounds like a good idea. but i'd be scared with my house, and luck, they wouldn't go back on again.

I'm finally down to about 8 more loads of laundry left to do. Usually when I get down to about 4 or 5 loads left, something awful hits us, like a flu or something, and there's a ton of bedding and clothing etc to be washed up. Never fails.

[daycare]

it definitely sounds like a good idea. but i'd be scared with my house, and luck, they wouldn't go back on again.

I'm finally down to about 8 more loads of laundry left to do. Usually when I get down to about 4 or 5 loads left, something awful hits us, like a flu or something, and there's a ton of bedding and clothing etc to be washed up. Never fails.

I had to hit them where it hurt.... I think the person that was mad at me the most was my husband. He is hardly ever home and there was a sport on tv that he really wanted to watch that saturday.... I felt bad..for like a second...

Honestly, try it...see what happens. This day and age most kids don't know what to do with out all their little power supplied toys. I know that some people thought that what I did was extreme, but I feel that they lead me to it.... there is only so much that one single person can take on..........
lucky for my family the only thing that happened was that I shut the power off.

[PitterPatter]

I am sooooooooooooooooooooooooooo worn out! I get NO help with any of the house up keep, cooking, animal care, and very little help caring for my own children. I have tried talking to DH and his response is, "I deserve a break too. I work hard too." But WHEN do I get MY break?! That is always my question. If I do take an hour in the evening to do nothing, I PAY for it! I am up an extra hour in the night cleaning because no one does it but me. My kids are slobs. I am constantly telling them to pick up their shoes, coats, dirty clothes, etc that they just DROP all over the house, and I end up doing it because I am the second class citizen in this house. EVERYTHING IS MY JOB!!!!! DH just comes home and plays games either on his phone or on my Ipod. Everyone elses happiness is millions of lightyears ahead of my own. I am exhausted. I am feeling like I am going to break. I actually kind of just did as the dog pooped on the playroom floor (the fun runny kind) and I cannot find the carpet shampooer so I had to hand scrub it (and really just smear it deeper into the carpet). I could barely see what I was scrubbing because I was crying so hard. I am just done. I don't know what to do!!!! I am tired of being sick, I am tired of whiny sick kids being dropped off for me to deal with, and I am tired of not getting any help in this house!!!!!

Maybe just writing a daycare closing warning letter and showing DH will get his butt in gear? He sure likes the money I have coming in, but has no interest in helping me with anything. UGH UGH UGH!!!!

sahm I feel so bad for u!! I have been there and still am sometimes being a single Mom. I really wish u could find some peace and serenity for yourself. I will say a prayer for u in hopes that God will bless u with the strength u need as well as some time for yourself. Hang in there lady!

[Jenjo]

I know how you feel. That is how I felt yesterday when my DH was gone to another meeting for another volunteer thing. My DH is gone a lot after work because he volunteers for a lot of stuff. I also feel he does not appreciate how hard I work he just likes the money. Our house is a disaster because no one wants to help. So tonight we are having a family meeting we will lay out the chores that need to be done along with a list of the consequences of what will happen if they do not do their chore every day. My children are old enough to help out. The other thing I am going to do is every time they get engaged in something I am going to stop them and tell them to pick up some of their mess. Maybe they will get the message that if they want to do something they need to put their things away instead of just leaving it on the floor.

I think what makes us loving providers also sometimes makes us easy to walk all over. Hang in there!

[dEHmom]

We all sound the same except for minor details...

My DH HATES mess. He hates even one little thing out of place. Before I used to get mad because if something was on the floor, example empty toilet paper roll, he would walk past it for days. Then scream at me because no body picked it up. HMMM......2 adults and babies in the house, who is this "no body"? Of course, he meant me! I would say why can't you? If you saw it why didn't you? Now he helps out pretty good, but he complains the whole time, and yells, because it's not clean enough.

Now, he gets mad if he gets home and has to pick up anything daycare related. Because it's my business. He already shovels, and mows lawn, etc for "my" daycare.

I've explained to him that I do this to help out. I make more money doing this, than I would if I worked outside of the home. At least I am home. But I tried telling him I clean all day, if a few things out in evenings "I DON:T CARE!" why do I have to clean all day, all evening, and on weekends? But he sees it as I stay home, it's my responsibility to take care of the house.

Another example, dh has sheds/garage. What do I have? his answer, THE WHOLE HOUSE! EXCUSE ME?!?!?!? the kitchen where everyone eats? the living room where everyone sits? the bedroom where we sleep? the bathroom where everyone poops? seriously? that's what I get? shared space? Where can I go to relax, and just get away for a bit? where can I go that is mine? even trying to have a bath I am constantly interupted, disturbed or joined.

I hate how men think because they make the most money, they are king of the castle. WITHOUT WOMEN, THERE WOULD BE NO CASTLE! it would be a pig sty. Seriously, I don't get how they think 8 hours at a job, entitles them to do nothing outside of those 8 hours

[AfterSchoolMom]

So sorry. Sounds like you REALLY need a break! Can you afford to take a few days off and just rest? Could you hire a cleaning person to come once a week?

I stopped washing all kids clothing that didn't make it into the hamper. If it's on the floor, I bag it up. When they run out of clothes, they'll start helping!

[MommyMuffin]

I know how you feel as well. I have tried many many things. Now I just tell him what to do. Could you flip the laundry please? You clear the table and I will get daughter ready for bath. Like that and then I thank him.

I grew up in a family oriented household. He basically raised himself. I told him..this is what a family does..they clean the house together, go grocery shopping together and cook together. My husband works a lot but when he is home he knows I expect him to be a part of this family. I know it sounds harsh but if he doesnt help out and spend time with his family then he does not get the benefits of having a family and I would divorce him (after lots of counseling..help...trying of course!!)

Rasing a family is hard hard work. From reading your posts I think you really need someone or something to rescue you. You need a break and for something in your life to let up or change.