Informing Sounds Like Complaining!

[missnikki]

What would she complain about? "She makes him brush his teeth!" BWAHAHA

[boysx5]

I only tell the parent if we had a really bad day I have an almost four year old who is always into something not all bad things just a busy boy and I feel that sometimes by the end of the day if I were to tell the parents what he did at 9am he may not even remember what he did. I take care of it here and he knows what the rules are. Its never easy is it

[My Daycare]

When my older ones were little they got a listerine strip. It worked great because they get stuck there until they dissolve. Nowadays, I won't do that for my youngest because I'm scared.

[My Daycare]

mom and I are doing a reward chat. he gets smiley faces every time he does something good. i am the praise queen, I really am. I will tell him everything good, even if he is just doing nothing, I will tell him, Wow you are sitting so nice and quiet that is really nice to see. WOuld you like to read a book with me?

Yes, I do give him time to reflect as well. he is 4.5, so he knows the difference between right and wrong. I will give me 3 chances with the same issue before he will have to get seperated from the rest of the group to play alone.... if its really bad, I will not allow him to play, but just sit there and think about what he did wrong and how we can make it better....

I am really looking forward to meeting with the lady that will come to conduct the behavior eval on him. I am also frustrated of having to tell, remind, and punish him for his behavior and am looking forward to learn how to help him improve......

Sounds like you're doing things right, but I would cut down the 3 chances.

[Unregistered]

Sensitive Parents

I have a dcb that has an issue on a daily basis. Potty mouth, won't listen and etc. I always take a min or two to inform mom/dad at pick up how their day went. I don't give every last detail, but when something happens that disrupts the other kids or more than a large majority of the child's day I will inform the parents.

So today at pick up I inform DCM that the boy had an ok day. However, there were some issues with potty mouth. I reminded the boy that he needed to use better words and that he was to tell him mom at pick up. Of course he did not tell his mom and I had to inform her.

So they leave and within 20min I get an email saying that she is thinking about changing DC because it seems like I complain about him all of the time. That every day it's something else and she feels like he has worn out his welcome here.

I have not responded to her, but in some ways I have seen this coming. Why? Becuase every day there is something else. I have posted about this boy here in the past and was able to get someone to come and elvaluate his behavior, but that has not happened yet. It will not take place until May.

So my question is, how you do inform parents when their kids are constantly breaking rules, or having a bad day without sounding like you are complaining about their kid.

BTW. I don't tell DCP every last detail, just important things i think they should know.

I have had sensitive parents as well. I do up daily sheets, whenever something bad happens, I always put it down, but I always make sure that I write down 2 good things for each bad thing that happened. That way, the good always outweighs the bad. (even if it is for something stupid -like "johnny cut along the lines really nicely today, or colored very quietly today", etc. Sometimes it something as simple as they participated very well during circle time.

But I know it takes a lot of love, patience and stress relieving exercises to deal with a child like that. I did it for about a year until the child injured one of my own children and I had to terminate. Best of luck to you!