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When I was learning to strengthen my backbone, I used to practice the conversation in the mirror beforehand. It really helped me figure out how and what I wanted to say. Just remind yourself, he is the one in the wrong not you. You shouldn't feel bad for keeping everyone safe.
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I have a similar policy, I enforced it last year when I had to start taking my daughter to the bus. My driveway is longer and I can't see the end from our house, so I have to walk down the driveway with her with any children that are here by 7:50. Then we walk back up the driveway after the bus has gone. Order to not feel chased up the driveway I don't allow drop off until 8:10. When I put this policy in to effect last September I had a mom who would pull in right at 7:50, she still had to get her child out of the car sign him in so I could get him into the stroller or wagon to take them down the driveway. Doing this she was causing me to be late getting down the driveway. One day she had not arrived, so I headed out a minute or two early and she pulled in the driveway as we were walking down but was still on time, another time she got out of her car put a kid in the wagon I went back to her car and sat there I waited for her to leave so I could leave safely with the kids and not being chased down the driveway but she just sat there. The final straw was seeing her pull by while I was standing at the end of driveway with the kids. (Shortly after that happened she started picking up early to what I assumed was to look at different daycares, a month later she left) I knew her drop off time is 7:30 so she had 20 minutes to get there before I headed out.
Anyways my suggestion to you would be to put a sign on your door, saying something like provider will return at 8:15. Or provider will answer door at 8:15. Or you have arrived during my no drop-off policy time frame, please be advised I will not be opening the store until 8:15, knocking ring the doorbell or even pounding will not get the door open faster. And then just don't answer the door even if you're standing in the living room looking out the window. It will be hard to ignore him but that's what I would do.
When you open the door and he asks why you didn't answer, I would reply with something I like the safety of the children at the road and in my home is my priority. That his coming early distract you from safely caring for the children both inside and outside. That his choice to continue coming in during the no drop-off policy is putting the children's safety at risk and if he continues he will be looking for another day care.Comment
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Notify him in writing that you will be charging him 50 dollars for each violation of dropping off during this time including your neighbors parking spot. 3 violations he is termed. When it costs him he will stop.Comment
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You really will be okay! I know it doesn’t seem like it when all you’ve got going through your head is terrifying “what-ifs” but telling him no more to his face and seriously meaning it is better than possibly losing your business you’ve worked so hard for because of his recklessness. :hug:Comment
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So just to be clear, he comes when the kids are standing in the driveway? So what happens when he pulls in, do the kids have to move? That is complete BS. I would go postal on him. If you find it's hard for you face to face, text him first thing in the morning before he leaves his house and say "reminder, do not arrive between 8:00 and 8:15. Thank you" Do it every day if you have to.Comment
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Wondering how this ended up.Comment
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Guys, I did it again. Today was his first day back since break. He wasn't supposed to come today but dcm texted this morning asking if I could take him. I texted sure, just make sure to avoid the 8-8:15 time for the bus stop and she said "of course!" sure enough, dcd pulls in at 8:09. And I said nothing. Nothing! Totally chickened out. I had my kids standing in the snow off to the side. I totally **** at this. I know there is no advice you can give me and I just have to do it. I just hate it.Comment
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I would do this but I would group text them and say you’ve told them repeatedly that drop off can not be between 8:00-8:15. The next time it happens will result in immediate termination. I would also add on that the driveway must be CLEAR at 8am just to be sure he doesn’t roll in at 7:59 and then want to back out at 8:05. Because he’s obviously petty enough or inconsiderate enough to do it.Comment
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I don't mean to be mean
but you HAVE to stop him from doing this. How are you going to feel if something happens to one of the kids because of this? If you can't bring it up face to face, then email it, text it etc, but this is serious. At the very least can you put safety cones out so that he can't pull in the driveway? This isn't a problem like someone forgot snowpants or mittens, this could kill a child.
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You're so right. Time to put my girl pants on... I think I'll just text both of them. I just feel stupid because I've let it go on so long that springing termination on them seems harsh.I don't mean to be mean but you HAVE to stop him from doing this. How are you going to feel if something happens to one of the kids because of this? If you can't bring it up face to face, then email it, text it etc, but this is serious. At the very least can you put safety cones out so that he can't pull in the driveway? This isn't a problem like someone forgot snowpants or mittens, this could kill a child.Comment
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