I've Had It!!! Long Rant/ Wanting To Term NOW!

[E Daycare]

Please tell me this is just cause or Im going to cry out of frustration!

Dcg that Ive had issues with, the one with parents coming early or late, getting a discount and then coming less then full time, chewing on everything, baby daddy drama, food problems, constantly ringing my doorbell and everything else under the sun had told me yesterday dcg would not come today. Dcm told me shed call me before 10pm if she happened to get called in and dcg would come in other then that figure dcg wasnt going to come.

10pm rolls around and no call. I go to bed and dont set my alarm because on Thursdays I only have dcg so I wake up when ds wakes up. There is no need for me to rush then. So I get up at 7:45 and get dressed so ds and I can go downstairs and get breakfast. Since I got no call or text I made plans with ds (who is 21 mo) to go to the local free play bounce house. Open from 10-3 tues-fri for drop in play. Hes all excited as I shower and keeps saying "bounce bounce" and Ive showed him videos from when we went two weeks ago so hes so happy.

Ds and I are playing in the front play room while I wait for my clothes to dry upstairs and happen to look out the front window where I see baby daddy standing on my door step!!!!

Its 10am and Im THIS close to going. We were going to go upstairs and get dressed and then leave like right now. He sees me peak and I open the door and he has dcg in the car and is like "dcm tried calling as she got called in for some overtime and I need to clean so here she is!" and drops her on the floor. Im in such shock as Im clearly dressed and my hair is done. I tell him "I have plans to go to Kentucky today" and he says "well dcm tried getting a hold of you..." as I tell him "I didnt get any calls and Ive been playing with DS so if she did call then I missed it" OBVIOUSLY!

You guys, Im so sad I almost cried. I have one whole day to myself with my son and now we cant go to the bounce place because Id have to drag a stroller in with me. My son needs help climbing on stuff and I highly enjoy climbing and sliding down the bounce toys with him and Im just so friggin upset!

I texted DH about this and he said "screw it, term them today. We will figure it out with money". My contract says I can term at will but I have so many other issues that its no problem really. The thing is, I give two weeks and I dont want them back after today at all. So do I give them a "dont come back" letter with their enrollment money or give them two weeks. Im fuming! This is the second incident this week where Im pissed. Tuesday she didnt come in till 10:30 because baby daddy slept in. I couldve done stuff then too. Why do these people have some major issues staying home with their kid? Dcm works weekends too (shes a nurse at a adult home and does PRN work) so shes hardly with dcg. Baby daddy just came back into the picture two weeks ago and its been ALL DOWN HILL since then.

What would or have you guys done with terming? Two weeks or shut the door today?

[daysofelijah]

Unfortunately if you are beyond your initial trial period and your contract says two weeks you probably should give the two weeks notice. You can always hope that they won't come back at all. Maybe with your notice say that two weeks pay will not be required if they choose to not use the two weeks? Maybe they would go for that option.

[missnikki]

You might want to bite the bullet on this one. I would term with 2 weeks and offer no explanation. Give a letter with date care will end and final balance. Do ont apologize.

I'm betting they will not return.

[momatheart]

Shut the door today and move on. You deserve respect and this family has been a thorn in your side. You have your husband's blessing end it today and move on. NEXT as I like to say.

Here is what you said in your pp. My contract says I can term at will but I have so many other issues that its no problem really.

[JenNJ]

Why did you accept her into care today? I would NOT answer the door or answer and not open the door. You are being taken advantage of bc you are letting them. 10pm means 10pm. No call, no care. They know you wouldn't put up a fight so they dropped her off. If you want her gone now, call them and tell them to come get her.

[marniewon]

First, I would not have let dcg stay. Dcm did NOT call by the time she told you she would so you were not obligated to watch her today. I would have sent them on their merry way at the door. But, since that didn't happen, yep, term them, immediately. In fact, I would call dcd and tell him to come get her.

Type up a quick term letter and hand it to him when he picks up dcg.

I would be furious too. The thing is, most of us do daycare to better our families (more money, stay home with kids, etc) and when your own child has to take a backseat to the daycare because of these morons, that kind of defeats the purpose.

Do yourself and your son a favor and call dcd now. I wouldn't give them 2 weeks. With all the crap they've pulled, they don't deserve the respect of a notice.

Good luck and let us know how it goes!

[momofboys]

Too bad the dad saw you peek out the window!!! I honestly would not have opened the door. I've had parents do that to me. . . tell me I am not needed & then in the morning will call me at 10 am asking if they could drop off as they now need me for a dr's appt or whatever last-minute stuff they plan to use me for. I make my plans & I leave the house. I would term, you sound mad & I don't blame you. They did not call when you required them to. Did the dad sound sorry when you said she had not called & you made plans. I think the best thing you coudl have done was to say sorry but I am on my way out the door. No one notified me & I can't take another child with me. None of their business where you were going. I know easier said then done. But honestly I would term & be done. What day are they paid through? That is when I would end it. IF they are paid through tomorrow tell them that is their last day.

[missnikki]

First, I would not have let dcg stay. Dcm did NOT call by the time she told you she would so you were not obligated to watch her today. I would have sent them on their merry way at the door. But, since that didn't happen, yep, term them, immediately. In fact, I would call dcd and tell him to come get her.

Type up a quick term letter and hand it to him when he picks up dcg.

I would be furious too. The thing is, most of us do daycare to better our families (more money, stay home with kids, etc) and when you have to cancel your own child has to take a backseat to the daycare because of these morons, that kind of defeats the purpose.
Do yourself and your son a favor and call dcd now. I wouldn't give them 2 weeks. With all the crap they've pulled, they don't deserve the respect of a notice.

Good luck and let us know how it goes!

Very well put! I agree entirely.

[daysofelijah]

Oh I missed the part where your contract says you can term at will. Since that is the case I would have the term letter, any refund on deposit (or any bill for outstanding fees) and all the kids stuff ready to go at pick up today. Good riddance!

[AfterSchoolMom]

I would NOT have let her stay...but if your contract says that you can term at will, then I don't see why you should give two weeks. However, I'd refund any prepaid money or deposits.

[SilverSabre25]

Shut the door today and move on. You deserve respect and this family has been a thorn in your side. You have your husband's blessing end it today and move on. NEXT as I like to say.

Here is what you said in your pp. My contract says I can term at will but I have so many other issues that its no problem really.

yep yep yep

[Lilbutterflie]

That stinks! I would have told baby daddy that dcm told you she would call by last night 10pm and that she didn't; therefore you made the decision to close based on no children being expected. I would have turned him away at the door. Sorry, she didn't call in time.

As far as terming, I think you should go by what your contract says. If your contract says two weeks, I think you should give them two weeks notice. If your contract says you can terminate at will without notice, then term effective immediately.

Sorry they've treated you this way. Good luck!

[E Daycare]

Thanks Guys!

My term procedure states this:

This contract can be termed by parent or provider by giving a two weeks notice in advance with a ending date for any reason. Payment by the parent is due for that notice period even if the child is not in care. The provider may ter the contract without giving notice if the parent does not make payment when payment is due. Failure by the provider to enforce one or more of these terms of contract does not waive the right of the provider to enforce any other terms of contract.

So with that saying, is that the loop hole to get me out of the two weeks?

[momma2girls]

I would not have answered the door. I once had this happen to me, but fortunately we were leaving that day on vac. We had airline tickets to go somewhere. I didn't answer my door. They looked on my activity schedule on the door, and see my vac. started that day and took off. They never told me they came that day, and I didn't say anything to them either. I give every family notes with upcoming reminders on them, upcoming vac. days, Holidays, etc. months in advance. Then I repeat it on monthly newsletters, and the monthly calendar.

[Lilbutterflie]

It sounds to me like you are obligated to give them two weeks notice. If they refuse to pay for the last two weeks; then you can terminate immediately.

That's how I understand it.