Going to Court Question Please Help

[Leigh]

I was subpoenaed over the summer to testify on behalf of a former DCM. Her attorney had me write an affidavit as to what I witnessed, and I was not required to attend court.

[MomBoss]

They still want you to go after you said you wont say anything negative about him and will stay neutral for the child? Did you ever make that clear?

[Blackcat31]

I’m going to on Friday. But what’s that going to solve? I still have to go to court. I’m going to call the clerk of the court tomorrow and tell them my situation and see if I can get out of it.

Thinking about you this morning... :hug:

Hoping this whole thing has a good outcome for you.

Keep us posted!

[Ac114]

Thinking about you this morning... :hug:

Hoping this whole thing has a good outcome for you.

Keep us posted!

Yes! Please update us.

Thinking of you today!

[knoxmomof2]

Wow, I can't believe the selfishness of this person! I'll be watching for an update.

[Mike]

I hope you got out of this, and if not, hope you didn't lose the new family because of it.

[Dsquared]

Sorry everyone! I never told you guys what happened. They ended up not having me testify! They told me the day before. Thank goodness! Thanks for all your advice.

[Blackcat31]

Sorry everyone! I never told you guys what happened. They ended up not having me testify! They told me the day before. Thank goodness! Thanks for all your advice.

Thank goodness! I am glad it worked out well for you!
It's so hard when families try to put their provider in the middle.

[Meeko]

Did you terminate care for the mom?

[Dsquared]

Thank goodness! I am glad it worked out well for you!
It's so hard when families try to put their provider in the middle.

I was so happy and relieved.

[Dsquared]

Did you terminate care for the mom?

I’m embarrassed to say I did not! I have had the hardest time ever filling spots. I’ve never been through this before. I’ve lost so much of my income. I use to get calls from Craigslist but not anymore. I have 6 different ads and I repost them 3 times a day. I try and advertise on facebook as well. I may have to get a job outside of the home.

[Ariana]

I think this is a good reminder to really stay out of peoples business. Sometimes we take a sympathetic ear to a complaining spouse and we might agree or say things ourselves and the next thing you know they want us to testify on their behalf. I am not saying the OP did this I am simply saying that a person has less of a chance to see you as “on their side” and wanting you to go on trial to be negative about the other parent if we said absolutely nothing when they complained.

Glad it worked out in the end for you :hug:

[LysesKids]

I’m embarrassed to say I did not! I have had the hardest time ever filling spots. I’ve never been through this before. I’ve lost so much of my income. I use to get calls from Craigslist but not anymore. I have 6 different ads and I repost them 3 times a day. I try and advertise on facebook as well. I may have to get a job outside of the home.

First... daycare is not overnight cash as many seem to believe; it can take months to get full. Also, posting on CL more than every 48 hrs will get you banned if they find out its same poster even if different ads; facebook is hit or miss & not worth it IMO.

Flyers in Pediatrician offices, children stores, left in library books for age appropriate. If you are state legal, post at Social services office with a flyer, especially if you will take state vouchers... that is a hit or miss in certain states, so beware... some states take a few months to pay, some don't; get on food program if you can

[LysesKids]

Sorry everyone! I never told you guys what happened. They ended up not having me testify! They told me the day before. Thank goodness! Thanks for all your advice.

And yes, glad it worked out... I personally had a clause in the policies & contract (up until last year when I quit daycare) that I would not allow parents to put in me in a position of going to court for one or the other; it meant instant termination if I was expected to side one way or another... I believe BC had the perfect paragraph to put int policies to keep parents from asking you to side one way or another... I know my policies did the trick, ( I'll have to look up the last copy as website is closed down)