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I slept in for the first time in years two weeks ago and was shocked at what happened. My husband had already left for work so the side door was unlocked. My daycare parents always knock and walk into my porch area for pick ups and drop offs. That morning a daycare mom came with her two and half year old son and did what she typically would do, knocked and walked into the porch area. When I did not come to the door though she proceeded to wander through my home looking for me until she found me in bed sleeping. I was just completely shocked. I felt really bad for sleeping in but I honestly do not think that this lady had a right to be wandering around my house either. I hold an open door policy when a client's child is in my care, not when I do not have the child yet. Plus my daycare is run downstairs and my upstairs is suppose to be our private home. How would you feel if one of your daycare parents did this?
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She may have just been concerned because you weren't up and about especially since you haven't done that in years. I would think she should have at least been calling you or calling Helloooooooo? Anybody home?
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This woman had no right to wander through your house and come into your bedroom. That said, I would be a little PO'ed to drop my son off at daycare and find the place "not open". And with that being said, I wouldn't be asleep in the house with the door unlocked because just as she let herself in, a creep could do the same thing. But I dont live in a safe city, so it may be different...Comment
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I can see all sides of this, but honestly, I'd be irate if a parent walked into my bedroom!!! She could have (and should have) called you when she didn't see you there to greet them. There is no reason to be walking all through your house looking for you. Obviously, if you were up and about, you would be waiting for them, or at least in the process of getting to them. If she was concerned about you, she should have tried calling you. Or pounding on the door. I would feel very awkward as a parent walking through my provider's house. I probably wouldn't do it - no matter how concerned I was. If I couldn't reach my provider by knocking or calling, I would probably call the police to come and do a well-being check.
And to Hunni Bee - we live in a safe area, and we NEVER lock our doors. My dh leaves way before I get up and he never locks the door behind him. In fact, I don't even have a key to the door. Well, maybe somewhere, but I don't know where. Although, when I get up, I go out and lock the door, just so I can get ready and let the dog out before my families start to arrive, just in case of that rare occasion when they get here way early and just walk in.Comment
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i think it would be awkward more than infuriating! I open at 6 so the only lights that are on are the one above the stove and the hall light because my family is still sleeping, and so are my littles when they get dropped off so I don't look "open" until 8ish when everyone starts getting up.
She should have rang the doorbell, called, called your name, etc..anything but wandering into your bedroom, that's kinda weird.Comment
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I would be mad thats for sure, but maybe she thought something happened, I think she was worried. I have a door bell alarm (you can buy it at homedepot) it costs 40 dollars, everytime the door opens it a ding dong sound. The main unit is attatched to the door and the you can plug the unit it anywhere, so you can move it around.Comment
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Man would I be irate!
Id start sleeping in the nude. This way if there is a next time (there better not be because WHO DOES THAT?) and you sit up with Thelma and Louise hanging out then maybe that would scare the parent into waiting in her car. Or across the street."Being a parent is wanting to hug and strangle your kid at the same time".Comment
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Honestly, I wouldn't care.
Like you, I have an open door policy too and also have the DC downstairs with our private living quarters upstairs - but I don't think any of my parents would come upstairs to my room... I think they would call my name around the house (from the bottom of the stairs), which would probably wake me up. If not, they would call from their cell phones and start rining the door bell to wake me (that definitely would).
Coming up in to my room is not something I would expect them to do, but if any of them did, I really don't think I would be bothered by it - I'm really comfy with all my moms and dads.Comment
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hmm... well I am sure she has a phone and so do you right?? a call should have been made before ever entering any property..... And this is what i would be telling this parent.
What if you were not home? Then guess what she would be guilty of breaking and entering....
not that you would ever do that, but that is the harsh truth...... yes this is a business, but it is a HOME.
BTW I would be embarassed and mad if someone did this, as I sleep without clothes.......... sorry you had to hear that.....
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I disagree. First, not everyone has a cellphone. I don't. All my parents do at current, but in the past I have had parents who don't... I would never expect my parents to call my cellphone or home before coming in!hmm... well I am sure she has a phone and so do you right?? a call should have been made before ever entering any property..... And this is what i would be telling this parent.
What if you were not home? Then guess what she would be guilty of breaking and entering.... not that you would ever do that, but that is the harsh truth...... yes this is a business, but it is a HOME.
BTW I would be embarassed and mad if someone did this, as I sleep without clothes.......... sorry you had to hear that.....
Also, my parents all just give a quick knock and walk right in, no matter what time of day (during business hours of course). Their children are in my home, I want the parents to be just as comfortable as the children. I also can't be running back and forth to answer the door all the time.
I only sleep in the nude on weekends (just in case I do oversleep). During the week, boxers and a tee. LOL.Comment
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I would have to say that I would be pretty upset... Especially if my bedroom was upstairs. She had no right to go upstairs and she should have just called you on the phone or yelled your name. I can understand walking in to your downstairs and looking around for you, but Even if no response, its still not her business to go upstairs and start opening doors to end up in your bedroom. What if you were on the toilet, or naked and in the middle of getting dressed? Its just awkward! Doesn't excuse you from sleeping in, but like you said it hasn't happened in a long time and we're only human.
What did she say?Comment
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Did you talk to her? It sounds like one of those things that will be an 'elephant in the room' until someone brings it up. Then you will both breathe a sigh of relief and laugh it off nervously. In a month, you'll be on to some other annoyance.Comment
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Ok not sure Im understanding this post. A dc parent walked on in to your home/bedroom and you were asleep? Were you supposed to be closed that day? Opening later? Two diffrent schools of thought here: She had no right to enter your bedroom and secondly: How were you in bed if you usually are up?
I actually had a parent come in drop her child off and leave when I wasnt in the dc area (bathroom run) and when I walked out here was the boy and no mom. Needless to say that never happened again!
I had another family come 30 minutes early and they just walked right in and stood in the dark until I came out b/c I thought I heard the door. (I thought the door was locked)
My hubby leaves through the garag somy front door is locked until I open!
I would have a talk with that mom!
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you might want to be thankful that she wandered through your home and WOKE YOU UP when you were supposed to be working. SHE had to be at work and has paid YOU to watch her child so that she doesn't have to be late or call in.
(for the record, this OP hasn't responded so we don't KNOW that this parent didn't try to call also)
it would take ONCE for me to go to daycare to find it empty before terminating. however, if i had the NERVE to walk in through an unlocked door and look around for the person i paid to keep my child - and i found them so no harm was done - i wouldn't think it was too big of a deal.
i'm sure she's told people the story and everyone is saying "are you serious? she was in BED and you had to wake her up?!"Comment
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