How Many Time Outs Is Too Many?

[MG&Lsmom]

I read it as, there were two kids sleeping in the car. dcg wanted to eat, but MG&Lsmom was getting the two sleeping kids out of the car first.

Yes, this. We were just returning from picking up the preschool kids, 2 had fallen asleep in the car. I brought the awake kids and one sleeping upstairs first which was when this dcg started screeching that she wanted to eat. After instructing her to remove her shoes and put them in her cubby I went back to the garage to retrieve my sleeping DS. In the 90 seconds I was gone she was slamming an unlocked swing gate into the wall of the napping room screeching that she was hungry. It was 15 minutes before our normal lunch time. She had 2 breakfast and a snack. I was not making her wait to eat beyond our normal time.

[nannyde]

Yes, this. We were just returning from picking up the preschool kids, 2 had fallen asleep in the car. I brought the awake kids and one sleeping upstairs first which was when this dcg started screeching that she wanted to eat. After instructing her to remove her shoes and put them in her cubby I went back to the garage to retrieve my sleeping DS. In the 90 seconds I was gone she was slamming an unlocked swing gate into the wall of the napping room screeching that she was hungry. It was 15 minutes before our normal lunch time. She had 2 breakfast and a snack. I was not making her wait to eat beyond our normal time.

How old is she?

[Live and Learn]

I ONLY time out for hitting, biting....hurting someone.

I have given 1 timeout in 7 years of dc......A two year old hitting his bossy big sis. I told the parent at pick up and it never happened again. If it had happened again I would have termed.

I have a zero tolerance for violence here.

When other "little offenses" arise I redirect or separate. My lil group of kiddos are so well behaved it is crazy!!

[marniewon]

I ONLY time out for hitting, biting....hurting someone.

I have given 1 timeout in 7 years of dc......A two year old hitting his bossy big sis. I told the parent at pick up and it never happened again. If it had happened again I would have termed.

I have a zero tolerance for violence here.

When other "little offenses" arise I redirect or separate. My lil group of kiddos are so well behaved it is crazy!!

Following your rules, I have one who would have been termed a while ago. He's 2 1/2. I time out/separate for violent behavior and other things like snatching toys from someone else, abusing (throwing, stomping on, etc) toys. I have done everything I can do with this child as far as discipline, redirection, etc and NOTHING works!! I thought at first he just didn't get along with the other dcb I have here (same age) but one day when he wasn't here, dcb was doing the same thing to his little sister.

Before you think I'm judging you or being negative with my above statement - I'm not at all. If I wasn't done with daycare in less than two weeks, this one would have been termed!! I totally agree that there should be NO violence in daycare, and those who cannot control themselves have no business being in a group of other children.

This child has seriously been in time-out/separated from the group for longer than he was allowed to play with the group - on numerous times. And just in the last week he's taken to ignoring me!! If he's starting to do something wrong, I will say his name sternly and he will go about what he's doing without looking at me! This is new, so I know he can hear me, and I know he knows why I'm saying his name.

I used to tell mom about things he was doing, to try to get some help at home, and for a while things were a little better (apparently he has a much older sibling at home who wrestles with him, so that's why he would play rough with the kids here, and once mom told older sib to stop the wrestling, things went a little better here) but now it's back to the way it was before, but worse. Since I"m done in a few weeks, and the behavior is not changing, just because I tell dcm about it (daily), I just stopped saying anything. My saying anything isn't making a bit of a difference. So, now, when dcm asks how he was, my answer is "fine". And you can bet that if my dc was going to continue, he would have been gone a long time ago. Like, as soon as I realized there wasn't a thing I could do to change his behavior.

[MG&Lsmom]

How old is she?

2.5y, with 7 & 9yo siblings. Dad recently returned from deployment and mom just returned to working day shift. Lots going on with this little girl. Parents just keep saying she needs more time. I told mom I'm not sure how much more time I can give her if she's so disruptive to the other kids here. Sibs are mostly good here, but I can see how they just walk all over mom. Dad is hard on them. Seems to me that the whole family needs some post deployment counseling, but I'm not a clinician so it's just my humble opinion.

[MG&Lsmom]

Following your rules, I have one who would have been termed a while ago. He's 2 1/2. I time out/separate for violent behavior and other things like snatching toys from someone else, abusing (throwing, stomping on, etc) toys. I have done everything I can do with this child as far as discipline, redirection, etc and NOTHING works!! I thought at first he just didn't get along with the other dcb I have here (same age) but one day when he wasn't here, dcb was doing the same thing to his little sister.

Before you think I'm judging you or being negative with my above statement - I'm not at all. If I wasn't done with daycare in less than two weeks, this one would have been termed!! I totally agree that there should be NO violence in daycare, and those who cannot control themselves have no business being in a group of other children.

This child has seriously been in time-out/separated from the group for longer than he was allowed to play with the group - on numerous times. And just in the last week he's taken to ignoring me!! If he's starting to do something wrong, I will say his name sternly and he will go about what he's doing without looking at me! This is new, so I know he can hear me, and I know he knows why I'm saying his name.

I used to tell mom about things he was doing, to try to get some help at home, and for a while things were a little better (apparently he has a much older sibling at home who wrestles with him, so that's why he would play rough with the kids here, and once mom told older sib to stop the wrestling, things went a little better here) but now it's back to the way it was before, but worse. Since I"m done in a few weeks, and the behavior is not changing, just because I tell dcm about it (daily), I just stopped saying anything. My saying anything isn't making a bit of a difference. So, now, when dcm asks how he was, my answer is "fine". And you can bet that if my dc was going to continue, he would have been gone a long time ago. Like, as soon as I realized there wasn't a thing I could do to change his behavior.

I'm new to home daycare but have been doing private care for 15 years. I'm starting to believe that there are just some kids who can't do group care. I know Nan, I know. I've got lots to learn.