I Don't Like One Of My DCK

[Symphony]

I don't know that there are many families with three kids who wouldn't take an offer to care for two of the three for free and have the other one who is older (and will be separating from them in August anyway) go somewhere else for five months.

Your other families don't have to know the two are there for free but even if they do... it's none of their business.

Small town, and dcm works at the same place as my other two families. I assure you it would spread.


So this morning she came in screaming her head off. I had a mat set up for her in the nap room and I told her she was welcome to join the group when she was finished and sent her to the mat. She came to the rest of us within a couple of minutes so that was good! Getting ready to head to the breakfast table, so we'll see how that goes!

Gbcc~ thank you for sharing your experience. I have never felt this way and it is a really yucky place to be. I hope things get better at your house too.

[gbcc]

Gbcc~ thank you for sharing your experience. I have never felt this way and it is a really yucky place to be. I hope things get better at your house too.

It is very yucky! I have also never felt this way. I just try really hard to focus on the good, which honestly can be difficult at times. He of course would never know that I didn't care for him. I treat him the same and show him the same amount of interest as anyone else. For me, I am able to do this because I vent about him. It helps to have someone to vent to that will understand and then I am able to start fresh each morning. KWIM? Of course I only have him for 3 hours a day.

[nannyde]

Small town, and dcm works at the same place as my other two families. I assure you it would spread.

Nah
You just put it in a written contract that the deal is to remain confidential. If they have a choice between free day care and talking they WILL take free day care. Believe it.

[JenNJ]

Are you honestly considering free daycare for 2 kids just to get rid of one mean kid? Personally I value my time more than rewarding bad parenting with free daycare. If this is how this child acts, how do you think her siblings will act in a few months/years?

[Symphony]

Are you honestly considering free daycare for 2 kids just to get rid of one mean kid? Personally I value my time more than rewarding bad parenting with free daycare. If this is how this child acts, how do you think her siblings will act in a few months/years?

Ah! I had a huge reply and it just disappeared as I was typing!

Anyway...no, I thought about it last night and I wouldn't feel that was ethical to my other families. I had to entertain it because my decision to keep this family is based on the other kids, not on the money. As I said before, they are leaving in August, so I just have to hold out til then.

Breakfast was good. No comments, but she didn't eat anything either, so I may have to deal with starving to death later.

She did yawn a few minutes ago and immediately tell me, "Just because I yawned, don't make me take a nap". I cut that off real quick. I usually just ignored those comments, thinking I didn't want her to get a rise out of me, but you ladies made me realize ignoring her is validating her! The opposite of what I wanted...whoops!

[Abigail]

I would love to hear follow up on how this process is going. Good job for giving this your best try and stick to it everyday this week. You never know, she may end up loving you and respecting you because she is seeking someone who can guide her and show her love. All children need boundaries.

[Live and Learn]

Symphony:
Just for the record I don't like her either!::

Why isn't she in kinder if she is 5?

.....mark my words .....the 2 younger siblings will suffer from "chronic sassy mouth" too. They are watching and learning and so is everyone else in your care. It spreads like a contagious disease!

[momofsix]

Glad you hear you're ready to take control! Good for you
I expect a few posts in the next few days as she realizes what's happening and really starts to show you what she's made of And a few more when she starts talking to mom
Just stay strong. This little girl needs to learn now that she's not in control of her universe, or she'll get a rude awakening when she starts school!

[Symphony]

Ok so...so far so good. I have been on top of her all morning and she has been pretty good for the most part, she's been following me around, which she has never done, and she independently cleaned up the playroom while I was changing diapers before nap!

I told her that from now on everyone will lay down to have a little rest and that she doesn't have to sleep, but she needs to lay quiestly with the other kids. I told her I would check in 30 minutes and if she was awake and had been quiet then I wold get her up. She walked right to her mat and was asleep in 5 minutes.

I think being very clear about what happens next and what my expectations are is being very helpful to both of us. However, I'm positive she will have some tricks up her sleeve for me.

Thanks for the support and here's to a good afternoon!

[Hunni Bee]

I definitely "feel you" on this.

There's a kid who used to be in my class who is the "process of being termed"...he has been termed, but he is being allowed to stay in other classroom until his mom finds other arrangements.

He made my hair curl...he would run up behind me and squeeze my butt, snatch the book out of my hands at storytime, if I was disciplining another child he would yell at me to "leave ______ alone!" or hit and kick me. He'd show his privates, force kisses on other kids....ugh

The difference with him though is that he was extremely aggressive...I have been scratched, bitten, punched by this kid...my poor kids have been horribly harrassed by him.

I dreaded coming to work

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Ok so...so far so good. I have been on top of her all morning and she has been pretty good for the most part, she's been following me around, which she has never done, and she independently cleaned up the playroom while I was changing diapers before nap!

I told her that from now on everyone will lay down to have a little rest and that she doesn't have to sleep, but she needs to lay quiestly with the other kids. I told her I would check in 30 minutes and if she was awake and had been quiet then I wold get her up. She walked right to her mat and was asleep in 5 minutes.

I think being very clear about what happens next and what my expectations are is being very helpful to both of us. However, I'm positive she will have some tricks up her sleeve for me.

Thanks for the support and here's to a good afternoon!

How did this end?

[taylorw1210]

How did this end?

Yea, I'd like to know how this is working out for you.

[Hunni Bee]

I don't think this member posts anymore...i don't know if she lurks. I haven't seen a post from her in years.

[Blackcat31]

I don't think this member posts anymore...i don't know if she lurks. I haven't seen a post from her in years.

Her profile says the last activity for her was almost a year ago.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Her profile says the last activity for her was almost a year ago.

Now i am sad!