Problem Babies in My Day Care

[ConcernedMotherof2]

It's getting a little tense around here...

I have asked before and am asking again, please quit taking bits and pieces from peoples post and using them out of context. It is the same "unregistered" that is doing it, and I respectfully asked that she stop once before. You are making "mis-statements" about posts and what you THINK people said/and or are doing, because you are only using the bits and pieces you choose.

1) I don't withhold food for 4 or 5 or 6 hours, I have NEVER said that. I serve each child 2 meals per day, hopefully they eat it, sometimes they don't. I also serve snacks.

2) I also don't shut kids in a room and force a nap. Damn, I wish I knew HOW to force a kid to sleep, would make my days much better. If a under 1 1/2 yr old is doing nothing but whining and nothing consoles them, I will put them to bed in a dark room and they WILL go to sleep, only because they are TIRED, I certainly didn't or CAN'T force a 1 1/2 yr old to sleep. Gees. Oh yea, I DO use the radio, along with a LOT OF OTHER PROVIDERS.

QUOTE """"""I am just imagining these poor kids later in life who were shut in a dark room with the radio on to drown them out and left there and forced to nap because they were whiney. I can't even imagine the trauma this is causing in their little minds every day. It likens to a horror movie to me. They are upset and asking for comfort and they are being put in a pack n play and shut in a loud, dark room. I wonder if it's the same kids who also don't get to eat. I would whine too! I'd be HUNGRY!"""""" What drama..........Just how do you come up with this stuff. Please, just leave me alone, enough is enough.

To be fair, Mac60, you *did* say that when a child is constantly crying and there is nothing you can do, you put them in a dark room and turn the radio on to drown out the crying. To me, this brings on a visualization that is as unbearable as some of the other posters here are describing. Perhaps we misunderstood you... Maybe it's not as bad as it sounds? In describing a stressful situation and venting about it, is it possible that you made it sound a certain way, but the rest of us just don't get it?

[Unregistered]

To be fair, Mac60, you *did* say that when a child is constantly crying and there is nothing you can do, you put them in a dark room and turn the radio on to drown out the crying. To me, this brings on a visualization that is as unbearable as some of the other posters here are describing. Perhaps we misunderstood you... Maybe it's not as bad as it sounds? In describing a stressful situation and venting about it, is it possible that you made it sound a certain way, but the rest of us just don't get it?

Also to be fair, you *did* say that if they don't eat their lunch they are done for the day, and that they are not getting a snack later. So stop playing the victim. I am not "bullying" you. I am genuinely concerned. I have not come after you in any kind of vicious way and I have not personally attacked you in any way. Your posts are alarming to me and to others.
I have actually replied to other postings of yours where I agreed with what you wrote. So I am certainly not coming after you personally or trying to bully you. If you were my best friend in life I would still say the same things to you.

[mac60]

Yea well, I will stop playing the victim when you stop posting bits and pieces of what I put in my post, taking things out of context. Putting YOUR initerpretation of what I write. I am done. Hope it stops here.

[I forgot my username]

Folks, let's not forget that this is a place to support one another, not to bring them down.

This career is challenging enough without the added stress of being dumped on by the people that we are venting to. It's a tough call with taking away a plate from a kid, but if the child is being blatantly disrespectful and isn't allowing the others to eat their food, not to mention spitting is a disgusting habit and a huge disease spreader! I see that type of behavior as a way of the child telling me that they are not hungry. Maybe at snack time they will be ready to eat. As far as having dck's that cry constantly, at nap time this is an issue for others so what is a person supposed to do? I have one that has a funky nap schedule and 5 others that nap at the same time every day like clock work. Do I just let the one stay up and ruin nap for the others? I

In the wise words of Spock..."The needs of the one do not outweigh the needs of the many." (it may not be exactly that, but the spirit of the quote is the same." If you all have better solutions, then by all means offer them, but for crying out loud, this is supposed to be a place for support, not a place to tear people down. Help each other out, you all know that this is a tough gig.

Janet

[ConcernedMotherof2]

Free expression of opinion...

Yea well, I will stop playing the victim when you stop posting bits and pieces of what I put in my post, taking things out of context. Putting YOUR initerpretation of what I write. I am done. Hope it stops here.

Mac, there are often times when I do not agree with what you post. We are all entitled to our opinions here. And everything that you post is open to the interpretation of all who read it. If you meant something in one way and it was interpreted in another, why not say so? If you were simply venting (which is your right), why not say so?

[mac60]

At this point........It is not a matter of whether we agree on certain child rearing situations, I understand and respect that we all have our own ideas of what is right or wrong, as some parents/providers are much more lax in how a child behaves, it is not a matter of was I just venting or not, or did someone interpret what I wrote a way I didn't mean........at this point, and I said it before, it is a matter of someone pulling bits and pieces out of my post trying to make a point, putting THEIR interpretation of what I wrote, not allowing the full meaning of each comment to be presented. That is the problem. Not difference of opinions or how something was interpreted.

[Chickenhauler]

You make me crack up! Thanks for the much needed laugh!

Did I neglect to mention that one of my personality traits is being a consummate smartass?