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It is sad that police have to use pepper spray to control a child. Unless this child has issues he cannot control due to mental health, ADHD, or something in that nature, which it says he was evaluated and results came that that he was normal, then you have to look at his upbringing.
Did he had set rules in his house? Was he disciplined when needed? Or did parent just let him do whatever he wanted to do with no consequences? Did parent cover up for him and defend him when he did something wrong?
Sorry this is long, but here goes......I had one child in care that was coloring and then began to crumble the page. I told him to please not ruin the page becuase it was the only one he was getting. He then proceeded to tear the page in pieces and demanded another one. I told him " I just told you that you were not going to get another one, but you decided to tear it up.
He got extremely upset and began to cry out of control. I told him to calm down, he didnt' so I just ignored him and proceeded to getting the other kids ready for dismissal. After 20 minutes of hearing his cries, I called his mom to tell her what had happend and to just make sure she was coming on time to pick him up. She said she was and I told him that I just spoke to his mom and she was coming in few minutes to pick him up.
He calmed down and stopped crying immediately. Within moments he was tear free and relaxed, he started talking and told me that he was going to buy a gun and shoot me and my family. Well you can image the shock I was in when he said that. I asked him to repeat what he said becuase I think I heard him wrong. Nope, he repeated himself exactly the same way as the first time. I was furious. Image, a 4 year old making a death threat to me and my own children. My blood was boiling. My handbook states any harmful behavior to provider or family, calls for immediate termination. However, I decided just to suspend him for one day. When his mom finally arrives, I explained the situation to her and she was not too happy when I told her what he said. Then she was extremely upset when I told her that he was suspended for one day, not to bring him back the next day, to bring him back the following week.
She had to work the next day and couldn't take off, she said what was she going to do with him then. I told her that I was sorry, but it was not my concern. Anyways, the next day I get an email from her saying that I was wrong for suspending him, that I should have spoken to him and told him that what he said was wrong. By not letting him return the next day was not going to make him understand what he said was wrong. Well, I have a different opinon on this. Child loves coming to my daycare, by not allowing him to come becuase of something wrong he did, will teach him that he has to follow rules and not say bad things in order to continue attending my daycare. Well DCM become so agressive in her opinon of how I was wrong, that I terminated her on the spot due to parent/provider differences. Which is also stated in handbook. Was I wrong? What would u have done?
Did he had set rules in his house? Was he disciplined when needed? Or did parent just let him do whatever he wanted to do with no consequences? Did parent cover up for him and defend him when he did something wrong?
Sorry this is long, but here goes......I had one child in care that was coloring and then began to crumble the page. I told him to please not ruin the page becuase it was the only one he was getting. He then proceeded to tear the page in pieces and demanded another one. I told him " I just told you that you were not going to get another one, but you decided to tear it up.
He got extremely upset and began to cry out of control. I told him to calm down, he didnt' so I just ignored him and proceeded to getting the other kids ready for dismissal. After 20 minutes of hearing his cries, I called his mom to tell her what had happend and to just make sure she was coming on time to pick him up. She said she was and I told him that I just spoke to his mom and she was coming in few minutes to pick him up.
He calmed down and stopped crying immediately. Within moments he was tear free and relaxed, he started talking and told me that he was going to buy a gun and shoot me and my family. Well you can image the shock I was in when he said that. I asked him to repeat what he said becuase I think I heard him wrong. Nope, he repeated himself exactly the same way as the first time. I was furious. Image, a 4 year old making a death threat to me and my own children. My blood was boiling. My handbook states any harmful behavior to provider or family, calls for immediate termination. However, I decided just to suspend him for one day. When his mom finally arrives, I explained the situation to her and she was not too happy when I told her what he said. Then she was extremely upset when I told her that he was suspended for one day, not to bring him back the next day, to bring him back the following week.
She had to work the next day and couldn't take off, she said what was she going to do with him then. I told her that I was sorry, but it was not my concern. Anyways, the next day I get an email from her saying that I was wrong for suspending him, that I should have spoken to him and told him that what he said was wrong. By not letting him return the next day was not going to make him understand what he said was wrong. Well, I have a different opinon on this. Child loves coming to my daycare, by not allowing him to come becuase of something wrong he did, will teach him that he has to follow rules and not say bad things in order to continue attending my daycare. Well DCM become so agressive in her opinon of how I was wrong, that I terminated her on the spot due to parent/provider differences. Which is also stated in handbook. Was I wrong? What would u have done?
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