Advice

[rosieteddy]

I would give him a heads up.Why not call him before next drop off.Explain that as a licensed Daycare you are a mandated reporter.See how he reacts.Tell him that you thought he was drinking. If you call the police he has no chance.I do agree with one drop off and pickup per day.It really messes up your program with kids and parent in and out.

[springv]

Anonymous post

I would report to the child abuse hotline because technically it is abuse.

[Cat Herder]

Why not have the parents in for a conference to discuss your concerns? Both parents.

[Blackcat31]

Anonymous says:

Talked to dcm today and it’s just a bigger mess. Said she’s shocked it’s taken me so long to figure out he’s an alcoholic. To just tell dcd that I won’t release the kids to him if he smells like alcohol. I explained I can’t do that per Licensing I can’t withhold kids from parents. So she laughs and says guess you just have to have an uncomfortable conversation with him because she can’t do anything.
She laughed.. I’m Still in shock.

[redmaple]

Wow, yes there would be an uncomfortable conversation, one that involved an immediate termination and a need to report.

[Cat Herder]

"She laughed.. "

I'd simply terminate and enjoy my life. She picked him, she can deal with him. They clearly don't need childcare. Give them the gift of no and force her to find a solution.

[Annalee]

Talked to dcm today and it’s just a bigger mess. Said she’s shocked it’s taken me so long to figure out he’s an alcoholic. To just tell dcd that I won’t release the kids to him if he smells like alcohol. I explained I can’t do that per Licensing I can’t withhold kids from parents. So she laughs and says guess you just have to have an uncomfortable conversation with him because she can’t do anything.
She laughed.. I’m Still in shock.

NOPE NOPE and NOPE...not acceptable!

[Josiegirl]

"She laughed.. "

I'd simply terminate and enjoy my life. She picked him, she can deal with him. They clearly don't need childcare. Give them the gift of no and force her to find a solution.

THIS.
Doesn't she care that her estranged dh is driving under the influence with their kids in jeopardy?? Or will she only care when an accident happens and THEN she'll find someone else to blame.
Yeh, I'd terminate and tell them exactly why; YOU don't want to be the one responsible for allowing an accident to happen.

[Mom2Two]

Even though he lives a couple of blocks away, there's no guarantee that he's heading home, so no I wouldn't release to the dad without immediately calling the cops about it.

BUT it's mom's responsibility to get some kind of temporary order on this, especially since it's an ongoing problem.

I think she needs to be told to go get a temp order and that the provider shouldn't be in the middle of this situation. Also, I think I would report this, coz mom doesn't seem to care really.

I would also be prepared to testify to prove the need for a temp order if it happens.

[boy_mom]

Honestly, I would term for her general lack of caring about the situation and for her children's well being. She thinks it isn't her problem, but I would be making it her problem at pick up tonight! What a punk!

[lblanke]

I would term. If he appears intoxicated/impaired, I do not think you can release the child to him, and I think you have to report. And, I agree, TERM immediately.

[hwichlaz]

I'm sure she cares, but she can't do anything about it without looking like it's devious.

So he's driving the few blocks or walking with them? It's not illegal to drink and parent, but if he's driving with them I'd have the police waiting around the corner.