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Hopefully this will open their eyes!!!
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Daycare, I understand how you feel in regards to worrying about the well being of a daycare child and having the weight of the situation on your shoulders. See my previous thread on a situation that occurred at my daycare a couple months ago.
The thing is, if this had happened with me, I would have called CPS. This wasn't something you should have had to carry around and worry so much about. You still have grounds to call them, their lack of medical treatment very possibly damaged this little girl... maybe even permanently. The moment I called CPS, I felt like a huge weight was lifted off of my shoulders b/c I knew they would investigate and handle the situation.
Anyway, during your talk with mom; I would tell her that the next time you witness serious symptoms and she doesn't seek medical treatment, that you WILL call CPS. I think that will be enough to let her know you are not messing around; and she'd better start taking her daughter's symptoms more seriously.Comment
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Thanks for asking!
The investigation is closed and they decided it did not warrant any action. The dad claimed that she "just would not eat for him" but she WOULD eat snacks, so that's all she would eat for the six weeks she was with him. As far as why she shut down completely with her communication, I just don't know. I do know that within two weeks with me she was pretty much back to normal. She is communicating well, eating well, & she gained the weight back and just recently grew a whole bunch! I would say she's grown about an inch since that post. She hasn't gone back to see her dad since. Nothing is planned yet as to when they will be visiting him again.Comment
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Nope... I sent a text this morning to ask how the child is doing, but I did not get a reply.....................
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What was the diagnosis on the white poop? Hope dck is OK now!!Comment
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as of right now the parents have not given me any feed back as to exactly what the issue is. In fact guess what... I am getting the finger pointed at me right now. Go figure.
I don't even know what is wrong with the child, but somehow I am at fault. Its a really long story.
All that I know is that DCK spent 4 nights in the hospital, has not been back since last week on Thursday.
I have no clue when and if the DCK will be coming back. Having no news and not too sure what is going on, I have to think right now what I am going to do about all of this.
I am tired of the drama that I have had to go through to get this family to seek medical attention for their child, not once, but twice. Both times it was very serious medical reasons. I called CPS this morning and they are not sure if I have a case or not??? HUH really? Their reasoning is because I don't know what is medically wrong with the child. Legally the family does not have to tell me?? UUUGGHH
as you can see, this whole situation is a huge mess... I will keep you all informed, when i am informed of what is going on and how I will be able to take of this once and for all....Comment
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Now I'm curious though. I wanna know the long story! If you feel like sharing, that is. That's ridiculous that they're trying to blame you.
What an awful situation; I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. I hope the girl ends up being all right in the end. You did everything in your power, and it's NOT your fault.Hee hee! Look, I have a signature!Comment
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I can post it at nap time, I am about to make lunch right now....get back to ya in a few..Comment
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I am so mad to hear they are blaming you!
And I am mad that CPS doesn't know if you have a case or not. I hope they investigate (I think they have to at least make a visit to the parents). BUT, I think you have done the right thing. At least you can say you have done everything in your power to help this child; you have our support!
I'm very interested to hear this long story when you can post it!Comment
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Please note, I'm not typically pessimistic...
I HIGHLY DOUBT IT!! I did the multi quote thing when I read this because I honestly have my doubts. I have a LOT of opinions about this situation, some based on experience with careless people, and some based on what Daycare had posted in previous posts.
Having read a previous related post, I can only imagine who is blaming you, and I suspect the one parent is much more the cause of that than the other...
Reading the bolded parts of your post it seems as though you really want to term due to the stress and the uncaring and unwilling to trust you and your opinion. I can also see how deep down in your heart you could be torn. Wanting to keep this girl in your care because it seems as though you are the only one who truly keeps an eye on her, yet at the same time you are more than ready to terminate the parents. I couldn't imagine going through what you are.I have no clue when and if the DCK will be coming back. Having no news and not too sure what is going on, I have to think right now what I am going to do about all of this.
I am tired of the drama that I have had to go through to get this family to seek medical attention for their child, not once, but twice. Both times it was very serious medical reasons. I called CPS this morning and they are not sure if I have a case or not??? HUH really? Their reasoning is because I don't know what is medically wrong with the child. Legally the family does not have to tell me?? UUUGGHH
as you can see, this whole situation is a huge mess... I will keep you all informed, when i am informed of what is going on and how I will be able to take of this once and for all....
I really hope everything turns out for both the girl and for you!Give a little love to a child, and you get a great deal back.Comment
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So I dont want to air all the drama out there about this whole situation, as I don't know where it stands right now..
Long story short....
Not sure if you recall me saying that the DCK was not eating at all. It went on for about a week or so. Every time the DCK did not eat I document it. Everything, the type of food served/refused, and the amounts of food that was offered. Each day that this happened, I talked to the DCM and told her DCK did not eat or drink anything again today. DCM was not bothered by it at all. Said well DCK eats at home just fine. Child has been here over a year, so nothing new with my food. Like I said, this went on for a little over a week.
DCK gets sick at home with the parents and the parents think that DCK got the 24 bug/flu or food poisioning of some kind. This was on a Friday that this happened and over into the weekend.
Tuesday, DCK comes back to care. DCD drops off and says nothing. This is the day that I notice the white stool. I called the DCM right away and voiced my concerns. Told her about my findings online and etc. Mom states oh DCD did not tell you that DCK was sick over the weekend and we have had DCK on the BRAT diet. I bet that is why DCK has white stool. Again, I tell the DCM well I am very concerned that the DCK has not been eating and now white stool, sick over the weekend with vomiting something is not right here.
I ask if DCK is taking any kind of medication, DCM says no. I tell DCM I think that the DCK needs to seek medical advice about the current problems and cannot come back until DCK has been seen by a doctor, DCM exact words were it's not in your rules that the DCK cant come back to care if not seen by a doctor for this reason...UUUGGGGHHHH
Next day DCK comes late and leaves early. I was told that I needed to have proof of the white stool and was hoping to get a collection of it, but that didnt happen before DCK left for the day.
I call and talk with the mom and finally tell the mom that she really has no choice but to take her child to the doctors. If she does not, then I have to turn her in for neglect and endangerment to her child. She was almost in tears. The husband is a very controlling person, and he and I don't get along at all. This woman cannot do anything without getting prior approval from her husband. I mean anything.
I know I said that this would be short....sorry Im getting to the point...
So DCK ends up int he hospital, at first it was just over night, then it turned out to be 4 days. During this time I try to give the family space and privacy, but still contacted them out of concern. The parents give me little information at all. No details and just don't really say much.
last night I get a call from the DCD and he wants to know why I was not properly feeding their child?? When I asked why he thinks that he says that this is what the MOM told him and the CHILD as well?? hhmm ok. So I go on to tell the DCD that I have been telling mom for the last 1.5 weeks that the child has not been eating or drinking at all, I asked would you like to see my documents that I have kept stating this. He then draws a blank. Says nothing and then changes the subject.
He then goes on to tell me that I should have told them sooner that I saw problems with the child... UUUMMM HELLO I did.....
He tells me that there is some serious medical problem and that if they would have only known sooner, the problem may not be so bad....I still have no idea what is wrong with the DCK.
At this point I am about to pop. I wonder if they can't hear me when I talk?? I had been telling them and they chose to do nothing about it.
I did not want to get into with the dad and make the situation worse, so I told him I am sorry that everyone is having to go through this right now, especially the DCK. Please do your best to keep me informed on how DCK is doing and let them know that we all miss DCK and hope that they get better soon so they can come back.
the jerk says oh you miss my kid now that they are gone and I have to still pay you. Then hangs up on me.
DCM called right back and says how sorry she is. Blah blah blah. This is all that I can hear right now.
I talk to DCM for about 10 minutes and can hear in her voice that she is about to cry. I told her that if there is anything that I can do to let me know and I will do everything that I can for the child. However, I told her that I would no longer be willing to communicate to her husband if he is going to sit here and disrespect me.
It was not a very good call and when the call was coming to an end, I found myself wondering if there is more going on at their house than I am aware of. The DCM sounds like she wanted to tell me something, but couldn't becuase her HB was right there.
I don't want to make assumptions, but Im feeling like there is some abuse going on here with the DCM and DCD.....
I don't even want to get into that right now, as the only thing that I really want is for this to be over...
Like someone said... I want to term over all the drama and Horse poo, but am so concerned that if I were not in this child's life what willl happen to the child?
What would you guys do?Comment
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