DCP Calling You Names

[Blackcat31]

I have a somewhat off-topic question. my English is letting me down.
what does it mean? racial slur?
I am not being sarcastic or anything, I really don't know.

I once had a child bring the j-word from daycare, and I didn't know what it was, thought he made it up... until his Mom explained to me. I think my armpit hair moved when she did. but I really didn't know, otherwise I'd nip it in the bud right then and there.

Calling her "two ton Terri" is implying the OP is over-weight.
Very childish and rude, especially coming from an adult.

[KiwiKids]

I think I would address it directly because I would NOT be able to pretend like it didn't happen.

I don't know if I would terminate care, I have a pretty thick skin and I know that DCM would be ten times more embarrassed after I called her on it.

But, if it hurt you and you don't need their grief, I would use the suggestions in this thread. If you are going to think of that name every day when you see DCM, it isn't worth it and she seems like the type of person who needs to learn the hard way that you don't take a good and caring daycare provider for granted.

[KiwiKids]

OP here. Thank you all for your kind words. I have decided, since this mom comes into MY home everyday, to term and explain to her why. I simply cannot be comfortable with someone who clearly disrespects me-especially in front of their child. Had the situation be reversed, I am sure this mom would be uncomfortable leaving her child with me. I run a top notch program and have no shortage of clients, as this mom had to wait 3 months before I could accept her into my care. Her snotty "mean girl" behavior just cost her child a loving, nurturing provider. I just have to wonder if this is moms resentment over the fact that her one year old recently took her first steps-away from mom and into my arms at drop off-but what can be expected when the child is in my care 60+ hours a week?

Oh yeah! After reading this she would be GONE here too.

[Mad_Pistachio]

Calling her "two ton Terri" is implying the OP is over-weight.
Very childish and rude, especially coming from an adult.

oh...
I'm sorry. wtf is wrong with people...
I mean, she can have any opinion on anyone's appearance, but using this language, especially in front of a child...

I don't have any advice. OP, do what you are most comfortable with. I have a feeling this name-calling won't go away...
sorry again. I really had no idea.

[laundrymom]

Why isnt important.
When people show you who they are, believe them. I think instead of resentment, she's just mean.

OP here. Thank you all for your kind words. I have decided, since this mom comes into MY home everyday, to term and explain to her why. I simply cannot be comfortable with someone who clearly disrespects me-especially in front of their child. Had the situation be reversed, I am sure this mom would be uncomfortable leaving her child with me. I run a top notch program and have no shortage of clients, as this mom had to wait 3 months before I could accept her into my care. Her snotty "mean girl" behavior just cost her child a loving, nurturing provider. I just have to wonder if this is moms resentment over the fact that her one year old recently took her first steps-away from mom and into my arms at drop off-but what can be expected when the child is in my care 60+ hours a week?

[Second Home]

I'm sorry this happened . I just wish people could be nice .
Good for you standing up for yourself .

[Josiegirl]

I agree completely with what you decided OP. It IS your home and you deserve respect from all who enter it! Dcm s@rewed it up for herself. So many people have lost their common sense and sense of decency. They let anything spew out of their mouths no matter what. I'm glad you're letting them go, but REALLY glad you're telling her why.
:hug::hug:

Wasn't there a similar thing that happened a short while ago on here? IIRC dcm got real belligerent to the poster, the thread became extremely long, then the poster never returned or updated......AFAIK she never came back.

[Unregistered]

Yes Josiegirl it was an email from what I can remember

[mommyneedsadayoff]

I am so sorry she said that about you! That is so mean and ugly and I am so glad you are going to let her go. She needs to be a better role model for her child and to just be a decent human being. :hug:

[Mike]

Good that you are terming.

I would do this:

My opinion: The DCM wouldn't call you that if she respected you and had good feelings toward you. Personally, if I had heard something like that (and there is NO way that the child would have the capacity to make that up), I would be looking for a replacement for that family.

I would want send a basic term letter stating something like "I'm no longer able to care for XXX. Her last day will be XXX" and SIGN it two-ton Teri.

[Boymom]

My opinion: The DCM wouldn't call you that if she respected you and had good feelings toward you. Personally, if I had heard something like that (and there is NO way that the child would have the capacity to make that up), I would be looking for a replacement for that family.

I would want send a basic term letter stating something like "I'm no longer able to care for XXX. Her last day will be XXX" and SIGN it two-ton Teri.

I was going to say this too. Good for you for terming! I just can't believe someone would say that about someone, especially in front of their kid. I really hope their kid doesn't end up being a bully because of the mom :-(

[Meeko]

I am so mad FOR you! That DCM is so very, very rude. I'm glad you're terming. I would too.

Be strong, because you'll most likely get a lame apology. Not because she truly is (she wouldn't have said it if she thought it was wrong) but because she doesn't want to look for new daycare.

She may even try and blame the child, but a 4 year old couldn't come up with that slur.

Again so sorry to hear this.

I am a "fluffy" woman myself. I have no problems with the kids telling me I'm fat or asking if I have a baby in my tummy but I would never stand for an adult being rude.

[Mike]

I am a "fluffy" woman myself. I have no problems with the kids telling me I'm fat or asking if I have a baby in my tummy but I would never stand for an adult being rude.

I had quite a stomach back in the 90's and 1 little girl I babysat loved it. When she got tired, she would sit on my lap, rest her head on my "pillow" :: and fall asleep within minutes.

I've lost weight since then, but still have a little pillow and I've had kids mention it and it never bothered me, but if an adult says anything, that would be very immature, and if an adult said something in front of their child, :dislike:

[Meeko]

I'm itching for an update! How did the mom react to being termed?

[lovemydaycare0912]

Good for you for terming! I am so sorry people are so rude. Proud you stuck up for yourself!