Has a DCD Ever Hit On You?

[mommyneedsadayoff]

I have never had a dad hit on me. All the dads I have worked with have been really nice and friendly and talkative. Some start shy or quiet at first, but for most of them, they get comfortable and we have had great conversations. Sometimes I think they just need to talk o have a conversation that doesn't involve their kids, money, ect. They also meet my husband right away and many of my families know my husband anyway, so I am sure that helps too I have nothing against conversations with dcm's, but at the end of the day, I am kind of tired of thinking or talking about their kids, so a conversation with another adult about all sorts of stuff (current events, local events, the weather) is kind of nice and I think the added bonus is that dads start to feel more comfortable with me, which usually leads to them being more involved in their child's care. I think if it makes you uncomfortable you should end care. Whether you blame it on something else or tell him the truth is up to you, but either way, I imagine the relationship will be tainted and could compromise your business and even just your stress level.

[LostMyMarbles]

Yes I dealt with a flirty dad but it never bothered me. If anything I just told myself I was reading too much into it. I just ignored it and it never affected me in any way except that I would need to cut off the chatter. He once called me in the evening and we chatted for a LOT longer than was appropriate but I couldn't get him off the phone. Again .i just felt I was reading too much into to and let it go.

My current daycare dad catches sneak peeks of my chest area every now and again i just ignore it and cross my arms over my chest as much as I can or grab a sweater before he comes to the door!

Same..grabbed a zip up sweatshirt when he drops off or picks up. I finally said..how is it you have not gotten sued for sexual harassment before? Be respectful to me and my significant other OR you will not be allowed at my house ever again. I told his wife this too. It's all good now...

[DaveA]

I keep coming back to this thread thinking about something.

Let me preface it by saying in OP's post DCD is being a moron because both are married & if it continues she would be right to tell him to go F himself. I'm curious- how much of the reactions do you think are gender based? The example I posted about the DCM above I caught heck from several coworkers (my aide could have been Exhibit A in the gossip thread awhile back) for "leading on a single mom". When my aide set her cap for a single dad there (a local cop) all she got was handcuff jokes. Another center I worked at had a DCM that was a former teacher who married a single DCD. Several staff were unhappy they were still allowed to bring the children because he had "gone after" a girl 10 years younger even though her former co-teacher said she chased him from the beginning. Kind of like when there's a high school student/ teacher story. When it's a guy teacher it's "fry him". If it's a female teacher it's "Where were these teachers when I was in school?" :confused:

I'm actually kind of suprised it doesn't happen more often. In childcare we present ourselves as caring, confident, and trustworthy- all traits people like in a partner. People of both genders have trouble reading others. I've been married 15 years and DW still confuses me sometimes.

I'm sure I'm not asking something with a right or wrong answer. Or maybe I'm totally off base and the torches and pitchforks are assembling as we speak. ::

Thanks

[Unregistered]

OP Here-UPDATE

Well. This morning was fun. Mom dropped off dcb and said dad would drop daughter later so they could spend morning together. 37 minutes later dad arrived.
When he brought daughter in I sat her down on floor to remove shoes and felt dads hand on my VERY lower back. I swiftly stood up and met him with a hard flat palm square to his nose. Oh dcd, did i forget to tell you that I took numerous self defense classes in college? (I worked Summer's tending bar and they came in handy). Dads nose proceeded to gush blood all over my foyer. I informed him to go to his car while I gathered his children. I then sent his children to the car and sent his wife a detailed text of why they are immediately terminated. Can you imagine being married to such a POS?

[Pestle]

[Rockgirl]

Well. This morning was fun. Mom dropped off dcb and said dad would drop daughter later so they could spend morning together. 37 minutes later dad arrived.
When he brought daughter in I sat her down on floor to remove shoes and felt dads hand on my VERY lower back. I swiftly stood up and met him with a hard flat palm square to his nose. Oh dcd, did i forget to tell you that I took numerous self defense classes in college? (I worked Summer's tending bar and they came in handy). Dads nose proceeded to gush blood all over my foyer. I informed him to go to his car while I gathered his children. I then sent his children to the car and sent his wife a detailed text of why they are immediately terminated. Can you imagine being married to such a POS?

Are you the OP?

[Baby Beluga]

Well. This morning was fun. Mom dropped off dcb and said dad would drop daughter later so they could spend morning together. 37 minutes later dad arrived.
When he brought daughter in I sat her down on floor to remove shoes and felt dads hand on my VERY lower back. I swiftly stood up and met him with a hard flat palm square to his nose. Oh dcd, did i forget to tell you that I took numerous self defense classes in college? (I worked Summer's tending bar and they came in handy). Dads nose proceeded to gush blood all over my foyer. I informed him to go to his car while I gathered his children. I then sent his children to the car and sent his wife a detailed text of why they are immediately terminated. Can you imagine being married to such a POS?

I am going to tread lightly here, but did you really hit Dad in the face causing a bloody nose....in front of other children?

There is absolutely ZERO reason for DCD to touch you in any way. No reason at all. But I also am a bit alarmed at how you handled it with children in your care.

[Play Care]

Well. This morning was fun. Mom dropped off dcb and said dad would drop daughter later so they could spend morning together. 37 minutes later dad arrived.
When he brought daughter in I sat her down on floor to remove shoes and felt dads hand on my VERY lower back. I swiftly stood up and met him with a hard flat palm square to his nose. Oh dcd, did i forget to tell you that I took numerous self defense classes in college? (I worked Summer's tending bar and they came in handy). Dads nose proceeded to gush blood all over my foyer. I informed him to go to his car while I gathered his children. I then sent his children to the car and sent his wife a detailed text of why they are immediately terminated. Can you imagine being married to such a POS?

[Blackcat31]

I find it ironic that the most dramatic stories are always posted by unregistered users.

I fully support and respect unregistered users when they post. (Especially when they have valuable content to add to the forum.)

A user name means no more to me than a real name or a blank space etc..but I can't help feeling like sometimes the phrase "logged out for privacy" really just means "most outlandish story ever told"...

[Mike]

Well. This morning was fun. Mom dropped off dcb and said dad would drop daughter later so they could spend morning together. 37 minutes later dad arrived.
When he brought daughter in I sat her down on floor to remove shoes and felt dads hand on my VERY lower back. I swiftly stood up and met him with a hard flat palm square to his nose. Oh dcd, did i forget to tell you that I took numerous self defense classes in college? (I worked Summer's tending bar and they came in handy). Dads nose proceeded to gush blood all over my foyer. I informed him to go to his car while I gathered his children. I then sent his children to the car and sent his wife a detailed text of why they are immediately terminated. Can you imagine being married to such a POS?

Reading that, I had 2 immediate thoughts.
:: for the defense and telling him to take the kids
for going overboard in front of children
I would have just said to take the kids and leave.

I find it ironic that the most dramatic stories are always posted by unregistered users.

I fully support and respect unregistered users when they post. (Especially when they have valuable content to add to the forum.)

A user name means no more to me than a real name or a blank space etc..but I can't help feeling like sometimes the phrase "logged out for privacy" really just means "most outlandish story ever told"...

On a board I had a few years back, we got regular visitor posts from people being very mean or rude. Eventually I turned off the option to post without being logged in. I also checked the IP addresses and often they were through a proxy, but once, I was able to trace it right to a specific person and got a phone number and email address. They didn't like me.

[Blackcat31]

On a board I had a few years back, we got regular visitor posts from people being very mean or rude. Eventually I turned off the option to post without being logged in. I also checked the IP addresses and often they were through a proxy, but once, I was able to trace it right to a specific person and got a phone number and email address. They didn't like me.

You'd be surprised (probably not you specifically since you have experience in the computer world) but most people would be surprised at what isn't really "private" or "hidden".

[Mike]

Oh yeah. Even information people know is public, some say too much, especially on sites like Facebook. How do some burglars know when to go rob a house? A friend of mine, even after multiple warnings from me, kept posting on Facebook every time she was going out. She wanted her friends to know she's not home so they don't come over. Last summer, her place was broken into, surprisingly when she wasn't home. I wonder how anyone knew. She actually stopped being that stupid, but still posts way too much.

[Ariana]

I keep coming back to this thread thinking about something.

Let me preface it by saying in OP's post DCD is being a moron because both are married & if it continues she would be right to tell him to go F himself. I'm curious- how much of the reactions do you think are gender based? The example I posted about the DCM above I caught heck from several coworkers (my aide could have been Exhibit A in the gossip thread awhile back) for "leading on a single mom". When my aide set her cap for a single dad there (a local cop) all she got was handcuff jokes. Another center I worked at had a DCM that was a former teacher who married a single DCD. Several staff were unhappy they were still allowed to bring the children because he had "gone after" a girl 10 years younger even though her former co-teacher said she chased him from the beginning. Kind of like when there's a high school student/ teacher story. When it's a guy teacher it's "fry him". If it's a female teacher it's "Where were these teachers when I was in school?" :confused:

I'm actually kind of suprised it doesn't happen more often. In childcare we present ourselves as caring, confident, and trustworthy- all traits people like in a partner. People of both genders have trouble reading others. I've been married 15 years and DW still confuses me sometimes.

I'm sure I'm not asking something with a right or wrong answer. Or maybe I'm totally off base and the torches and pitchforks are assembling as we speak. ::

Thanks

Definitely a double standard. I think it is because we view men as the pursuer/predator and women as the passive acceptors/victims of advances.

As a woman I KNOW why men are attracted to us. Our job is the very definition of femininity in the traditional sense and many guys like that for obvious reasons. Same reason I am attracted to the guys who do work in my house. They are very masculine....luckily they don't stay long and I love my husband

[Mike]

Definitely a double standard. I think it is because we view men as the pursuer/predator and women as the passive acceptors/victims of advances.

As a woman I KNOW why men are attracted to us. Our job is the very definition of femininity in the traditional sense and many guys like that for obvious reasons. Same reason I am attracted to the guys who do work in my house. They are very masculine....luckily they don't stay long and I love my husband

That is the case most of the time, but only recently it started being accepted that it can go the other way.

[Controlled Chaos]

IF it happened - let's pretend it did, my day is boring ::

I can see going into "danger mode" if someone touched me in a way that felt intrusive or dangerous. Unfortunately I don't have self defense training, so my reaction would be shaking, stuttering and threatening to call the police maybe...hmmm I dunno...