10 Month Old Hysterical Fit

[Josiegirl]

Exactly! Lovingly enforcing boundaries. Sometimes when my kids are upset about a boundary I listen to their anger and I empathize with them. Sometimes we hug, but they do not get their own way. I support them in their dealing with negative feelings.

We have such a dysfunctional relationship with any feeling other than total happiness all the time which is not realistic. We need to learn to deal with all of our feelings. They are all normal. I truly believe that this is key to future mental health and if I can have a positive impact on a childs mental health because I enforced boundaries then that is well worth the crying.

I watch a lot of documentaries on crime and I truly believe that 99% of criminals are in jail because of poor impulse control and emotional regulation.

OMG I wish I could fly you in to talk with the dcm of my 3 yo twins. I swear mom reacts every single time they cry or whimper. I can tell from their play that she does exactly that. One twin will pretend to be mother and walks away. The other twin will bend over and start fake crying, mother rushes in and says 'don't cry sweetie'. Ugh. And I've seen dcm do it here too.

[Josiegirl]

Just to add that when these 2 3 yos I have start crying about silly little stuff(and they can really milk it!), I'll point out that they're choosing to cry instead of choosing to play. By 3 yo it's definitely their choice.

[Blackcat31]

We have such a dysfunctional relationship with any feeling other than total happiness all the time which is not realistic.

99% of criminals are in jail because of poor impulse control and emotional regulation.

Yep. That inability is the root of a lot (if not most) of society's issues.

Yes. Drugs (euphoria). Suicide. Mental health. Depression at an all time high (are we depressed or do we not understand the difference between life ****s sometimes and true depression?)

If this issue (both social emotional maturity/coping skills and the above statement in red) was tackled with the same aggressive action and intensity as gun control, we might not have an issue with gun violence. Or ANY kind of violence and/or aggression towards others.

Society continues to believe the one common denominator in tragedies like NV are guns. But the true constant is really the person's/perpetrator's ability or inability to manage their frustrations and cope with a traumatic or life changing event. Society was on the right path when they referred to these types of situations as "going postal"...at least it was a general acknowledgement of a person's inability to cope and veering from their normal.