DCP Calling You Names

[Josiegirl]

All I can picture is dcm placing all the blame on her dd and taking none of it herself.

[daycare]

I have delt with this both directly and indirectly do to my culture.

I have found that it was a window of opportunity to teach something to both the parents and the children but this was just me.

It did hurt and it did ****. Having to confront a parent about it was not easy.
Your situation is different, sounds like this parent was just out right being mean. What a horrible thing to have your child hear. No wonder so many children are so disrespectful these days. Apple does not fall too far from the tree.

Hugs to you.

[Unregistered]

Update from OP

All I can picture is dcm placing all the blame on her dd and taking none of it herself.

Your a WISE woman-because that is exactly what this mom did. She was quite embarrassed when I confronted her and very apology etic...that her daughter repeated what was said. No apology for being a rude and mean person. Just kept saying that her daughter shouldn't have repeated that, then started saying that her daughter took what was said out of context, then when she realized I wasn't budging on the termination, she started apologizing that her daughter would "make something like that up". I truly lost all respect for her. Want to know the real kicker? This woman is a first grade teacher and also a dance instructor at a local studio. Sad to know she is shaping the minds of other children besides her own

[Unregistered]

And not that it matters, but I am 5'9" and weigh #160...15lbs UNDER what my doctor says is my ideal body weight.

[Josiegirl]

Unbelievable but in this day and age, not surprising. I find people passing the buck to be such a common thing, never taking the blame. What really shows her character(not that it wasn't showing before with the name-callng!!)is sinking down and blaming her own child. That's got to be lowest of the low. Why can't a grown woman, an adult responsible for birthing, raising and shaping another human being for crying out loud...why can't she admit she made a major error that was thoughtless and unkind.
What she is teaching her own dd with her actions will speak 100% more loudly than any words that'll ever come out of her mouth.

[mommyneedsadayoff]

Unbelievable but in this day and age, not surprising. I find people passing the buck to be such a common thing, never taking the blame. What really shows her character(not that it wasn't showing before with the name-callng!!)is sinking down and blaming her own child. That's got to be lowest of the low. Why can't a grown woman, an adult responsible for birthing, raising and shaping another human being for crying out loud...why can't she admit she made a major error that was thoughtless and unkind.
What she is teaching her own dd with her actions will speak 100% more loudly than any words that'll ever come out of her mouth.

Right?! Not only was what she said mean and ugly, but then, when she has a chance to be an adult and admit wrong and apologize, she doubles down on her immaturity and blames her kid

I'm sorry you went through that OP, but good riddance! Glad you are free of her!

[Mike]

Your a WISE woman-because that is exactly what this mom did. She was quite embarrassed when I confronted her and very apology etic...that her daughter repeated what was said. No apology for being a rude and mean person. Just kept saying that her daughter shouldn't have repeated that, then started saying that her daughter took what was said out of context, then when she realized I wasn't budging on the termination, she started apologizing that her daughter would "make something like that up". I truly lost all respect for her. Want to know the real kicker? This woman is a first grade teacher and also a dance instructor at a local studio. Sad to know she is shaping the minds of other children besides her own

Definitely not the kind of person I'd want to deal with daily, or at all.

[Blackcat31]

I have a dcg4 in my care for two months. Parents seem easy going. Never had any issues with them or the child. Yesterday the girl said to me "my mom calls you two-ton Terri". I was shocked. I told her that calling someone names is mean and hurts feelings-just as I tell them if they called another child names. I am not happy. Now I look at this mom in a whole new light.

And not that it matters, but I am 5'9" and weigh #160...15lbs UNDER what my doctor says is my ideal body weight.

I'm confused as to why the DCM would call you that.
5'9" and 160lbs... That weight is slim for that height.
I'm wondering if dcg really might be taking something out of context or misunderstanding.
You said you've never had any other issues with family and liked them until this incident?

[Mad_Pistachio]

I'm confused as to why the DCM would call you that.
5'9" and 160lbs... That weight is slim for that height.
I'm wondering if dcg really might be taking something out of context or misunderstanding.
You said you've never had any other issues with family and liked them until this incident?

OP seems to be pretty tall (that's from a 5'3" position), and to a dance instructor appear to be heavy, even not being overweight at all.
which does not excuse the nasty comment...

I personally know someone who considers any woman over size 2 fat. and again, I'm a short and large-boned person who can never be size 2 without looking like an Auschwitz escapee (at 4, I looked like I was tortured by starvation). and no, I don't keep that aforementioned person around me: too toxic.

[BumbleBee]

I've had this happen when a 3 year old repeated what was said about me at home. That parent also placed the blame on their child. I sent them on their way. I've had 3 calls from that parent in the last year inquiring if I have openings. I'm always full.