Honestly Why Are People Rude?

[lovemykidstoo]

My full timer, comes in every morning and dad puts her coat on my little table by the door. I always have some sort of decoration on there. Right now it's my snowman and a little sign. I mean does anyone think this is rude? As soon as he does it, I take it off and put it on one of the 2 doorknobs that i have right there. To the right is a closet and to the left is the basement, so there are doorknobs there. There may be another coat on them, but you can always double it up. I would never dream of putting a coat on someone's decorations. Do I just need a vacation or is this rude? So now this weekend, I'm going to get one of those over the door hangers and that way I can put it up in the morning and take it down and tuck it in the closet when they leave. Here are 2 pics, one of what it normally looks like and the other is what dad does every morning.

[Snowmom]

Yea, that doesn't look like a coat hanger.
He probably knocked down the sign doing that and if he scratched the wood table- that'd tick me off.

[sahm1225]

That is very rude, but I’m having one of those weeks where everyone has been rude or inconsiderate that maybe I’m over exaggerating. But I think at this point, you need to be direct andask him NOT to do that. Some people are just jerks and don’t think things through. I have a dcd that throws the kids coats on TOP of the coat rack... and another one that I have to say ‘please CLOSE the door” every morning.

[lovemykidstoo]

That is very rude, but I’m having one of those weeks where everyone has been rude or inconsiderate that maybe I’m over exaggerating. But I think at this point, you need to be direct andask him NOT to do that. Some people are just jerks and don’t think things through. I have a dcd that throws the kids coats on TOP of the coat rack... and another one that I have to say ‘please CLOSE the door” every morning.

Oh Lord me too. I have a screen door where the top is a screen, but it has built in the storm that slides up to shut off the screen. (if that makes sense). I leave the screen open about 4 inches because if I don't, the big door doesn't close easily. Too much suction. So they come in every day and stand there flapping. I walk right around them and say excuse me and shut the door . I mean duh. You wonder why the kids don't listen? The parents aren't too swift.

[lovemykidstoo]

Yea, that doesn't look like a coat hanger.
He probably knocked down the sign doing that and if he scratched the wood table- that'd tick me off.

I just don't get it. I have 2 doorknobs right there. Same distance away. I mean anyone ever heard of putting 1 coat over another on the doorknob? grrrr

This is only $7.00. I think I will pick it up tonight. It has 6 hooks, just enough for all the kids. Then I can take it down at 5:15 and keep it in the closet.

[Blackcat31]

It's rude.

I have similar issues with standing on benches with fabric cushions and kids being sat on TOP of my cubby units. I have a laminated sign that says "Please do NOT place your child on top the cubbys. Thank you!"

Most parents can't read it though because their child's butt is blocking it from view.

In your case, I'd have a hard time not putting something on the table that will spill over and make a huge racket when DCD puts the coat on it. Something like a tall container full of little bells or acorns or Christmas tree bulbs etc... something so that the minute DCD sets the coat on the table it falls all over the place.

Then I'd stand there and say "That's why I've asked you not to put her coat there Bob. Could you please make sure that is picked up before the another child arrives? Thank you"


I do agree.... people can be obliviously rude sometimes.

[rosieteddy]

I think that is the hardest part of having a family daycare.This is your home,its rude to put the coat there.I am surprised that the children are not touching the decorations.That being said I would move the table.I would get a coat rack and put it there for daycare hours.I would put a tray for wet boots in that space.I did like the idea Black cat had of the noisy ornaments though.Why make yourself aggravated every morning .We know the parents are ofted clueless.

[lovemykidstoo]

It's rude.

I have similar issues with standing on benches with fabric cushions and kids being sat on TOP of my cubby units. I have a laminated sign that says "Please do NOT place your child on top the cubbys. Thank you!"

Most parents can't read it though because their child's butt is blocking it from view.

In your case, I'd have a hard time not putting something on the table that will spill over and make a huge racket when DCD puts the coat on it. Something like a tall container full of little bells or acorns or Christmas tree bulbs etc... something so that the minute DCD sets the coat on the table it falls all over the place.

Then I'd stand there and say "That's why I've asked you not to put her coat there Bob. Could you please make sure that is picked up before the another child arrives? Thank you"


I do agree.... people can be obliviously rude sometimes.

Maybe put up tack strips? hahahaha! I like the idea of putting stuff up there that woudl fall and make a mess. Would be fun to watch him on his hands and knees picking stuff up haha

[lovemykidstoo]

I think that is the hardest part of having a family daycare.This is your home,its rude to put the coat there.I am surprised that the children are not touching the decorations.That being said I would move the table.I would get a coat rack and put it there for daycare hours.I would put a tray for wet boots in that space.I did like the idea Black cat had of the noisy ornaments though.Why make yourself aggravated every morning .We know the parents are ofted clueless.

I'm not moving the table. This is my home and I'm not rearranging anything because he's rude. Plus, I use that table for daycare. It has 6 baskets in it that you can't see and that's where every child has their diapers and wipes. I'm going to pick up the over the door rack with 6 hooks to put on the closet door which is right there. There will be no need for him to put the coat on there anymore. So when he comes Monday and starts to put it on the table, I'm going to say "Oh, I bought a door hook right here. Coats were scratching my table." That way the problem is fixed and he understands that he was being rude. Surprisingly, the kids have never bothered any of my decorations or my tree. I have had 2 broken ornaments in 18 years of daycare. It's weird, they look, but they never touch.

[Unregistered]

Yep...same crap here!! I have a shelf for kids back packs...sign on that please do not place children here...nope every damn day mom puts kid there to remove boots...there is a bench 19" away...I measured it!!

[Blackcat31]

I'm not moving the table. This is my home and I'm not rearranging anything because he's rude. Plus, I use that table for daycare. It has 6 baskets in it that you can't see and that's where every child has their diapers and wipes. I'm going to pick up the over the door rack with 6 hooks to put on the closet door which is right there. There will be no need for him to put the coat on there anymore. So when he comes Monday and starts to put it on the table, I'm going to say "Oh, I bought a door hook right here. Coats were scratching my table." That way the problem is fixed and he understands that he was being rude. Surprisingly, the kids have never bothered any of my decorations or my tree. I have had 2 broken ornaments in 18 years of daycare. It's weird, they look, but they never touch.

Every year I put up decorations in the daycare house and the kids and I talk about looking and not touching etc etc.... Im happy to say the kids are fantastic!!! happyface

But then it never fails, ever year I have that one parent that will pick up their kid and say "See how pretty" as they are holding them up high 3 inches from the ornament or lights I just spent the week teaching them not to touch.

[lovemykidstoo]

Yep...same crap here!! I have a shelf for kids back packs...sign on that please do not place children here...nope every damn day mom puts kid there to remove boots...there is a bench 19" away...I measured it!!

ugh that would tick me off.

[lovemykidstoo]

Every year I put up decorations in the daycare house and the kids and I talk about looking and not touching etc etc.... Im happy to say the kids are fantastic!!! happyface

But then it never fails, ever year I have that one parent that will pick up their kid and say "See how pretty" as they are holding them up high 3 inches from the ornament or lights I just spent the week teaching them not to touch.

Are parents amazed that the kids don't bother your things? I always laugh when I hear the parents say they only put ornaments on the top of the tree, put stuff around the tree so they can't get it. Never had a problem. Honestly, I rarely have to say no. They just know how I am and they learn from that. That would irritate me if a parent held them up to the tree like that. So I bet the child reaches out to an ornament there too.

[rosieteddy]

Sorry I did not notice the baskets.The coat rack sounds like the perfect solution.I know parents can sometimes not get that this is your home.

[lovemykidstoo]

Sorry I did not notice the baskets.The coat rack sounds like the perfect solution.I know parents can sometimes not get that this is your home.

No worries, this pic you can't see them, but it's so convenient to keep me organized. Try hard as I can to be organized