Genuinely Curious

[Baby Beluga]

For those of you who have your DH assist you when speaking to parents, is your DH regularly involved in DC? Or does he speak to the parents as support for you? How do the parents respond to him?

I have always wondered this.

My DH has nothing to do with DC. He works from home almost exclusively now but doesn't speak to the parents or the children unless he sees them in passing. They know he is home, they see his vehicle in our driveway but since he is in his own office working seeing him is very rare. I think if I asked for his assistance in speaking with a parent, he would laugh at me.

[Blackcat31]

For those of you who have your DH assist you when speaking to parents, is your DH regularly involved in DC? Or does he speak to the parents as support for you? How do the parents respond to him?

I have always wondered this.

My DH has nothing to do with DC. He works from home almost exclusively now but doesn't speak to the parents or the children unless he sees them in passing. They know he is home, they see his vehicle in our driveway but since he is in his own office working seeing him is very rare. I think if I asked for his assistance in speaking with a parent, he would laugh at me.

Same here.

Mine comes in and does any maintenance necessary on the building and property. He also cooks and prepares lunch daily as well as interacts with the kiddos on a regular basis but other than a passing greeting or casual chit chat here and there, he really has no interaction with parents as far as daycare policies etc.

I handle all of that. He would be present if I just needed a second adult (as a witness type thing.. ?) but asking him to assist in enforcement or discussing an issue.....he plays no role in that.

Basically he runs his business (I am supportive of HIM but do NONE of his work.)
I run my business (he is supportive of ME but does NONE of my work).

[sharlan]

Mine is here, but doesn't talk to the parents. He stays in his little corner of the world.

[NoMoreJuice!]

Mine is here most of the time during drop off/pick up, and he runs calls during the day. He knows every parent, every child, and everything that I know usually. He answers the door often and chats with parents, sometimes about a cute or quirky thing their child did that day. Sometimes about their cars, houses, jobs, or life in general. He's like a second me. Policy things or gripes that I need to relay to parents, he steps back and lets me handle. He just wants to be the good cop and let me be the bad cop, haha!

[thrivingchildcarecom]

Honestly, I prefer him not be involved. I know its hard because my DH is at home more often too, but the license has only my name on it. Its also difficult because there is only minimal contact with adults and I really don't like talking the business with my assistant if I can help it. But in the past my DH has been a little too involved even to the point of overstepping me. In recent years, I have tried to get the mindset of this is my job and he has his job.

[NillaWafers]

Mine is not normally here, but since I had the baby, he's been getting up early and taking my earliest kid (6:30). He just opens the door for them and keeps and eye on her while I wake up around 7ish. Then he leaves for work once I'm up.

Other than that - I handle it all.

[Fiddlesticks]

Mine is not involved. He might be home during drop off or pick up, but only rarely. However, if I was being openly disrespected by a parent, especially a dcd, he would likely be present if I was expecting a confrontation.

[Thriftylady]

When mine is home, he may have some chit chat with the parents. And he will talk and joke around with the kids. But when it comes to the business end he does nothing. He doesn't deal with any issues or anything like that. We kind of see it as he has his job and I have mine. Now like any married couple we do sometimes help each other but not in a way to get involved in the business side of things.

[lovemydaycare0912]

For those of you who have your DH assist you when speaking to parents, is your DH regularly involved in DC? Or does he speak to the parents as support for you? How do the parents respond to him?

I have always wondered this.

My DH has nothing to do with DC. He works from home almost exclusively now but doesn't speak to the parents or the children unless he sees them in passing. They know he is home, they see his vehicle in our driveway but since he is in his own office working seeing him is very rare. I think if I asked for his assistance in speaking with a parent, he would laugh at me.

My dh works jointly with me in the daycare. He is my approved substitute but he's always here. This way, we are able to have all 6 of our dcks be under age 2 if we'd like. Families know both my husband and I enforce all rules and policies. For my last situation, I had dh deal with dcd because dcd is more respectful to him. Kind of scared, I dont know.

Hope this helps

[lovemydaycare0912]

If this helps, our main goal is to open a center. That's why we are in this together right now.

[Annalee]

For those of you who have your DH assist you when speaking to parents, is your DH regularly involved in DC? Or does he speak to the parents as support for you? How do the parents respond to him?

I have always wondered this.

My DH has nothing to do with DC. He works from home almost exclusively now but doesn't speak to the parents or the children unless he sees them in passing. They know he is home, they see his vehicle in our driveway but since he is in his own office working seeing him is very rare. I think if I asked for his assistance in speaking with a parent, he would laugh at me.

I learned most of my business tactics from my dad....be strong~non-negotiable~genuine kind of respect for people in general. My husband wants no part, nor do I want him to have a part, in my daycare business::

[daycarediva]

Mine is not involved. He might be home during drop off or pick up, but only rarely. However, if I was being openly disrespected by a parent, especially a dcd, he would likely be present if I was expecting a confrontation.

Same here.

My dh plays the heavy ONLY and ONLY when necessary (eg, DH can you be home at 5 for a term?) He has had to ask one dcp to leave. Dh is a little intimidating, so when he came around the corner and dcd didn't even know he was there, he was shocked!

[Leigh]

I wouldn't allow my husband to interfere with my business. I can see asking him to be nearby if I were truly frightened for my safety, but I wouldn't let him speak for me (and he's wanted to more than once-he's very much impulsive about things that get him riled up).

[laundrymom]

Same here.

My dh plays the heavy ONLY and ONLY when necessary (eg, DH can you be home at 5 for a term?) He has had to ask one dcp to leave. Dh is a little intimidating, so when he came around the corner and dcd didn't even know he was there, he was shocked!

This is my DH. He's great. He plays. But when he needs to use the big voice, he knows how.

[DaveA]

Generally when my wife is home she just plays a little with the kids and chit chats with the parents unless she's subbing for me. I'll ask her advice from time to time on how to handle a situation, but basically I stay out of her job & she stays out of mine.