Are You An Old School Provider

[countrymom]

I can already tell which people on this site are old school, because the majority of the time I agree with them::
Its funny, because I'm in my middle thirties, but I grew up so differently than todays parents. so do you implement your old school ways in your daycare too or do you follow todays standard of parenting skills.
If you don't know what todays parenting skills are, look at the posts about parents and kids.

[DCMomOf3]

Am I old school or new? i honestly have no idea.

[Michelle]

I am definitely old school.
I have seen the changes in parenting styles through the years and I can't believe the difference from 20 years ago.
Kids today get to make way too many choices and they think they are in charge of their parents.
I do let my kids choose things like what color cup they want or which type of fruit etc. but I have seen a parent ask a child if he feels like bringing his jacket to dc and I just couldn't believe it!!

My favorite all time comedian routine about this subject is Bill Cosby, Himself.
We watch it very often and it's so hilarious.

[countrymom]

I am definitely old school.
I have seen the changes in parenting styles through the years and I can't believe the difference from 20 years ago.
Kids today get to make way too many choices and they think they are in charge of their parents.
I do let my kids choose things like what color cup they want or which type of fruit etc. but I have seen a parent ask a child if he feels like bringing his jacket to dc and I just couldn't believe it!!

My favorite all time comedian routine about this subject is Bill Cosby, Himself.
We watch it very often and it's so hilarious.

omgosh, you are so right. I too can't believe that parents would rather reason with a 2 yr old rather than tell them "no" i also can't believe that parents are giving their children way too much choices and freedom. I also can't believe that many many children can't even dress themselves, I just can't get over that. I think thats why I do everything the way I was brought up, you didn't hit your parents, you used your manners and if you did something bad, you were disciplined, not rewarded with a new game. Also, we had to pick our own clothes and know how to do zippers and tie shoes. Not a parent doing those things.

[marniewon]

omgosh, you are so right. I too can't believe that parents would rather reason with a 2 yr old rather than tell them "no" i also can't believe that parents are giving their children way too much choices and freedom. I also can't believe that many many children can't even dress themselves, I just can't get over that. I think thats why I do everything the way I was brought up, you didn't hit your parents, you used your manners and if you did something bad, you were disciplined, not rewarded with a new game. Also, we had to pick our own clothes and know how to do zippers and tie shoes. Not a parent doing those things.

Yep, I agree. I'm definitely old-school too.

[DCMomOf3]

omgosh, you are so right. I too can't believe that parents would rather reason with a 2 yr old rather than tell them "no" i also can't believe that parents are giving their children way too much choices and freedom. I also can't believe that many many children can't even dress themselves, I just can't get over that. I think thats why I do everything the way I was brought up, you didn't hit your parents, you used your manners and if you did something bad, you were disciplined, not rewarded with a new game. Also, we had to pick our own clothes and know how to do zippers and tie shoes. Not a parent doing those things.

I am definitely old school.
I have seen the changes in parenting styles through the years and I can't believe the difference from 20 years ago.
Kids today get to make way too many choices and they think they are in charge of their parents.
I do let my kids choose things like what color cup they want or which type of fruit etc. but I have seen a parent ask a child if he feels like bringing his jacket to dc and I just couldn't believe it!!

My favorite all time comedian routine about this subject is Bill Cosby, Himself.
We watch it very often and it's so hilarious.

Ok, I'm totally old school.

[Cat Herder]

Old School....

[MN Mom]

30 years old, been a mother for almost 12 years. I am old school all the way!

[nannyde]

old school babysitter and PROUD of it

[DCMom]

omgosh, you are so right. I too can't believe that parents would rather reason with a 2 yr old rather than tell them "no" i also can't believe that parents are giving their children way too much choices and freedom. I also can't believe that many many children can't even dress themselves, I just can't get over that. I think thats why I do everything the way I was brought up, you didn't hit your parents, you used your manners and if you did something bad, you were disciplined, not rewarded with a new game. Also, we had to pick our own clothes and know how to do zippers and tie shoes. Not a parent doing those things.

So true! Definitely old school here.

My dh and I were just having this conversation last night. After 22 years of doing this that I might be 'too old'. It seems every family I interview lately is looking for pre-school at 2 and not potty training till 3.5 - 4. :confused:

The other thing that really bugs me it the amount of time that kids spend in daycare ~ 50+ hours a week. When do parents have time to parent, much less have and such opinions about it?

Case in point: last week I had an interview; she called me yesterday to tell me that she loved me, loved my daycare, loved my program but she couldn't get past the number of days I take off (not excessive, normal holidays, some paid, some unpaid) because they prefer to use their vacation days for themselves, not for the daycare. Translation: When I take a vacation day, my kid is going to be at daycare.


Honestly, why did you have them if they are such an inconvenience?

[littlemissmuffet]

I am just under thrity, and I would say for the most part - I am old school.

I am always shocked and horrified when I see parents reasoning with a naughty child - in my house, no means no and what I say goes - END OF STORY. There is no room for negotiation.
I agree on the comments about giving choices as well... what color sippy cup you want for the day and what kind of veggie you prefer for snack (of the options *I* give, of course) is totally fine but choosing if they are going to wear a jacket or not - NO WAY!
I watch kids walk all over their parents all the time, and then listen to those same parents complain that their kids are out of contol...
wonder why?

I have another question, that probably has already been discussed here... what are feelings on spankings here (obviously with own kids, not DC kids)?

[Little People]

I am so Old School , I can remember when you told your child to do something and never ask them if they would do it

I can remember Johnson's Diapers ::::::

[littlemonkeys]

30 years old, been a mother for almost 12 years. I am old school all the way!

This is me too! (32 and a mother for 14 years) Defintely old school!!

[littlemissmuffet]

I am so Old School , I can remember when you told your child to do something and never ask them if they would do it

I can remember Johnson's Diapers ::::::

I agree - I NEVER ASK... I tell!

I watched my best friend with her 3 year odl the other day...
MOM: "Are you going to start listening?"
CHILD: *ignores*
MOM: "Do you want a time out?"
CHILD: *ignores*
MOM: "Go to the corner for a time out and let me know when you are ready to listen."
CHILD: "I'm ready to listen!"
MOM: "Okay, no time out then"
Unbelievable!

As if! The children in my home do not ignore me. Nor do THEY tell ME when they're ready - I DECIDE!

[Cat Herder]

old school babysitter and PROUD of it

:::: Same here!!! The new fad of calling a Child Care Provider/ Babysitter a "Teacher" is right up there with calling a Stripper a "Dancer" to me....

Now, I know there are actual Teachers that teach pre-school to "underserved" kids... I am NOT one of those.

I take care of children's emotional, nutritional and physical needs, for pay, while their parents work = Babysitter.