2nd Update White Stool

[missnikki]

First off, stay strong. You are that child's advocate, and I know you would do anything for the DCK.

You might end up feeling like you got hit by a train, but remember why you threw yourself in front of it to begin with. That kid needs you to be calm, strong, and professional.

Let it play out. You will know more soon enough. It can't hurt to text mom once a day and ask about DCK.

Pray the little one is going to be ok...that's your only option for now.

[Lilbutterflie]

I agree, something is NOT RIGHT with these parents. Who knows what it is...

When I first read it I felt like maybe DCD was upset b/c you had been telling DCM about your concerns & maybe he didn't even know you had concerns? Maybe it was DCM who was blowing it all off and not being honest with her husband for some unknown reason? It's either that or he's so scared that thier apathy has harmed their daughter, and now dealing with the consequences; he wants to point the finger at anyone and everyone. That would be you. YOU did everything you could and THANK GOODNESS you documented everything!

Brace yourself for a visit with CPS. But just know you will end up just fine b/c you've been documenting everything.

I agree with MissNiki, I would say ride this out. You will eventually know what it is the child has been diagnosed with. As far as dealing with DCD, you don't have to put up with him disrespecting you in that way. If he calls you again, and starts his accusations again, I would tell him you don't deserve to be treated the way he is treating you and hang up.

I really hope she's okay.

[Cat Herder]

Wait it out a bit. Stay strong, this may be a case of "shooting the messenger".

There may be other issues, but for now try to just sit back and don't take it personally...

Lashing out and placing blame may be just stage one of their guilt process...

I have been on this side of the fence a few times, myself..not in the Daycare field, but at my former job.

Deep down, they know better....even if they don't accept it, yet.

[SilverSabre25]

First off, stay strong. You are that child's advocate, and I know you would do anything for the DCK.

You might end up feeling like you got hit by a train, but remember why you threw yourself in front of it to begin with. That kid needs you to be calm, strong, and professional.

Let it play out. You will know more soon enough. It can't hurt to text mom once a day and ask about DCK.

Pray the little one is going to be ok...that's your only option for now.

This, this this. What a sad situation. I don't say this kind of thing often, but shame on her parents for not seeking medical care for dcg sooner. You did everything right--EVERYTHING.

The parents may be trying to place blame on you right now because they're hurting and feeling guilty that their kid is seriously ill and it could have been prevented, "if only". Hindsight is 20/20--my mom has been in the hospital since just after Thanksgiving and now, months later, my sisters and I can all point to the warning signs of her illness in the days before it got as bad as it did...but you know what? In our case, there's nothing that could have stopped what happened to my mom and we STILL feel kind of bad for not picking up that there was something odd going on.

Keep asking after dcg. Maybe you and the other dcks could make Get Well cards and send them to the hospital with some nice flowers, or something. I really hope this all turns out well, for your sake, for the girl's, and for the family's.

[Crystal]

Daycare.....are you genuinely concerned about abuse between DCD and DCM? If you are, is there any way you can reach out to MOm? Maybe a phone call and invite for coffee? Let her know that you realize she has been under alot of stress with DCG and thought she might like to get out and have a cup of coffee and shoot the breeze? Maybe slip in a few blurbs about a hypothetical situation - that maybe she can see herself in and she may ask for help?

Thank you for standing up for and protecting this child. And, I hope that things are okay - for all of them.

[KEG123]

Man what a tough situation. I'd also try and reach out to the mom, especially if she seemed like she wanted to say something and didn't. Invite her over to talk, hopefully she'll get the point you don't want her dh to come. I wonder, if you could stop by the hopspital with you know ONLY mom will be there, so you can talk privately with her. Bring cards and crafts from the kids. In the end, it's that poor little girl who is suffering.

[daycare]

I have thought about wanting to help the mom, see if there is something going on but then really thought about all the stress and drama I am dealing with now. Who knows what more would come. I'm not sure how the DCD is as a person and would not want to put my family on harm or get into the middle of another problems. I will never turn my back on this DCM or DCK but right now it's just a hunch that I have that there might be going something on. I think the best thing that I can do is just report it to CPS as well. I expected a call back from them today but did not get one.

Trust me I wish I knew how to help, but need to be careful and tread lightly. I know my husband would not be happy if I were to pursue this situation anymore, he said it's hard to watch me go through this.

Thanks for the support and responses

[Mrs.Ky]

Daycare also make sure you print off the forums you wrote about this problem it will show the date when you became concerned and the parents didnt listem get all the reports you wrote up also be prepared for a visit from either CPS or you licenses people. It sounds like the Dad is a control freak and will not allow Mom to give you any info so I doubt he will even let her come visit you. You did all you can do and should not worry about it anymore I do suggest if they bring daycare girl back and if you accept her back that you REQUIRE a note from the hosptial or doctors. Good luck and try not to worry anymore you did all you can do.

[Unregistered]

notes home for not eating or drinking

Its so important - send it home in writing - give it to mom or dad, have it ready after lunch, never miss it, have them sign the copy. No excuse for not talking to a parent, but if you don't have time, the note is there.

Sometimes kids go home, are not so hungry, and nothing is wrong....but not eating all day (or drinking) is something everyone in a kids circle of care needs to be watching.