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Thank you so much for saying this, I am doing my best and it's not my fault he is so miserable and cries excessively. They do hold him a lot and someone is always entering him when he's not being held at their house. I do my best to play, entertain, and hold him but I can't always be just focusing on him I have to divide my time between the two kiddos. It's not fair to the child, my other dcb, and myself that all he does is cry. I know it's starting to stress my other little guy out and I don't like that. I do take some blame, I thought since I was doing this for friends they would be more respectful of me and our relationship but I was wrong. I need to put out some clear cut boundaries so this ends. I'm going to give them this week and if no improvement I'm going to give them notice that I will no longer be able to care for him.
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The only good thing in this situation is that you will know if the parents are being honest about changes at home or not. Like on pp said, after having a serious talk with parents she saw a drastic improvement.
Talk with them, give them a deadline (and stick to it). Baby will either improve or won't. It takes the ball out of your court and puts it into theirs.
When you talk with them, let them know exactly what you can and can not do in group care. And then let them know exactly what you need them to do at home (putting little one down, independent play, similar schedule etc.) to help her adjust.
Daycare is a team effort to make the child's day easier. So many people think children should just be able to adjust to 9-10 hours of care in a completely different environment, which is ludicrous! The parents need to make sure that they have prepare their children as much as possible for group care in order for it to work!Comment
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I personally do not practice wearing a baby around the house because like you said that's not helping the situation. If mom doesn't get on board all she's doing is hurting herself because she's gonna have to find new care that can tolerate a crying baby all day. Good luck I hope things work out in your favor.Comment
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I feel that baby wearing is just another type of "container." At 4 months old, most of baby's time should be on the floor working on skills. Not being contained in slings, wraps, bouncer seats, swings, car seats, etc etc etc.
On a side note, while I do have some "containers" I'm finding the less I use them, the more content and happy the babies in my care are, the better they are able to roll, sit up, crawl - you know, all the things babies are *supposed* to be doing
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Absolutely agree. I have a 7 mos old and this time around I have only used a bouncy seat, when he was smaller, otherwise no containers this time. He is almost crawling. I rarely used them with my ds, only when I needed him to stay in one place for safety and he was scooting around by 7 months also.
I feel that baby wearing is just another type of "container." At 4 months old, most of baby's time should be on the floor working on skills. Not being contained in slings, wraps, bouncer seats, swings, car seats, etc etc etc.
On a side note, while I do have some "containers" I'm finding the less I use them, the more content and happy the babies in my care are, the better they are able to roll, sit up, crawl - you know, all the things babies are *supposed* to be doing
It's funny the shift in parenting that feels that a baby needs to be held and snuggled all day. Yes, cuddles are good but not at the detriment of gaining milestones.Comment
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I have a little one this age also and he's part time, three days a week. The other days are with grandparents or mom and he cries a lot too. Not 5hrs or anything, but 20 min after he gets here until I give him a bottle and he falls asleep and usually every time I lay him on the floor, he's mad within 5 min. At home, he has all the things to sit in and if not, grandpa holds him to watch tv and grandma has said mom holds him constantly from the time she gets home.
This mom has made a lot of comments about not wanting him to grow up too fast....so he gets held or sits in his many things he has to sit in and he isn't on the floor much at home. That makes it really tough to entertain him with floor toys here...so he cries. Add to that the joys of part time babies and it's tough going some days.
I think these moms now have too much info to read on the internet and want to keep them little forever so they hold them and buy all sorts of stuff for them that they don't need...and don't realize the precedents they are setting already.Comment
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Besides buying all the contraptions to keep them entertained, it saddens me that more parents aren't aware that belly time (or floor time) is DIRECTLY related to certain cognitive skills and lack of floor/belly time will impact the development of these neurological connections for life.
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I totally agree!!
I feel that baby wearing is just another type of "container." At 4 months old, most of baby's time should be on the floor working on skills. Not being contained in slings, wraps, bouncer seats, swings, car seats, etc etc etc.
On a side note, while I do have some "containers" I'm finding the less I use them, the more content and happy the babies in my care are, the better they are able to roll, sit up, crawl - you know, all the things babies are *supposed* to be doingComment
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I so agree with this! I am close with this lil guys parents and we are neighbors and I saw him over the weekend with his Dad and he was literally in the stroller for 4 hours outside or was being held or entertained by someone else. He made the comment he doesn't fuss for me...I was like well I can't be outside for 4 hours a day. It's great you can calm him like this but not an option when he is with me. 😳😖Besides buying all the contraptions to keep them entertained, it saddens me that more parents aren't aware that belly time (or floor time) is DIRECTLY related to certain cognitive skills and lack of floor/belly time will impact the development of these neurological connections for life.Comment
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