Has a DCD Ever Hit On You?

[Blackcat31]

IF it happened - let's pretend it did, my day is boring ::

I can see going into "danger mode" if someone touched me in a way that felt intrusive or dangerous. Unfortunately I don't have self defense training, so my reaction would be shaking, stuttering and threatening to call the police maybe...hmmm I dunno...

I found myself discrediting the story and finding it a bit hard to believe as totally truthful.

When you read the original post and the overall "feel" or tone of what is being said, it does not at all match the tone or "feel" of the update.

The original post sounded as if the provider really felt unsure of what to do, if the signals she was reading were interpreted correctly or not and even stated the DCD hadn't "done" anything specific other than being "unnecessarily chatty" and flirty (which in my opinion is open to interpretation depending...)

.....and then the second post or the updated post comes across completely different almost as if it were two totally different people posting. (which I am assuming is why one of our members out right questioned the UPDATED poster on whether they were the same poster as the original poster.)

I am also curious as to what "specifically" the DCD did that warranted being physically assaulted in front of his child....

Plus, as a recent graduate of a self-defense course, I know for a fact that there are certain steps you take to prevent suspected "threats" from accessing you physically etc. You are also taught a few other things that just don't jive with the details of this story so that's my perspective. I could be 100% wrong but that is my interpretation and thoughts on this.

[DaveA]

Definitely a double standard. I think it is because we view men as the pursuer/predator and women as the passive acceptors/victims of advances.

After way too many years of being the only/ one of a couple guys in a large female worksite, I find that almost laughable. I've said before this site is the most reserved bunch of women I've ever dealt with (I mean that in a good way). A couple of former centers had staffs that could have made Marines on Leave blush.

As a woman I KNOW why men are attracted to us. Our job is the very definition of femininity in the traditional sense and many guys like that for obvious reasons.

That makes a lot of sense. Even though my wife asked me out first, the reason I broke my rule against dating people I worked with (we had a mutual client) was because I had seen her at her most caring, helpful, and trusting and was impressed. Well, that and she had a cute butt.

Same reason I am attracted to the guys who do work in my house. They are very masculine....luckily they don't stay long and I love my husband

So THAT'S why women watch when I demonstrate bladesmithing at craft fairs. ::::::::

[Controlled Chaos]

I found myself discrediting the story and finding it a bit hard to believe as totally truthful.

When you read the original post and the overall "feel" or tone of what is being said, it does not at all match the tone or "feel" of the update.

The original post sounded as if the provider really felt unsure of what to do, if the signals she was reading were interpreted correctly or not and even stated the DCD hadn't "done" anything specific other than being "unnecessarily chatty" and flirty (which in my opinion is open to interpretation depending...)

.....and then the second post or the updated post comes across completely different almost as if it were two totally different people posting. (which I am assuming is why one of our members out right questioned the UPDATED poster on whether they were the same poster as the original poster.)

I am also curious as to what "specifically" the DCD did that warranted being physically assaulted in front of his child....

Plus, as a recent graduate of a self-defense course, I know for a fact that there are certain steps you take to prevent suspected "threats" from accessing you physically etc. You are also taught a few other things that just don't jive with the details of this story so that's my perspective. I could be 100% wrong but that is my interpretation and thoughts on this.

Oh I totally agree in real life...I was just enjoying the show I know, not very mature. But my headphones are missing so I can't listen to my favorite podcasts during nap so bored...and so not wanting to do paperwork...ok ok I will go enter food program info

Seriously though...when do the fall TV shows start back up...

[Blackcat31]

Curious if this family had any follow up to this incident?
Was a police report filed by the DCD or did he seek medical attention at all?

I just can't help wonder how this whole experience effected the kids. They are much too young to understand the their father is being flirty and/or obnoxious but I am sure they understand it means their father is hurt when he started gushing blood...

Just wondering if there was any type of update, further conversation with the mom or any fallout from DCD potentially reporting this.

[daycare]

Wow wow. How did I miss all of that.
If I did that to a dcp I'm sure I wouldn't have a daycare anymore.
Hoping this all turned out well.

Please update...

[catinthebox]

What are some of the bias do you see in the daycare business for both gender?

I am a young male teacher and while working at the daycare center i had noticed some bias things. One of them was when I had first started working there and we were at the beach for our field trip. Some of our kids were talking to a lady who had her dog on her bike. I saw it and then started walking toward her when I saw my boss doing the same thing. I asked "our kids can't talk to random people right?" She replys "no, but she seems like a nice lady" but i don't remember exactly how she word the next part but he said something like if it was a male then we shouldn't let them talk to the kids because you know...

At first i was true, then later on that day i was like thats mess up! I love my ex boss, she had help me grow alot and become a better teacher.

Second thing was that staff at the site can not let kids sit in their laps. There was a big fiasco that had happen a few years ago when a male staff allow teenage girls to sit on his lap. My coworkers are all females and there were a few times where some of them were letting the kids sit on their laps. If i were to do that my ass were have been gone and people would have been head hunting for me.

At the same time i feel like being a male staff had giving me an edge because there isn't that much male teacher or staff in elementary and in the daycare center. I remember during my interview that they mention that we don't normally get male teachers so that gives you a edge because they been needing one for a long time. One of my coworkers told me that the work place was sexism because i didn't have to drive the van because they needed a male staff at the site. I told her that it ****s knowing that you are deem as a value assets just because you are a male and not for what you do. I do agree that sexism is still alive where it happens to women most of the time.

[TBird]

We had a BRIEF experience w/an "overly friendly" creeper type dad. He was unemployed (waiting on employment) & mom wanted the child acclimated to daycare. He would leer at us at drop off & pick up & say, "So what's up???" when clearly it wasn't about the DCK. He also wanted the DCK to stay late & offered to give my assistant rides home after hours. UMMMMMM...NO.::