Help Please!!

[Christian Mother]

I agree with what everyone else is saying. It sounds like mom and dad are having sleep through the night issues and forcing that onto you.

I had one mom who told me her 2 yr old could only sleep 30 min (actually only be on her mat 30 min-regarless of if she fell asleep or not in that time I was to remove her from her mat and play/stimulate her from 12:30-4 when her mom came to pick her up.) This kid was dead tired all the time. Mom kept her up until 11 at night just so she wouldnt get up before 5 am everyday. What a joke. Often times, I let her sleep until 3 like everyone else and what do you know those were the nights she was the best behaved and slept normally.

Don't let this family run your daycare. If it doesn't fit for them then they will have to move on to somewhere else.

Thank you!! I need to hear all of this bc I believe the way everyone else does on here and I needed to make sure I wasn't being ridiculous. I have a parent who picks up her son at nap time as she would prefer he sleep at his own place or at work with her...she owns her own company so she's able to do that. I don't mind this at all. There are times that she would like him here during nap time and I just told her that I was sorry but I am having a issue with another parent wanting to specilize his nap time and I just can't do that for everyone as each child needs to sleep together and that keeps me sain. She's been quite wonderful and understand and I have told her that if she'd like to bring him back after nap time she certainly can do that as those 2 hrs for me are important. I really appreciate some of my parents who tell me how much they appreciate what I do for them and there child and how they completly trust me and my judgement. For some reason this family is not like that at all. Makes me really think about there character and disrespect. Boy though, I love there son. He is so smart and great in my care...but as soon as he is around mom or dad...he grows horns.!!

[nannyde]

So, either 1 of two things happens. DD comes early lingers and down loads on me about why I can't work on this with them

They aren't asking you to work WITH them ... they are asking you to DO IT.

They are bullying you.

Tell them he will nap when the other kids do and they will stop doing long drop off and pick ups.

Tell them NO more nap discussions. I wouldn't want to discuss their sleep deal for another minute. ENOUGH

You seem super sweet and I can feeeel it in every post. Don't let these guys be mean to you and call it "the best interest" of the child.

They shouldn't be ****ing the life out of three times a day... arrival.. nap.. and pick up.

Geeze she did day care for cryin out loud. I have a feeling they searched for a day care they thought they could bully and now they are working that magic on you. They can just say words and you get to give them three hours a day of either parental one to one or the kid one to one.

Time for them to move on to their next victim.

[Christian Mother]

They aren't asking you to work WITH them ... they are asking you to DO IT.

They are bullying you.

Tell them he will nap when the other kids do and they will stop doing long drop off and pick ups.

Tell them NO more nap discussions. I wouldn't want to discuss their sleep deal for another minute. ENOUGH

You seem super sweet and I can feeeel it in every post. Don't let these guys be mean to you and call it "the best interest" of the child.

They shouldn't be ****ing the life out of three times a day... arrival.. nap.. and pick up.

Geeze she did day care for cryin out loud. I have a feeling they searched for a day care they thought they could bully and now they are working that magic on you. They can just say words and you get to give them three hours a day of either parental one to one or the kid one to one.

Time for them to move on to their next victim.

Yes, pretty much as a matter of fact DD came to pick up his son at 2:30pm....I just had a little hunch that he'd be WAY early to check on me. But, I never lie nor do I say I am going to do something and not do it. I told DM that i would put put him down from 11am til 1pm. My normal time and as DD walks up stairs says to me..."He isn't asleep is he?" I looked at him with that look of WHAT?!! I said of course not...he had a 2 hr nap just as I said he would. So as soon as DS see's DD he smiles and runs up to give him a hug and then goes back to his toys. I could tell that DD was upset...he wanted badly to say something but couldn't find fault until he notices 2 bruises on his sons face which he asked about and I said that DS came in with those this morning. They where very light and nothing red or swollen. He made me feel like he was accusing me of something. But he left early and did NOT linger!! Thank heavens!! I just find it very funny that he came checking up on me. If they don't trust me then why use me as a daycare provider. If I for one moment wasn't happy with the daycare program I was using I'd remove him. That would be on me and me alone..my decision.
DD didn't mention anything about nap or argue in anyway and like you said Nannyde...I wasn't for a min. going to discuss it any further.

And see that is where it gets me the most....that this lady was a daycare provider. She above all should not have asked. We even talked about this when interviewing and I said I just could not do that. Hopefully since DD picked up little guy early that will allow them quite a while to wear him out so he will sleep through the night but I am guessing he just hasn't transitioned from sleeping through the night as of yet.

[Christian Mother]

Lingering Father

Sooooo Tired of DCD lingering!! The last couple days he's been mad at me so he's been picking up early and leaving quickly. But today he stayed for 45min. I know...I should of put a stop to this long ago...but my husband is usually home and he can talk to my husband for how ever long...but today after 10 min. it was a apparent he was staying ...I even tried giving them all there daycare papers and he still didn't leave. I just couldn't direct my DCK as well as my own and even though he spend some time outside on the phone. I am still not sure why he has been waiting...and I don't care. I finally got my last DCK's shoes on and went out side to really get him start a move on it...I found the kids playing basketball on the little kids basketball. I don't have a problem with my 8 yr old and his friend coming over and playing on the playground or playhouse...yes they are for toddlers but the kids play tag around it or jump on the swings and go down or play on the hoop that is on the side of the little play house. His oldest son (14) and mine (8) and my sons friend (8) where taking turns tossing the ball into the hoop and my last DCB was playing with them but sometimes the ball would miss the target and land some where close to the boy so I just kindly asked for them to watch out for the little on and let him interact with them. He did great made some baskets...after a while there oldest son got bored and sat down to watch and then there youngest..my other DCB wanted to linger by the net...he was just playing with it so my sons friend went over to him and said no no you have to move so you don't get hurt...and he was trying to remove his hands and remove him from the net. This child decided to thow a all out fit on the ground next to the net bc he couldn't be near it. His father through a 2 yr old fit right next to him yelling at the boys that they should not be playing with toddler toys nor throwing balls bc there to big for the net. Granted there where 4 balls..all reg. size. one soccer, 2 basketball, and 1 volleyball. They all fit through the hoop no problem but that pretty much solved my delima on him staying bc he said ok kids lets go and by bye they went...I was so stund by this behavior I just laughed. I decided that a call home is what there getting bc my husband isn't always home when my DCK get picked up. I had had it!! I called and I got a hung up after 3 rings it went dead...could be my cell....then I called 2 min. later and ended up leaving a message. Not exactly what I had in mind...but mom does drop offs fast and I dropped the bomb on her Monday of no more specialized nap time for her son so trying to bring up something again...not good. I wanted both of them to hear my message and I wanted her to question him as to why he feels the need to spend 45min at my house. I wouldn't be ok with that specially if there was no hubby at the house. I just pretty much told them that pick up is at 4:30pm her our agreement that they signed. I can not have any parent lingering that it needs to be a swift pick up. If they wld like to pick up early I need a call or text message so I have time to prepare there child to be picked up. If there going to be a few min. late. Same thing and that all my parents do this for me as a sign of respect. No more lingering!! It isn't safe and it makes me and my husband uncomfortable. I did ask for a call back as I want to make sure we are all in agreement and no miss understanding. Do you think I should have this written up and given to both parents tomorrow to sign? If so,...does anyone have a sample of one I can have?

[nannyde]

I just pretty much told them that pick up is at 4:30pm her our agreement that they signed. I can not have any parent lingering that it needs to be a swift pick up. If they wld like to pick up early I need a call or text message so I have time to prepare there child to be picked up. If there going to be a few min. late. Same thing and that all my parents do this for me as a sign of respect. No more lingering!! It isn't safe and it makes me and my husband uncomfortable. I did ask for a call back as I want to make sure we are all in agreement and no miss understanding. Do you think I should have this written up and given to both parents tomorrow to sign? If so,...does anyone have a sample of one I can have?

YAY for you.

You don't need a letter. Just TELL them... quick drop off and quick pick ups and nap will be with the other kids. If they need to discuss something with you that can't be done quickly they are welcome to text you or do a brief convo during nap when you can get to it.

[Christian Mother]

Yup, finally grew a back bone...I called and left a message expecting one in return...no such thing. Either they didn't get it or it was on some other answering machine...? But when mom drops off we'll be having a little chat...short and sweet. And hopefully I won't have to have another one when dad comes to pick up son. Well see...Stayed tune...I am sure there will be more news. There always is with these parents.

[Christian Mother]

update on lingering DCD

It went GREAT!!! I was able to explained without letting up or making excuses...and guess what..he came at his designated time and didn't linger!! YEAA!! Now to see how the start of the new week goes....