It Is My Hope...

[Unregistered]

I work for a Resource and Referral Agency and I provide technical assistance to child care providers as well as statewide trainings on child development and college courses in early childhood education.
This board frightens me. I read a great deal of developmentally inappropriate advice that speaks to the interests of the provider above the child and the parent. It's my hope that those that feel so negatively about parents and children that they should post on a public forum in this manner either reevaluate their role as a provider or seek out some training to help them better understand how to serve families.
You can find trainings through your local R&R.
I n the mean time I will be using this forum as an example to providers of unprofessional behavior.

[Crystal]

Thank you for that. I agree.

Please, do register. I'd love to hear more from you. And, just out of curiosity, what State are you located in?

[Crystal]

I'd like to add that there are also MANY providers here who are professional, caring, loving, nurturing and partake in DAP, so please know that this forum is valuable for many, you just have to know which advice to heed and that which you shouldn't.

[daycare]

thanks for letting us know! I am going to have an even better Friday now and sleep better at night..................aaaahhhhhhh

[nikia]

Since you are part of the R&R, then you should know the stresses that come with this job and the amount of turnover that happens. Maybe you can suggest how to deal with parents that do not respect us has human beings, but as their personal servants? Parents that do not want to pay for the love and nurture their children do get? I am not saying that there are some on here who I feel should not be in this business, maybe people look at me like that I dont know and honestly no one knows me or my program or the rave reviews from people that are in my care. But I do know that I love these children and no matter how their parents treat me I never treat the children different. I am not trying to be rude and I am really curious. What specifically is unprofessional in posting on a forum to get advice? What advice in wrong?? It would be better to give specifics so that people can learn instead of just judging who and what you think some are.

This is a hard job, a thankless job especially depending on the state, town you are located in. Does it not make someone better to come to a place to talk to people who may have common problems? Does it not help us to hear all responses whether we agree or not, even in that we can say well I dont want to be that type of provider?? Or yes I think that will work in my situation??

[jen]

I work for a Resource and Referral Agency and I provide technical assistance to child care providers as well as statewide trainings on child development and college courses in early childhood education.
This board frightens me. I read a great deal of developmentally inappropriate advice that speaks to the interests of the provider above the child and the parent. It's my hope that those that feel so negatively about parents and children that they should post on a public forum in this manner either reevaluate their role as a provider or seek out some training to help them better understand how to serve families.
You can find trainings through your local R&R.
I n the mean time I will be using this forum as an example to providers of unprofessional behavior.

Which resource and referral agency do you work for?

What would be really helpful, beyond using the information you see here as training material, would be for you to register and provide your opinion on a case by case basis.

Childcare Resource and Referral is meant to assist providers and parents. I would welcome your assistance on the board. Please, register and joing us!

[kendallina]

I agree with Crystal and hope that you register and contribute as well. There are many of us that practice developmentally appropriate practices and that are very professional, however I think some of those providers are scared away after reading some of what happens on this forum.

Also, if you chose to use 'this forum' as an example of unprofessional behavior, I hope that you qualify that to say that there are some providers that are unprofessional, however there are also many who take their profession very seriously, who value and love children and who actually enjoy working with parents (perhaps a shocker to some, I know).

[Unregistered]

relax

I work for a Resource and Referral Agency and I provide technical assistance to child care providers as well as statewide trainings on child development and college courses in early childhood education.
This board frightens me. I read a great deal of developmentally inappropriate advice that speaks to the interests of the provider above the child and the parent. It's my hope that those that feel so negatively about parents and children that they should post on a public forum in this manner either reevaluate their role as a provider or seek out some training to help them better understand how to serve families.
You can find trainings through your local R&R.
I n the mean time I will be using this forum as an example to providers of unprofessional behavior.

It's a place to vent and talk and hash things out. Everyone does that to some degree. Have you ever run an inhome daycare?

[Crystal]

Since you are part of the R&R, then you should know the stresses that come with this job and the amount of turnover that happens. Maybe you can suggest how to deal with parents that do not respect us has human beings, but as their personal servants? Parents that do not want to pay for the love and nurture their children do get? I am not saying that there are some on here who I feel should not be in this business, maybe people look at me like that I dont know and honestly no one knows me or my program or the rave reviews from people that are in my care. But I do know that I love these children and no matter how their parents treat me I never treat the children different. I am not trying to be rude and I am really curious. What specifically is unprofessional in posting on a forum to get advice? What advice in wrong?? It would be better to give specifics so that people can learn instead of just judging who and what you think some are.

This is a hard job, a thankless job especially depending on the state, town you are located in. Does it not make someone better to come to a place to talk to people who may have common problems? Does it not help us to hear all responses whether we agree or not, even in that we can say well I dont want to be that type of provider?? Or yes I think that will work in my situation??

I think she is really referring to those who come here, day after day, and complain and whine about all of their families and their children. You can tell which providers are on burnout or simply do this job for a paycheck.

You are a great provider, and I have been reading that you may not be doing it much longer....which I think is a huge loss to the Child Care community

[kendallina]

This is a hard job, a thankless job especially depending on the state, town you are located in. Does it not make someone better to come to a place to talk to people who may have common problems? Does it not help us to hear all responses whether we agree or not, even in that we can say well I dont want to be that type of provider?? Or yes I think that will work in my situation??

I think that it can make some better by coming here and trying to get advice and grow, however, there is often SO MUCH negativity (especially in regard to parents) on this board that it's easy to get caught up in.

[Cat Herder]

Which resource and referral agency do you work for?

What would be really helpful, beyond using the information you see here as training material, would be for you to register and provide your opinion on a case by case basis.

Childcare Resource and Referral is meant to assist providers and parents. I would welcome your assistance on the board. Please, register and joing us!

I would love it as well!!!

I stay in a constant state of confusion and awe at the rate of changes in the expectations of Home Child Care Providers in the last 15 years....

It would be AWESOME to have someone in the know to ask that has the time to actually answer.....

I do have to ask, Can you please give examples???

What exactly frightens you??

[nikia]

I think she is really referring to those who come here, day after day, and complain and whine about all of their families and their children. You can tell which providers are on burnout or simply do this job for a paycheck.

You are a great provider, and I have been reading that you may not be doing it much longer....which I think is a huge loss to the Child Care community

Thank you for the compliment . I am closing in 3 weeks to go back working outside the home. Who knows I may decide daycare is much better and come back to it.

I would like to know what they would suggest in dealing with some of the parents though. My main problems in daycare have been parents. Kids some days go out of control and make me crazy but their kids and I expect that. Lol. My own do that to me too.

[Crystal]

Thank you for the compliment . I am closing in 3 weeks to go back working outside the home. Who knows I may decide daycare is much better and come back to it.

I would like to know what they would suggest in dealing with some of the parents though. My main problems in daycare have been parents. Kids some days go out of control and make me crazy but their kids and I expect that. Lol. My own do that to me too.

Sorry to hear your leaving the field, but I hope you find happiness in your work!

I am fortunate in that I do not have parents who take advantage or disrespect me. But, my suggestion for providers who do have "problem parents" is to document issues as they arise, give verbal warnings at the same time. After three instances of the same issue, written warning, then if it continues terminate.

One thing I think is important to remember when working with families, is that they too, just like us, have stressful lives and personal issues and we need to be empathetic of that. I know it's not always easy to do, but it really does go a long way in establishing close relationships with families, who in turn, will appreciate and value their provider much more.

[nikia]

I think she is really referring to those who come here, day after day, and complain and whine about all of their families and their children. You can tell which providers are on burnout or simply do this job for a paycheck.

You are a great provider, and I have been reading that you may not be doing it much longer....which I think is a huge loss to the Child Care community

Thank you for the compliment . I am closing in 3 weeks to go back working outside the home. Who knows I may decide daycare is much better and come back to it.

I would like to know what they would suggest in dealing with some of the parents though. My main problems in daycare have been parents. Kids some days go out of control and make me crazy but their kids and I expect that. Lol. My own do that to me too.

[Crystal]

okay, how'd that happen? !