Dropping Off During Bus Stop Time

[Indoorvoice]

I have asked parents to not drop off between 8 and 8:15 because the bus stop is in my driveway. I stay inside with the littler kids during this time, but keep watch on the bus stop through my front window. The first day of school, a dcd dropped off during this time even though he normally came around 7:50. He said he was sorry and knew the rule but was running late. I thought he would get what my issue was after that as it was very chaotic and I explained again why it can't happen that day before he left. Almost every day since, he continues to drop off right in the middle of bus stop time. He pulls right in even when kids are standing in my driveway. Since I'm inside, I can't stop him from pulling in or deny him entry. I tried blocking my driveway but then he just parks on the private drive next to my house which irritates my neighbors. He knows I'm irked and says sorry everytime but doesn't stop. I feel like there is nothing I can do because I've allowed it for months by this point. Every time I get the nerve up to say something I second guess myself thinking it will sound too rude. I know he's being rude too. Does anyone have a polite way to stop this? It's so unsafe.

[amberrose3dg]

I have asked parents to not drop off between 8 and 8:15 because the bus stop is in my driveway. I stay inside with the littler kids during this time, but keep watch on the bus stop through my front window. The first day of school, a dcd dropped off during this time even though he normally came around 7:50. He said he was sorry and knew the rule but was running late. I thought he would get what my issue was after that as it was very chaotic and I explained again why it can't happen that day before he left. Almost every day since, he continues to drop off right in the middle of bus stop time. He pulls right in even when kids are standing in my driveway. Since I'm inside, I can't stop him from pulling in or deny him entry. I tried blocking my driveway but then he just parks on the private drive next to my house which irritates my neighbors. He knows I'm irked and says sorry everytime but doesn't stop. I feel like there is nothing I can do because I've allowed it for months by this point. Every time I get the nerve up to say something I second guess myself thinking it will sound too rude. I know he's being rude too. Does anyone have a polite way to stop this? It's so unsafe.

Tell him to drop off before or after the time. If he cannot terminate him. He sounds like an entitled jerk. I would be terrified he would hit one of my kids!

[DaveA]

I have asked parents to not drop off between 8 and 8:15 because the bus stop is in my driveway. I stay inside with the littler kids during this time, but keep watch on the bus stop through my front window. The first day of school, a dcd dropped off during this time even though he normally came around 7:50. He said he was sorry and knew the rule but was running late. I thought he would get what my issue was after that as it was very chaotic and I explained again why it can't happen that day before he left. Almost every day since, he continues to drop off right in the middle of bus stop time. He pulls right in even when kids are standing in my driveway. Since I'm inside, I can't stop him from pulling in or deny him entry. I tried blocking my driveway but then he just parks on the private drive next to my house which irritates my neighbors. He knows I'm irked and says sorry everytime but doesn't stop. I feel like there is nothing I can do because I've allowed it for months by this point. Every time I get the nerve up to say something I second guess myself thinking it will sound too rude. I know he's being rude too. Does anyone have a polite way to stop this? It's so unsafe.

This would have sent me ballistic. My conversation would be simple- the next time he shows up during that time will be the last time they are enrolled. He's not sorry- he just doesn't think he has to follow the policy. It's up to you to enforce it or kick him out.

[Cat Herder]

This would have sent me ballistic. My conversation would be simple- the next time he shows up during that time will be the last time they are enrolled. He's not sorry- he just doesn't think he has to follow the policy. It's up to you to enforce it or kick him out.

This /\. He'd get a full on "Mom-Mode" lecture and probably leave in tears or for good.

You have allowed this to go on too long. You don't have a policy if you don't enforce it. You have taught him to not respect you. Time to change the lesson plan. :hug:

[Snowmom]

This would have sent me ballistic. My conversation would be simple- the next time he shows up during that time will be the last time they are enrolled. He's not sorry- he just doesn't think he has to follow the policy. It's up to you to enforce it or kick him out.

Definitely this!

I could tell you about my situation a few years back that was almost identical to this... basically it just ends with a blow up at my front door when I told dcm that she should find a different provider.
It's not going to change. He feels entitled to do whatever he wants with no regard for you or the safety of those kids.

[Ariana]

Isn’t it funny how he started this right after you told him not to? I would send a termination letter after I got paid.

[Blackcat31]

I'd have a hard time not immediately saying "If you are sorry, why do you keep doing it?" or "If you are really sorry, you would stop doing it" and then just standing there while he is uncomfortable and unsure of what to say...

When DCK's try to say "sorry" without much meaning I always say "Don't tell me. SHOW me"

Maybe that is what you need to do....

[Annalee]

You are definitely going to have to "tell" him in an "or else" kind of way. I know the issue seems small to him but it is huge to you......just like making my parents walk across the porch to my daycare door. I ended up making an animated picture of how to walk across the porch, hold your child's hand, etc. and put it in my handbook and contract. It brought some laughter to the good parents but the ONE hated it because he was the REASON for it!::

[littlefriends]

I have asked parents to not drop off between 8 and 8:15 because the bus stop is in my driveway. I stay inside with the littler kids during this time, but keep watch on the bus stop through my front window. The first day of school, a dcd dropped off during this time even though he normally came around 7:50. He said he was sorry and knew the rule but was running late. I thought he would get what my issue was after that as it was very chaotic and I explained again why it can't happen that day before he left. Almost every day since, he continues to drop off right in the middle of bus stop time. He pulls right in even when kids are standing in my driveway. Since I'm inside, I can't stop him from pulling in or deny him entry. I tried blocking my driveway but then he just parks on the private drive next to my house which irritates my neighbors. He knows I'm irked and says sorry everytime but doesn't stop. I feel like there is nothing I can do because I've allowed it for months by this point. Every time I get the nerve up to say something I second guess myself thinking it will sound too rude. I know he's being rude too. Does anyone have a polite way to stop this? It's so unsafe.

I wouldn’t worry about being polite!! He could seriously injure or even kill one (or more )of the kids!! I’d tell him the second he walked in the door that the next time it happens he will no longer have care with you.

[e.j.]

I have asked parents to not drop off between 8 and 8:15 because the bus stop is in my driveway. I stay inside with the littler kids during this time, but keep watch on the bus stop through my front window. The first day of school, a dcd dropped off during this time even though he normally came around 7:50. He said he was sorry and knew the rule but was running late. I thought he would get what my issue was after that as it was very chaotic and I explained again why it can't happen that day before he left. Almost every day since, he continues to drop off right in the middle of bus stop time. He pulls right in even when kids are standing in my driveway. Since I'm inside, I can't stop him from pulling in or deny him entry. I tried blocking my driveway but then he just parks on the private drive next to my house which irritates my neighbors. He knows I'm irked and says sorry everytime but doesn't stop. I feel like there is nothing I can do because I've allowed it for months by this point. Every time I get the nerve up to say something I second guess myself thinking it will sound too rude. I know he's being rude too. Does anyone have a polite way to stop this? It's so unsafe.

Any time I have to confront a parent about something, it seems easier for me when I acknowledge how uncomfortable I feel ... "Dcd, I'm uncomfortable saying this to you because I've let it go on for far too long but I need you to stop dropping your child off between 8 and 8:15. If it's too hard to get here before 8, you can always wait until 8:15 to drop off but I'd appreciate it if you would please stop coming between those two times." If he did it again after I spoke with him about it, I'd be ready to hand him a termination letter.

[boy_mom]

So many news stories these last few weeks about children being hit by cars at bus stops. Time to speak up!

What would be worse, a 3 minute conversation to enforce the policy you made or him hitting a child in your driveway?!

[Homebody]

I would definitely tell him that he needs to stop or care will be terminated. Your daycare kids lives are at risk. This reminds me of a heartbreaking accident that occurred in my area. A daycare provider was outside with the dc kids during pickup, and her husband was their too. They got distracted I believe by one of the kids, and didn't see a young toddler wonder into the driveway as a grandparent was pulling in to pickup another child. The poor girl was hit and killed.

This dad is only thinking of himself, and doesn't seem to have any respect for you or your rules.

[Indoorvoice]

Thanks for all of your responses. I know what I need to do, it's just the "how" to do it that I stumble over. I tell myself daily to be more firm to him and then I just don't.

[Cat Herder]

Thanks for all of your responses. I know what I need to do, it's just the "how" to do it that I stumble over. I tell myself daily to be more firm to him and then I just don't.

You are going to have to look him in the face and tell him no more. One more time and he is gone. Then you are going to have to let him go when he does it again. You. :hug:

[amberrose3dg]

You are going to have to look him in the face and tell him no more. One more time and he is gone. Then you are going to have to let him go when he does it again. You. :hug:

This! You will be ok. I know we all have this struggle. If he leaves remember it wont be a huge loss.