Wow..Advice Please

[Snowmom]

Since it bothers you, I would reply to the post: "I have many referrals I'd be happy to share and can jot some down for you at pick up today".

[Thriftylady]

I once had a parent who came to me and was giving me her notice. I was in shock because this family was great and always complimented me. When I asked her why, she said "Well I am taking a new job and I know you don't like to work past 5:30. I would need to pick him up two days at 6:00." I told her it would be a little extra charge for the late days but I would be willing to do it. So she was relieved and so was I.

I guess something like that didn't cross my mind. But I am a 24 hour provider right not because we need the money, and lets face it with a DD17 (youngest and only one at home) and a truck driver hubby I don't have much of a life . But I can see how for some of you someone would think that. I do contracted hours, but can be more flexible if needed and if they want to pay for "premium" time.

[Nurse Jackie]

Since it bothers you, I would reply to the post: "I have many referrals I'd be happy to share and can jot some down for you at pick up today".

What she said

[Unregistered]

She friended one of my daycare families and that family said she's bashing me on her page about sick days and other issues.
I was sick last week 1 day other than that I haven't been sick since October and 99% of the time I work sick.

I have no idea what issues she has. We've had a 6 year relationship.
I'm dumbfounded!!!
How am I supposed to open my door to her tomorrow.

[Blackcat31]

She friended one of my daycare families and that family said she's bashing me on her page about sick days and other issues.
I was sick last week 1 day other than that I haven't been sick since October and 99% of the time I work sick.

I have no idea what issues she has. We've had a 6 year relationship.
I'm dumbfounded!!!
How am I supposed to open my door to her tomorrow.

Why would she post something negative about you when she knows your other family can read it?

I feel like there is more going on here... not sure what but 6 yr relationship, posts openly and hasnt said a word to you but other family is more than willing to share this info with you....

Why is this other family friends with DCM but willing to tell you about their "friends" posts? How long have you had this second family in care?

I don't know... something isnt adding up.

[Unregistered]

I am as clueless as you are honestly. She is young and immature I guess.

I've had the other family for a couple
Years - she didn't like them talking smack about me
And thought I should know.

[sleepinghart]

She friended one of my daycare families and that family said she's bashing me on her page about sick days and other issues.
I was sick last week 1 day other than that I haven't been sick since October and 99% of the time I work sick.

I have no idea what issues she has. We've had a 6 year relationship.
I'm dumbfounded!!!
How am I supposed to open my door to her tomorrow.

How did it come about that this other family told you this...were they aware that you knew the original family was looking for other care?:confused:

Why would she post something negative about you when she knows your other family can read it?

I feel like there is more going on here... not sure what but 6 yr relationship, posts openly and hasnt said a word to you but other family is more than willing to share this info with you....

Why is this other family friends with DCM but willing to tell you about their "friends" posts? How long have you had this second family in care?

I don't know... something isnt adding up.

(^bolding^ by me)
...Just wanted to say that I totally agree with this.

[EntropyControlSpecialist]

Why would she post something negative about you when she knows your other family can read it?

I feel like there is more going on here... not sure what but 6 yr relationship, posts openly and hasnt said a word to you but other family is more than willing to share this info with you....

Why is this other family friends with DCM but willing to tell you about their "friends" posts? How long have you had this second family in care?

I don't know... something isnt adding up.

I've had something similar happen (although, not on Facebook...the Mom was ranting about me at another enrolled child's birthday party). She was deeply upset that I was lessening my working hours causing her to have to find some place else if she wanted to keep her child in care for 10.5 hours a day, 5 days a week. The Mom ended up riling up about 3 other Moms and they all agreed that they would leave as well. None of them left. Only the ranting Mom. The outsider Mom who wouldn't rally with them is the Mom who told me.

Last year I had to enforce a late fee to a neighbor for being a couple of minutes late. They badmouthed me in front of another client as I went to go input that they had paid the late fee into the system. That client told them that I was running a business and of course they'd have a late fee for being late (she was outspoken and we were not friends in the least). Both times I had someone report the instances to me. All of that to say...nothing surprises me anymore and I don't think anything weird is going on beyond a client being miffed. My clients let me know when another is badmouthing me and I'm not surprised to hear that another person's clients would do the same.

[DanceMom]

Logged back in - think I'm safe.

The other family sent me a text saying I was being bashed on the others FB page. I asked what it said and she sent me screen shots of what was being said.

If there was more going on believe me if let ya know, I have no idea where all of this is coming from - I guess she secretly despises me. I will be confronting her on it.

[DanceMom]

Although you think something isn't adding up.
Answer me what would you do if you found out a mother was speaking very negative about you to a huge group of people?

Regardless of the reason?

I was sick last week - one day and apparantly it was on her day off and she was pissed spewing many wierd lies about me. Reading them I was in shock, sick to my stomach and very sad as I could not believe it. I get that we all want to vent when things don't go our way but the lies and stuff she was saying was insane!

[Thriftylady]

Logged back in - think I'm safe.

The other family sent me a text saying I was being bashed on the others FB page. I asked what it said and she sent me screen shots of what was being said.

If there was more going on believe me if let ya know, I have no idea where all of this is coming from - I guess she secretly despises me. I will be confronting her on it.

I would term for sure if I had proof of the badmouthing. At that point, they are a liability to my business.

[DanceMom]

I would term for sure if I had proof of the badmouthing. At that point, they are a liability to my business.

Thanks -
This all seems so high school to me ! I'm 42 yrs old she is 26.must be the age difference
How would you term? Provider/parent differences?

[sleepinghart]

Logged back in - think I'm safe.

The other family sent me a text saying I was being bashed on the others FB page. I asked what it said and she sent me screen shots of what was being said.

If there was more going on believe me if let ya know, I have no idea where all of this is coming from - I guess she secretly despises me. I will be confronting her on it.

(^bolding^ by me)
I didn't mean that you knew more than you were telling(if that's the way you took it), sorrylovethis...If anything, I meant maybe more was going on with them than meets the eye.

[DanceMom]

(^bolding^ by me)
I didn't mean that you knew more than you were telling(if that's the way you took it), sorrylovethis...If anything, I meant maybe more was going on with them than meets the eye.

Thanks for clarifying. I was starting to question myself ! Ha !

[DanceMom]

Can anyone help write a term letter ?
I've termed before but never for a relationship going south...