Honestly Why Are People Rude?

[Cat Herder]

The updated training video says to look for the *good idea* in his action. :: So, going with that theory, at least he knows not the throw it on the floor?

Awesome of you to get the rack. Sorry you had to. :hug:

[hwichlaz]

It wouldn't occur to me to hang a coat on a doorknob. You need to be able to use the doorknobs. Put up some coat hooks and I bet he'll use them.

[lovemykidstoo]

It wouldn't occur to me to hang a coat on a doorknob. You need to be able to use the doorknobs. Put up some coat hooks and I bet he'll use them.

Have used the doorknobs here since we moved in 3 years ago. When you walk in, you are standing in front of the closet door to the right and the basement door to the left. Both, within arms reach. I don't use either of those doors for daycare. The closet is for our things and the basement I don't utilize for daycare. I have always hung the coats up there. He's the first one to ever put a coat on top of my decorations. My husband is at menards right now buying over the door hanger.

[lovemykidstoo]

The updated training video says to look for the *good idea* in his action. :: So, going with that theory, at least he knows not the throw it on the floor?

Awesome of you to get the rack. Sorry you had to. :hug:

I like how positive you are I just think if he's going to do that, the least he could do is say, hey do you mind if I put it here? Not just put it up there. Will have an over the door hanger within 30 minutes. I'll use that for when family comes over too so it's all good and it's less than $10 but just was put off by it.

[happymom]

Definitely rude.

[Unregistered]

I am to the point now where I say something. I used to bite my tongue about a lot of things but now I say what needs to be said. I refuse to let my house get disrespected. My own kids know better and if a dck or parent does something I do not like I say something. A couple examples are my landscaping. Keep your kid out of my landscaping. Kids also mess with my screen door. I put a stop to that. I am over it this week.

[Pestle]

From a design standpoint, this is happening because you have not provided an intuitive place to put the coat. Yes, it is rude that he is knocking over your stuff. However, it is human nature to take the path of least resistance, so if there is no clearly-visible coat hook immediately accessible as soon as people walk through the door, you can expect them to continue to toss coats wherever. A doorknob is not a coat hook, even if other people have been hanging coats on them, and honestly I would not feel comfortable hanging up a coat on a doorknob in anybody's house. It's just not how anyone in my household does it, so it would never occur to me in the first place, and I'd feel rude and lazy doing it.

You have to hold people's hands and walk them through the process if they are encountering anything new or unusual.

How old is the child? If she is old enough to stand up, she is old enough to put her coat away herself. Spend the next week walking her through that process ( and make sure you have a designated coat spot that she is capable of reaching). Once she can put her own coat away, you can cut him off before he tosses the coat anywhere, and tell him that his daughter needs to put her own clothing away herself. Then have her show him how to do it!

[e.j.]

My full timer, comes in every morning and dad puts her coat on my little table by the door. I always have some sort of decoration on there. Right now it's my snowman and a little sign. I mean does anyone think this is rude? As soon as he does it, I take it off and put it on one of the 2 doorknobs that i have right there. To the right is a closet and to the left is the basement, so there are doorknobs there. There may be another coat on them, but you can always double it up. I would never dream of putting a coat on someone's decorations. Do I just need a vacation or is this rude?

He's definitely being rude - although I'm sure you could use a vacation. Can't we all? ;-)

My dd makes various crafts and often will go to craft fairs to sell them. She puts time, effort and money into making her crafts. Last weekend, I went with her to help out. She had set up a display of hair bows made out of ribbons. An older woman came by and bought some of the earrings she had made. In order to get to her wallet, though, the woman laid her purse down right on top of the bows, squashing them all. I was proud of my dd for remaining polite and professional but she was so angry - and rightfully so! Some people are just so oblivious!

I like your idea of the hanging coat rack that can be put away when you're not doing day care. Hopefully, it will solve the problem for you.

[lovemykidstoo]

He's definitely being rude - although I'm sure you could use a vacation. Can't we all? ;-)

My dd makes various crafts and often will go to craft fairs to sell them. She puts time, effort and money into making her crafts. Last weekend, I went with her to help out. She had set up a display of hair bows made out of ribbons. An older woman came by and bought some of the earrings she had made. In order to get to her wallet, though, the woman laid her purse down right on top of the bows, squashing them all. I was proud of my dd for remaining polite and professional but she was so angry - and rightfully so! Some people are just so oblivious!

I like your idea of the hanging coat rack that can be put away when you're not doing day care. Hopefully, it will solve the problem for you.

That's terrible about the bows.

[lovemykidstoo]

Really if he would have just asked it wouldn't have been so bad but to continuously do it I think is rude. Plus, at the end of the day he takes the coat off the door knob where I put it after we go outside, so it's not like he can't see that that is where I keep it and see other kids' coats too, but for $8 I solved the problem. My husband ran to the store this morning and bought this hook for me. Much better all the way around.

[Snowmom]

I am to the point now where I say something. I used to bite my tongue about a lot of things but now I say what needs to be said.

Definitely!

I just recently lost my marbles on a family who kept putting their kids shoes on top the arm of my brand new couch.
My entry is very open but there is a huge rug, a three tier shoe bin and a chair for the kids... but no, apparently my couch looks like the shoe organizer.

I don't bite my tongue when it comes to my home. Their parenting abilities... yes, but not my home.

[Blackcat31]

I don't bite my tongue when it comes to my home. Their parenting abilities... yes, but not my home.

I have a lightswitch by my door that controls my dusk to dawn light. Every time a kid turns the light switch on/off, it clears out the "programming" for the light and my DH is going batty fixing it. We put a cover over the light switch and a sign that says "Do NOT touch".

I have parents that will say in a smirky tone..."You know the kids can't read"

I'm like "No, but YOU can"

[amberrose3dg]

I have a lightswitch by my door that controls my dusk to dawn light. Every time a kid turns the light switch on/off, it clears out the "programming" for the light and my DH is going batty fixing it. We put a cover over the light switch and a sign that says "Do NOT touch".

I have parents that will say in a smirky tone..."You know the kids can't read"

I'm like "No, but YOU can"

Ugh this is my Christmas lights. We have a timer outside. Daycare kids mess with it at pickup right in front of parents. Guess who has to tell them no.
That would drive me crazy.

[e.j.]

I have parents that will say in a smirky tone..."You know the kids can't read"

I'm like "No, but YOU can"

That reminded me of a discussion I had with a breastfeeding dcm. Anytime she'd eat dairy, her baby would have runny diarrhea. We had had several discussions about it, she knew how dairy affected him and yet continued to eat it because, you know....she craved dairy and couldn't help herself. Ugh! After he had one particularly nasty bout and it literally poured out of his diaper and all over my playroom rug for the umpteenth time, my frustration was obvious. When I told her what happened - yet again, she told me, "You know he can't help it. He's just a baby." Before I could stop myself, I replied with, "No! But you can!! This can not keep happening!" Didn't have that problem again. Wish I had spoken up sooner!

[ColorfulSunburst]

Yea, that doesn't look like a coat hanger.

my question is: are there coat hangers for DC kids?