No Judgement Please, Just Advice/Thoughts

[Alisyn]

This is probably the case. Sometimes people don't really want to hear honest opinions, especially if they fear they may be true. I hope the best for the OP, but I would be running far and fast.

Yes, I very much agree with you, far and fast.

[Josiegirl]

Could be she regrets telling more of the story. I'm not sure what she wanted in forms of reply but IMO she's playing with fire.

[VWMom]

No judgement???

Your headline states no judgement, but, guess what?--your life will be filled with it because you have chosen for it to be. People will constantly scrutinize you from the moment they find out, onward. Truth be told, family and friends already are? Is this guy, and the possibility that is exactly what the courts say he is, worth it?

[Hunni Bee]

I'm not sure what she was looking for. Assurance that it wouldn't affect her job? I think she got that.

BUT. Someone I used to date, their mother was is a social worker. Her son, who has a few misdemeanors on his record, lives with her off and on. She told me that she's lost or been looked over for a couple jobs because she had to list everyone who lived in her home, and his record came back.

I don't know if it's different because as a case worker, she drives clients around in her personal car, etc...but I don't know.

But anyway, if she was looking for someone to say that the situation was okay...I don't think she'll find that on a forum filled with mothers and childcare providers.

[NightOwl]

Trolls usually try to start arguments though, right? There's no argument here. I think we're all in agreement.

[Unregistered]

I urge you, op, to rethink this relationship. How can you trust a man who basically told you he at least verbally, had some truth to the allegations made against me.


When my own kid asked me what a shower was for:
"To wash your body" was my answer. Nothing else fits! No one would say what this bf unless something was off bc that simply is not a normal repsonse.

Something is off and I think you feel that it is off yourself...otherwise, why be afraid of job loss or judgment?

Usually, these questions indicate you feel a red flag and you want to see if your gut is right.

You know what u need to do.

So do it.

[Unregistered]

I urge you, op, to rethink this relationship. How can you trust a man who basically told you he at least verbally, had some truth to the allegations made against me.


When my own kid asked me what a shower was for:
"To wash your body" was my answer. Nothing else fits! No one would say what this bf unless something was off bc that simply is not a normal repsonse.

Something is off and I think you feel that it is off yourself...otherwise, why be afraid of job loss or judgment?

Usually, these questions indicate you feel a red flag and you want to see if your gut is right.

You know what u need to do.

So do it.

Meant to quote "truth to allegations made against me" sorry.