Co-sleeping

[daycarediva]

Yes Ariana I do feel I did what worked for us and I do feel it was in large part because I was not working outside the home. I do agree with spinnymarie that I too feel "strongly that co-sleeping does NOT usually set up a healthy sleep pattern for a child that has to go to daycare all day with many other children."

I do have a SO, we do not live together, and we have a fantastic and creative sex life but at that time I was a single mom escaping an abusive partner. It did work well for me at the time... and some of my most precious memories with my dd were in those small moments. If I marry and have future children it would have to be a conversation for my husband and I to decide together - and I am not set on any one way.

I will say my SO parents in a similar fashion as we are both very active in our children's lives ---- he flies out of state for every basketball game of his college age son and he encourages me to cherish the moments with my daughter and to not rush her to milestones or to rush her growing up. We just enjoy them.

lovethis wonderful! It's nice to hear a cosleeping perspective that wasn't a last resort just to get some sleep and had a good outcome.

[MotherNature]

We bedshare. My 6 yr old will sleep in his bed grudgingly, and my 2 yr old does nap at the sitter's, but generally we all just sleep together. I'm in the vast minority bc I nursed my son til he lost his first tooth at 6. My 2 yr old still nurses, so it's easiest to have her next to me. My husband is actually the one that enjoyed the snuggles the most. Now that my son is all elbows, he prefers him in his own bed. We also have different shifts at work, so my husband isn't home at night, except on the weekends. Husband will put them into bed on weekends, usually in their own beds. My son has sensory issues, and we're awaiting another evaluation this summer for autism, and bedtime was an especially awful and long battle to win. I'll say that. For us initially, bedsharing was necessary to soothe him and allow us sleep. I often wonder though, worldwide what people think about everyone sleeping in their own bed, in their own room. That seems like a much more modern practice then everyone in the same bed or in the same room co-sleeping. And as for the sex question.. we just put them in their own beds or have sex elsewhere.

[Crazy Baby]

I am not into the co sleeping thing. My son slept in a pack n play in our room until he was 6 months, but after that it has always been his own bed.

I have friends who have slept with their child in the bed since infant and he is almost 5 years old now and still rarely sleeps by himself. How can you have any sort of intimate relationship or good sleep like that? I don't personally get it. Maybe I am selfish, but it is not for my husband and I. I do not want a kid in my bed, no thank you.

Honestly, and maybe I am wrong to say this, but I find that the little boy that I know who sleeps with his parents is also ridiculously needy, like it's not normal. It could be related, I don't know.