Toddler Won't Let me Change Her

[Pestle]

A three year old slapped at you? Did you follow through with more than a "no"?

No, there was no three-year-old who slapped at me. There was the child in my thread. She is 22 months.

[Mom2Two]

No, there was no three-year-old who slapped at me. There was the child in my thread. She is 22 months.

Sorry! I got mixed up.

[Pestle]

Ha, after seeing the other thread I wish I hadn't titled this "Won't let me" but something like "When a Meltdown and a Poop Coincide"

Big sibling had a meltdown yesterday after nap. Parent came back from work trip in the afternoon and did pick up. Thank goodness. Big sibling was articulating the problem all afternoon:

"I want my mommy! I miss my mommy!"

and also sobbing and drooling all over himself because he refused to help clean up and then the other kids cleaned up without him WHICH WAS NOT OKAY. Then I had the audacity to recommend he not drool on himself ("BUT I WANT TO") and he went back to his napping mat to moan and mumble for a while. DH and I have a code for this kind of sleep-deprived emotional exhaustion that passes the event horizon of being able to self-soothe or accept help from an adult: it's being "on that island."

In National Velvet, the little brother of Elizabeth Taylor and Angela Lansbury's (!) characters is up too late while Mickey Rooney's character tells him the story of The Black Stallion. When he gets to the part where the horse is rescued, Donald suddenly starts screaming "No, they didn't! He died! He died on that island! He died, he died, he died!" and his dad casually slings him over his shoulder and totes him up the stairs to bed, flailing and hollering "He died on that island!" all the way. When I showed the movie to my family, DH laughed so hard he fell out of his chair and hyperventilated on the floor.

So between this pair and the little guy who's grieving, we're spending a lot of time on that island lately.

Also, Angela Lansbury was fine--stately?--as a 17yo and I don't know how to feel about that, because I'm young enough that my first encounter with her was TV ads for Murder, She Wrote. ::

[Hunni Bee]

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This actually happened to me last Saturday! This guy I'm SURE is on some sort of spectrum or will be. He's 2, NO language whatsoever - only moans, laughs and cries. Can't feed self, cries when asked to do anything. Hits as a form of communication.

I called him to change him. Runs away. I catch him and bring him to the changing area. Slaps my hands. I grabbed his hand and told him no hitting. He tries to BITE . Noped out of there. He wasn't soaked and his mom was due to arrive in 20 mins.

[ColorfulSunburst]

I never ask kids if they want to change the diaper. I inform them it's time for changing. I think it's not right to give any child a right to manage a daycare routine. Especially if they are toddlers.