4 Year Old Doesn't Want To Listen

[Ariana]

Oh HECK NO. His parents would have paid to have my door fixed.

Here is what I would do during the termination period. (:Tell him beforehand what the expectations are. If he disobeys ONCE there are NO chances. He immediately goes to sit out and then he does an activity (as boring as possible) of MY choosing.

This! It sounds to me like this behavior is just going unchecked because he has worn everybody out. This kid would be sitting out a LOT! I might even be putting him to bed early.

[Unregistered]

I couldn't keep this child around! You are a saint!

If my firmness, no dealing with craziness, setting expectations, monitoring carefully, observing triggers, consistent consequences, making sure I had a good bond with him and he had positive interactions with me (not just negative attention) FIRMNESS again, didn't work I'd have to say goodbye!

I'm super fun, silly, love to have great engaging activities for the kids, interact lovingly and build a positive relationship with each child but I don't put up with rude and aggressive behavior.

I'm always looking to learn about new positive behavior management techniques, etc. I understand all kids have their moments and do crazy kid stuff but if they are not open to teachable moments, are rude, spitting, out of control they have to become someone else's problem!

[adnilwis]

This! It sounds to me like this behavior is just going unchecked because he has worn everybody out. This kid would be sitting out a LOT! I might even be putting him to bed early.

I try to have him sit out then he screams at me and runs over by what we are doing and pushes everyone out of his way so he can join in. He usually goes to bed by 7 because he refuses to lay down and nap most days too.

I don't have a lot of places to put him where he won't get right back up other than a high chair which I have done. Today he chose not to do his art project, he sat with the paintbrush in his hand for a good 10 minutes. I told him I'd give him 2 more minutes to paint or he wasn't doing it. Still didnt. I told him he was done , took the brush and threw his paper away, huge meltdown for at least 20 minutes because he wanted to do it. Ugh!

Choice method also didn't work today. I told him he could tell me what he wanted out of the basement or he could play with what was already out. He said no and kept opening the door (with child safety knob on it) trying to get it out himself then went and wrecked the block towers the younger ones were playing with and threw blocks at them. Finally he did tell me what he wanted but just frustrates me to no end!

[childcaremom]

Dear dcps,

Here is my 2 weeks notice. Dcb has outgrown my care. I wish you the best.

Your worn out provider

:hug:

[adnilwis]

I am torn between telling his parents I'm done or just waiting it out but I like his parents and I know his grandma who I worked with at the daycare center I worked at before starting inhome. Just don't want any bad feelings or relationships if I do term,

[hgonzalez]

I could have written this. I have 2 more days with the one here, and I can barely take it any more. I spent a few minutes talking to Mom about his behavior at pick up time. She tried to get him to go to the car with her and he ran all over my front yard not listening to her and then had the nerve to come back up to my door and window and press his face up against it and bang on it.
And she doesn't know what behaviors I am talking about....get a CLUE woman!

[AmyKidsCo]

I have a 4 year old that almost refuses to follow all directions. he had been coming here for 7 months. for about the past 5 months he seems to ignore all forms of direction and rules I give him. he is gone 1 day out of the week and that one day he is gone all the other kids listen and daycare is calm etc. then when he is here its complete chaos all day. I like his parents so I try to work with them a lot but it's starting to get very frustrating. is it OK to charge more for a difficult child as such, or better to just provide a term notice.
suggestions please. thank you

I believe Tom Copeland says that as long as you don't discriminate illegally (gender, special needs, etc) you can charge different families different amounts. The sticky thing is if the family discovers that you're charging them more and asks why. They may not appreciate "Because your child is a PITB." ::

[Unregistered]

I do have a PITB surcharge
They will never know because no two families have the same rate due to different hours and number of days. It's only a couple of $$ but it makes me instead of