How Much Should You Tell Parents About Child’s Behavior???

[Miss Karena]

I assume full responsibility for the children in my care, including the training of their behavior. Children are very smart and quick to pick up on the "law of the land." Weather or not they display undesirable behavior at home matters little when it comes to the desired standard here at daycare. Be patient, be understanding, but stick to your standard and plot a course of action that will help your little dc b/g to obtain. Be consistent. The atmosphere and surroundings are very different in daycare than that at home, so bringing up situations to parents may not prove to be helpful. Part of being a provider is being a constant source of peace to parents. Of course if you are concerned behavior of a particular child is our of character or very sudden, document your concern and approach parents if you feel you should.

[Unregistered]

I rarely tell parents anything negative. My philosophy is along the same lines as Black Cat.

[ColorfulSunburst]

I rarely tell parents anything negative. My philosophy is along the same lines as Black Cat.

I tell parents about negative things as well as about positive. If I tell about positive only, how parents will know about child's progress at any specific area of their kid's development?

[Unregistered]

I tell the parents EVERY thing, but this is something I discuss during interviews, I tell them (because I got tired of this) "I don't do he/she does this at home and that here. No, we're on the same page or you can't attend my program". Mostly this is for things potty training. The old, wear a diaper at home and underwear here. Um, no. It's not a vacuum. If a child is using a bad language here, they're hearing bad language at home. To me, to deal with here isn't dealing with it. The child is still getting the message (at home) it's acceptable to say mean things. As another poster said, the parents will claim "they didn't know" if you only tell them for big instances. I also tell them minor things, because I don't want parents coming to me saying the child said one thing and I said another.

[BabyMonkeys]

I tell the parents a lot I think. Maybe too much. ....both the positives and negatives of the day (if any). They know (at least I hope they do) that it's out of love and the fact that we should work together on xyz behavior.

I usually just indicate the things that are recurring and not that *one* time their kid snatched a toy from someone, kwim? I don't want to be taking trips to the Tattle Turtle either

This is exactly what I do. I'm really lucky that all of my dcks have amazing parents that really treat me as a partner, and we work out any behavior issues before they become problems. Having the same rules and consequences at home and at daycare is great for the kids.

[Unregistered]

I tell them when they ask, unless the child is being violent.
I offer infant reports also