Feel Like I'm About To Lose My Mind-Sorry For The Rant

[dEHmom]

Mels kids, I am in a strange place, where all I want to do is cry, but I'm happy and have a lot more energy than I usually do. So I don't know what that means.

And you are so right, I think that's why we all come back to daycare.com daily. I think it's because we are all a big GROUP of friends, maybe even best friends! We can yell at each other, laugh with each other, and even cry with each other!



Cilly, I apologize if I was butting in. I am glad to hear you guys are working together and starting to see eye to eye. And venting is perfectly normal, and allowed I just sort of had the feeling like you were maybe at the end of the road, and were thinking there's no point in trying to save it.

[littlemissmuffet]

After reading a lot of the comments here, I realize how lucky I am. My hubs often helps without me having to ask - and if I do have to ask, he drops everything he's doing (computer, playstation, etc) to help out right then and there. But then again, I wouldn't have it any other way - I wouldn't put up with someone living here and NOT pulling their weight.
Put your foot down, ladies!

[youretooloud]

Sometimes he's great, and involved, but a lot of times he falls into his rut of recliner/ps3...he says it's because he's "old" (45) but I think it's because he's out of shape, and generally lazy.

45 is not old!!! LOL.

OK, the out of shape makes him old. But, tell him he's hasn't seen "old" yet.

Men are such a pain aren't they? My entire family was sick... but, I still had to work, clean, cook and shop... HE took three days off to rest. My teenager had to go to school AND work... but, apparently men feel sicker than women.

[Unregistered]

My husband works 10 hours a day (so he is gone 11 total) and works 5 hours 1 weekend a month. I do 100% of the houshold work and about 95% of my son's duties (2 yrs old). I send him to my sisters (and give her a discount on daycare) 1 afternoon a week for 2 hours. Then I make my husband have him for two hours so I have 4 total hours to myself one night a week. Costs me $20 but I do not care! My husband knows it saves us both time, energy, and sanity. Sometimes I get shopping done, sometimes I stay home relaxing until 2 min before my hubs comes home with our little one and then I sneak out and go sit at barnes and noble and read for 2 hours!

[Sunny Day]

Wow, I'm glad (well not glad, but reassured) others feel the same way! thanks ladies! I just wanted to clarify though that my hubby is definitely NOT part of the problem--I felt bad and really guilty when the thread turned into a husband rant because mine is seriously amazing and tries SO hard that my heart broke for him, even though that wasn't my intention with the thread! (he's gone for 11 hours a day working out of necessity) He goes out of his way to help out and support me, without him I don't know where I would be! . I'm so sorry that some of you ladies have husbands that don't help out or will only help out if you yell and scream! I can't even imagine how much harder that would end up being and kudos to you all for keeping it together

[krystamichelle]

I know that some men (not my husband) but some men that I know think that I should assume all of the household chores and the kids because I am home all day. They have NO idea what it is like to care for our own kids let alone others. They see it as assuming the role of a house wife...

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Amen! I used to babysit for my friend's child before, but that was it. I would just feed him, we'd play, and I really didn't know about the necessity of a structured environment. Now that I am providing that for four children, sometimes six, I realize how completely draining it is. Even when I lay them down for nap time, I'm up and down the steps about 20 times before they finally go to sleep. If I'm lucky, I will only have the mess from lunch to clean up (I usually have a clean up session right before lunch), so I may get to relax for about an hour and do my college work before they get up. It is utterly exhausting to discipline, listen to crying children, provide endless entertainment, potty breaks, snacks/meals, etc., for 12 hours, only to have my own family to take care of when it's all over with...Phew! I have more respect for care providers than ever!!

[happykidschildcare]

To all you other in home daycare providers who are also stay at home moms, do you ever just get so sick of all the little mundane things you have to do EVERY day that you think you're going to lose your mind? I live in Canada, we've had snow and below freezing weather for MONTHS, the kids have been sick pretty much all winter and I feel like if I look down and see that my floor needs to be swept ONE MORE TIME I am going to have to drive myself straight to the loony bin. My husband is gone 11 hours out of the day and I feel so isolated, I can hardly stand it. I just feel like because I do daycare my house is destroyed every day (I'm sure you all relate: its not like I leave all day for work and can come back to my house in the same condition it was when I left it) and then I have to clean up the daycare mess for my family, make supper then clean that all up and the rest of the mess my family makes for the daycare kids in the morning...ugh, I'm just done. My husband is wonderful and really tries to help, but there is only so much he can do when he is gone all day! Tonight at the end of the day I just cried. I'm sorry, just really looking for some support right now because after the day I had I'm ready to lock my doors....

I TOTALLY feel like this alot of the time...
feel like my work is never done, or like I told my SIL I feel like a hamster in one of those see thru balls...just rollling around, but never gettin no where!!! arrrghhh!!!!! Sometimes I feel my heart isnt in it anymore...
But remember theres more good days then bad?? ay!