DCP Stopping Over After Business Hours

[Unregistered]

the creepy one...

an update....I haven't talked to the dcd in quite a few days. He is gone on business travel for at least another few weeks. Wife told me she has moved out, same town, different home as he is asking for a divorce. Soon as I see him again, I will have HIS (thanks fellow providers for the good advice) letter ready about only calling/showing up here for daycare-related IMPORTANT things. This has been really hard for me but have gotten a backbone with your help. Stay-tuned.

[QualiTcare]

very creepy - i think you need to have a BLUNT conversation with him.

something in his weird little brain has made him think you enjoy his contact apparently. time to make it clear that you don't.

i had an old boss who was very flirty and very married that a lot of the girls would complain about saying "nasty" things to them or even touching them. these were the same girls that he would bark orders at and they would obey instead of standing up for themselves. he never said anything nasty to me and def. didn't touch me. he would say "you look pretty today" or something like that, but that's it. you know why? he knew better from the responses he'd gotten after pushing the envelope that was as far as he was allowed to go with me.

the first time he came to your house or called you after hours, he got the "go ahead" ESPECIALLY if your husband was nearby and didn't intervene.

i agree with crystal - even if driving down a street isn't illegal, her husband confronting the man would at least make him aware that THEY are aware. i can't believe he would stand by in the first place - equally weird.

[Unregistered]

Creepy guy update

Just had to update you gals/guys. The creepy one has received a letter from me. I asked him a week ago to acknowledge receipt. He didn't. I had my assistant (rare) here at pick-up times this week because I never know when he will show up to collect his littles. Well, he arrived yesterday...looked mad as heck....I didn't ask why but I did ask him if he got my letter and he said "mmmm hhmmmm" and that was it, got the littles and left! Backbone training is underway. Thank you all! Hopefully I do not need to get back on here about this again.

[Zoe]

Well it sounds like his pride is hurt, but hopefully he got the message. I'd still be careful about him like you've been doing! Congrats on the backbone!

[Blackcat31]

Good!!...It does sound like you bruised his ego a bit. Hopefully the message was loud and clear and you won't have to deal with him outside of business hours any more. Don't let your guard down though..... people like that give me the creeps. Good for you though for having a backbone!!

[Meeko]

Just had to update you gals/guys. The creepy one has received a letter from me. I asked him a week ago to acknowledge receipt. He didn't. I had my assistant (rare) here at pick-up times this week because I never know when he will show up to collect his littles. Well, he arrived yesterday...looked mad as heck....I didn't ask why but I did ask him if he got my letter and he said "mmmm hhmmmm" and that was it, got the littles and left! Backbone training is underway. Thank you all! Hopefully I do not need to get back on here about this again.

Still be careful. He may back off now....or may step up his efforts as he's getting divorced now. ALWAYS respect your "weird meter".

It's been a couple years now, but I had a single dad that brought a couple kids to me. There was just that "something" about him. He would plop down on my couch and talk my ear off before he left in the mornings and made me feel mega uncomfortable. He seemed unusually upset when I told him I didn't have time to chat and he would have to stop his morning chatting. So instead , he started doing it in the evenings as he thought I was less busy! I ended up terming him and he was super creepy about it. I didn't see or hear from him again, but a few months later my son yelled for me to watch the news. The guy had abducted the kids from his ex-wife and gone back east. They were missing for several months. They were found one day because a passerby noticed the kids were not wearing coats and it was freezing out and they were all just walking down a road in the middle of nowhere. The man is in jail now. Several people in the news article mentioned their interaction with this man was "weird". No kidding! I cringe at the thought of that weirdo sitting on my couch!

Always respect your "weird meter"!

[Unregistered]

I would term.

Both parents and providers need to feel comfortable for the children to be comfortable. These kids have already been exposed to enough conflict between people they trust and care about. You need to set the boundaries up front, not shift them around. If he felt that it WAS ok, now he feels punished. If you want to keep the family, offer a conference time and stick to that.

If he is mad now, what about when there is a real issue?