Unscheduled & Showing Up To My Home!

[Sumshine]

If she pays AFTER care is given... It's nice of you to give her the two weeks notice, but don't expect to get paid for any work you do, look at it as charity and free care because you are a very very nice person.

Basically do not bank on her paying for those last two weeks. From what you've said about her and payments and following rules in the past- she will not respect your rules now that you've given notice. In my experience, with her rude attitude with you now, those kind of people usually escalate during the two weeks To show you who's boss.

I now have a late payment fee of $25 a day, because I'm tired of parents trying to stiff me or paying whenever. No pay no stay, and $25 late payment fee per day until you pay.

Just had a single mom with a SA-DCG give notice, her payment was due Monday, she has a terrible record for communicating and paying on time (always got charged the late payment fees). Keeps trying to dictate when she'll pay me and what not. Acts all shocked every time when she gets hit with late payment fees and turned away at the door.

She gave her notice Friday (her pay day) telling me that she was trying to cut expense, that SG-DCG wouldn't be here during the two-weeks but wanted to know if she needed to bring her could she? I said yes, because she was paying for those two weeks. She said ok, I'll pay ASAP.

Didn't show Monday, didn't come and pay, sent a text at closing asking her when she was dropping off payment? She sent back that she decided she was taking the kids to Disneyland in a few weeks and couldn't pay me until maybe May 1st. It's February 😳

Sent a text back saying "Oh! Then your new total will be XXX if payment is paid May 1st. Which includes my $25 per day late payment fee and it will need to be paid in cash." Guess who showed within the hour to pay me cash?? 😂 And she only owed me $135...

The funny part was that we did this same song and dance in December when she tried to cut expenses for Christmas. Gave notice right after my vacation. Didn't come pay. Ignored my calls and texts. A week and a half later showed up playing dumb and wanting to drop off without paying, told her no, she then went with "That she needed care because her family wouldn't watch DCG!! She was going to loose her job! And she didn't have the money to pay me because DCG's dad wont help her with the kids!"

Told her the amount she owed and I told her that DH was actually on the way to the courts to file a claim against her for none payment since I haven't heard from her and her texts said "read" were proof that she knew that she owed me and started to shut the door on her and DCG. 😦
Funny how the money appeared out of her purse right then and there and begged me to call DH and not file anything against her. That was a lovely paycheck for me let me tell you! 😁

-- Ps there will be no take backs of notice this time! My licensor has been informed of all the shenanigans with her including copies of her texts saying "how awesome my care has been and she's so sad to give notice! They will miss us!". 😁

I have a late fee of $10 a day and I do intend on charging it and I have been to court before for a personal small claims and I will gladly do it again especially once those fees rack up!

I am making a copy of her current upcoming fee statement and making her sign it so she is aware of what she owes me and what date I will also verbally remind her of my $10 a day late fee payment!

[Denali]

Latest update!

DCM texted me saying she is going to try to pick DCG from bus stop since she's trying to get off work early to get to sisters bday party and she decided she wants to use me on Tuesdays and to just not give her a snack on Tuesdays.

I texted back saying that if she does pick DCG up on time to please still come inside as I have a written two week notice for termination of care with an end date of 2/15/17 and that I will plan on DCG being here the next 2 Tuesdays.

She says "Sounds great (with thumbs up emoji)

I am not going to respond back but am hoping she comes inside and doesn't think it's okay to just avoid me forever and it will just go away. I will mail it tonight ad notify her of that if she doesn't come in today.

Just saw your update! So glad you gave notice! Keep that text as it shows that she is aware of the last day of care. Has she paid you for the 2 weeks?

[Sumshine]

Just saw your update! So glad you gave notice! Keep that text as it shows that she is aware of the last day of care. Has she paid you for the 2 weeks?

Nope she is technically due on the 10th per our previous arrangement.I just made her upcoming fee notice (which btw NEVER had Tuesdays on as a listed day of care! She claims I said she can come whenever she wants Tuesday...nope!) With a due date of the 10th that includes payment for this past week, the next week, and the 2/13-2/15. I charged her the regular PT fee for the short week that notice is on. I know she's going to complain as she's only using me 3 of the 5 days (if she uses that Tuesday she "needs" from me!) If not only 2 days. She should be here soon... we will see!

[Sumshine]

She again refused to come inside even though I asked her.

She texts me "Got her will get papers tomorrow"

I'm taking a moment to collect myself as she's being really disrespectful about this IMO. I think I should just mail them?

[Meeko]

Hold on! I need to get my popcorn!!!! ::::

Seriously...good luck and good riddance to this DCM!! You will be so much more relaxed when she is gone.

[Sumshine]

Hold on! I need to get my popcorn!!!! ::::

Seriously...good luck and good riddance to this DCM!! You will be so much more relaxed when she is gone.

I know it's crazy how silly things can just escalate like this! I am being super polite as well as I just want to be done but I'm also trying to make the process easiest on everyone but she is making that very hard! She is making me want to make it easiest for me and just end it today especially since I had asked her to no longer pick up DCG from bus stop! I also simply asked she come inside so she can get this notice and she didn't.

I don't know what else I'm supposed to do it is clear she is avoiding me which I could really care less but just take the silly paperwork and do with it as you please! At least once it is taken everything on my end is done other than collecting payment and I don't have to have anymore anxiety about the situation! I can't believe I am terming someone with only being open for 2 months. Ug!

[Unregistered]

She again refused to come inside even though I asked her.

She texts me "Got her will get papers tomorrow"

I'm taking a moment to collect myself as she's being really disrespectful about this IMO. I think I should just mail them?

If you do plan on mailing it make sure you send it registered mail so she has to sign for it and can't use the excuse that she didn't get it.

[Ariana]

She again refused to come inside even though I asked her.

She texts me "Got her will get papers tomorrow"

I'm taking a moment to collect myself as she's being really disrespectful about this IMO. I think I should just mail them?

What a Jacka$$!! Just be the bigger person. I think this is all quite amusing. she is so immature and it will clearly hurt her in life. Can you send the notice with DCG and then send a follow up termination email?

[Denali]

Just be done with it. She is telling you to "F^<€ off I don have to listen to you, and you just have to deal with it." You told her what to do to get her two weeks and she didn't do it.

You are not her doormat, she is not your boss, you owe her nothing. NOTHING.

Just respond with "Don't worry about it. Care is terminated effective immediately. I'll mail the term letter along with anything of DCG's things to you tomorrow."

And wash your hands. Be done.

[Sumshine]

What a Jacka$$!! Just be the bigger person. I think this is all quite amusing. she is so immature and it will clearly hurt her in life. Can you send the notice with DCG and then send a follow up termination email?

I have chosen not to reply to her because I have tried every which way to be nice but it's a waste of my efforts. I can't believe I was even willing to try to take her on Tuesdays or give her the option to pick up from school on Tuesdays! I am very glad now at this point I made the best decision!

She had told me via text she was going to try to pick DCG from bus stop today. I asked her not to do that and to come inside because I have a termination of care notice waiting for her with a sate of 2/15/17.

If she chooses not to come in anymore I will put a stop to it as it's just a huge liability! If she hasn't entered my home at all tomorrow I will be done immediately because she isn't caring about any liability she is literally dropping her kid off in my driveway and taking off and now trying to get off work early to get to the bus stop after I've asked her not to do that. Absolutely ridiculous!

[Sumshine]

Just be done with it. She is telling you to "F^<€ off I don have to listen to you, and you just have to deal with it." You told her what to do to get her two weeks and she didn't do it.

You are not her doormat, she is not your boss, you owe her nothing. NOTHING.

Just respond with "Don't worry about it. Care is terminated effective immediately. I'll mail the term letter along with anything of DCG's things to you tomorrow."

And wash your hands. Be done.

Ug I really didn't want to have to do that! I really wanted to try to keep the ball in her court and wither have her finish the 2 week in full or be done before Monday hits!

[Denali]

Ug I really didn't want to have to do that! I really wanted to try to keep the ball in her court and wither have her finish the 2 week in full or be done before Monday hits!

You told her to come in to get the notice. There is no her court or your court, it's your ball and if she wants to play she listens to you. Stop letting her have all the power. She has no power other then choosing to listen to you or not.

She listens and gets her two weeks - she doesn't listen and she gets to be a brat and gets her two weeks? Maybe more?

That makes no sense...

You laid down your line off "come inside and get your notice." And she responded by specifically NOT doing what you told her to do. She's not listening to you and will not because then she has to give up her power of being the one in charge between you two.

It's hard. And lame. I hate termination. I've had to do it so many times within the last 4 months it's appalling. But I'm not a doormat, this is my business, I don't have to do favors to people who are rude/disrespectful to me. Their problems are not mine, their behavior is not my fault.

And it's the same for you. Why do you let her treat you so bad? You don't have to let her treat you like this. You have the power and the right to go "nope." At anytime without feeling bad at all. Do you think she will be thankful for you letting her walk all over you? For letting her treat you like how she's treating you? No, she'll want another mile.

You are worth more then how this lady has treated you. You are awesome. Please see that.

[Sumshine]

You told her to come in to get the notice. There is no her court or your court, it's your ball and if she wants to play she listens to you. Stop letting her have all the power. She has no power other then choosing to listen to you or not.

She listens and gets her two weeks - she doesn't listen and she gets to be a brat and gets her two weeks?

That makes no sense...

You laid down your line off "come inside and get your notice." And she responded by specifically NOT doing what you told her to do. She's not listening to you and will not because then she has to give up her power of being the one in charge between you two.

It's hard. And lame. I hate termination. I've had to do it so many times within the last 4 months it's appalling. But I'm not a doormat, this is my business, I don't have to do favors to people who are rude/disrespectful to me. Their problems are not mine, their behavior is not my fault.

And it's the same for you. Why do you let her treat you so bad? You don't have to let her treat you like this. You have the power and the right to go "nope." At anytime without feeling bad at all. Do you think she will be thankful for you letting her walk all over you? For letting her treat you like how she's treating you? No, she'll want another mile.

You are worth more then how this lady has treated you. You are awesome. Please see that.

You are so right. I just wish this didn't have to be more difficult then it already has gotten! I am so over it! All of it!

[Gemma]

And it's the same for you. Why do you let her treat you so bad? You don't have to let her treat you like this. You have the power and the right to go "nope." At anytime without feeling bad at all. Do you think she will be thankful for you letting her walk all over you? For letting her treat you like how she's treating you? No, she'll want another mile.

You are worth more then how this lady has treated you. You are awesome. Please see that.

that and :hug:

[Josiegirl]

You are so right. I just wish this didn't have to be more difficult then it already has gotten! I am so over it! All of it!

Then don't take anymore of her $hit. Tell her exactly what a PP said, term immediately and then mail the immediate term notice along with the dcks stuff and be done. With no more games to play with her, you'll feel 100% better.
Is all of this extra stress and disrespect worth another 2 weeks of caring for dck and chances are you may not get paid for it to boot?
You're trying to be too nice to this woman to avoid negative things being said by her about you? Trust me, she's going to be spewing them out anyways because she hasn't had her way. I'm saying this in the gentlest of ways because I can be such a people-pleaser sometimes and so afraid of letting anyone down so I kinda know....But time and time again she has shown you lack of respect for your business needs and you're putting up with it. PP is right, you deserve far better!!