Strange DCD Behavior?

[Unregistered]

Your dcd sounds like a real shmuck. IME I have learned that making no comment at all and giving a short, silent stare then turning away is the most effective way to communicate that something said or done is not acceptable in a non-confrontational way.

This profession, as with any service related field I imagine, will make you largely hate people. As for the jerks like your dcd, he probably isn't going to change no matter what you say to him, and saying something about it will probably make drop-off/pick-ups awkward forever. I wouldn't say anything if it were me.

I had a family years ago that was much like yours. Materialistic, and very into looks. Then their daughter was born with a giant strawberry mark on her face. It sure humbled them. It faded and disappeared by the time she was four. I swear it was a lesson for them from the heavens!

[midaycare]

That poor little girl is going to have body image issues for the rest of her life! Little kids remember these comments, I know I do!

I have always been bigger. Every single woman in my family is built the same way I am. So, my size is partly genetics, party from my love affair with good food and Mt. Dew. My dad has always been proud of the fact that he still fits in his jeans from high school, 24 years ago. I grew up hearing comments like this my entire childhood. They stick with you for life!

I am getting married in 2 months. Did I go crazy to lose a bunch of weight? Nope. This body has served me my entire life. It has grown a human being inside of it. It has produced milk for the first 5 months of my baby's life. I am not perfect, I am no beauty queen, but I am who I am. If anyone has a problem with that they do not have to look at me!

lovethis

[hwichlaz]

Be even more blunt. "Comments like those cause eating disorders. I hope you're making advance payments to a hospital that specializes in that. "

[Mike]

Be even more blunt. "Comments like those cause eating disorders. I hope you're making advance payments to a hospital that specializes in that. "

Love that one, and it's true.

[midaycare]

Be even more blunt. "Comments like those cause eating disorders. I hope you're making advance payments to a hospital that specializes in that. "

You're sassy. I like it!

[hwichlaz]

You're sassy. I like it!

My little sister had anorexia. It's not something I'll let go.

[Mom2Two]

That is definitely problematic in my opinion. Why does he think this is ok?? I wouldn't call CPS but I might make a comment like "she is perfect and right on target for her age, no need to worry dad".

I had an anorexic mom make these comments about her child. Granted the child was 3 and 40lbs but she was also very tall. I always spun it into a positive and the mom stopped commenting.

[nannyde]

I hate people, so tell me if this is normal I'm usually perceptive but I'm at a loss here.

New dcg, age 2, just turned. She's good, just super needy and clingy. Whines to go home a lot. But getting better a little each day.

Dcm is a teacher and dcd works similar hours. Besides the interview, I've never seen dcm. Both parents give me a weird vibe. They are super materialistic ("We go to Key West, we go here, we go there, we want a newer, bigger, house..."). Ironically it's easy to see they are broke as can be, but that's besides the point. They are both very in your face blunt. I'm blunt. They are super blunt. When I'm taken aback, you know it's blunt.

So the weird thing is that dcd makes odd comments about dcg. "Dcg needs to thin out" (she's tiny but has the cute little 2-year-old chub that all toddlers do. Dcg will be gorgeous though). "Dcg has fat feet. We need her to grow so she's not so fat." "Dcg is looking chunky in that outfit today". Or yesterday at pickup..."Dcg, looking good in your skinny jeans." What the serious heck? It's always comments about her body and I think it's weird.

I don't know if he is just so materialistic that he wants everything to look great in his life, including his kids (she's so adorable, by the way). Or if he's creepy.

Thoughts? I'm not like ready to call CPS, I should state. Sometimes people jump on that band wagon. But I definitely have my eyes open as those comments seem inappropriate!

Dad "Dcg needs to thin out"
You: I'm going to need a Doctor's note for that. If she has a medical issue causing her to be obese we need to find out asap.

Dad "Dcg has fat feet. We need her to grow so she's not so fat."
You: I'm going to need a Podiatrist note for that. If she needs special shoes or orthotics we need to get them asap.

Dad "Dcg is looking chunky in that outfit today".
You: To DCG... "sounds like you will be getting a whole new wardrobe here soon little missy."

Dad Dcg, looking good in your skinny jeans."
You: To DCG... "Daddy likes your jeans".

There's a CHANCE he's just a creep and wants to ENGAGE you and he literally can't think of a single thing to say because he's socially inept or dumb.

Any chance he's got the hots for you?