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[Controlled Chaos]

My dh comes down to cha every once in a while. The kids know him, and all the parents have met him in passing. But no, he doesn't work for me so he doesn't do dc business. Its all me. I would be irritated if he stepped in. And honestly he's nicer than me, so I probably enforce policies better His job is to assure me I'm not a BOW after I have to lay down the law

[BabyMonkeys]

My husband usually gets home around 5:30 and the parents pick up around 6. When they see him pull in the driveway they all run to the window "V's home!" He will come in and play with them for a while. The parents are friendly with him. It's really pretty much a relaxed environment. Since I have such a tiny group (3), and I've had them since birth, we have gotten pretty comfortable with the families. We are really friendly, but not friends, only because I insist on keeping a business boundary.

When I interviewed my husband was always there. I was inviting them into my home, and he treated them like he would any other guest. While we were going over the business aspect, he let me handle it. It works for us

[Unregistered]

Same here.

Mine comes in and does any maintenance necessary on the building and property. He also cooks and prepares lunch daily as well as interacts with the kiddos on a regular basis but other than a passing greeting or casual chit chat here and there, he really has no interaction with parents as far as daycare policies etc.

I handle all of that. He would be present if I just needed a second adult (as a witness type thing.. ?) but asking him to assist in enforcement or discussing an issue.....he plays no role in that.

Basically he runs his business (I am supportive of HIM but do NONE of his work.)
I run my business (he is supportive of ME but does NONE of my work).

Same here. We are both small business owners. It would embarrass me personally asking for help. I can handle it.

[Unregistered]

Same here. We are both small business owners. It would embarrass me personally asking for help. I can handle it.

I should add that he knows all my dck's and dcp's. They love him, he is just a big kid

[spedmommy4]

DH has filled in for me a handful of times over the past year when emergencies have come up. He also talks to the kids, helps with lunch prep, and "shop talks" with a few of the dcd's once in awhile. He prefers that I handle anything business related. He will pitch in without complaining but working with little ones isn't for him.

[Blackcat31]

Same here. We are both small business owners. It would embarrass me personally asking for help. I can handle it.

I should add that he knows all my dck's and dcp's. They love him, he is just a big kid

Exactly!

[Meeko]

We make sure that parents who sign up know we are a FAMILY daycare in every sense of the word. Myself, my husband, my 31 year old son and one of my daughters (19) are always here. They answer the door, talk with parents etc.

This is our only source of income and so everyone has an interest in the running of our daycare.

The parents look to me as being in charge, but are perfectly happy to be greeted by any one of us. I don't take anyone who acts like they think men in daycare is "creepy" (yes I have interviewed "those" kinds of folks!!)

[lovemydaycare0912]

We make sure that parents who sign up know we are a FAMILY daycare in every sense of the word. Myself, my husband, my 31 year old son and one of my daughters (19) are always here. They answer the door, talk with parents etc.

This is our only source of income and so everyone has an interest in the running of our daycare.

The parents look to me as being in charge, but are perfectly happy to be greeted by any one of us. I don't take anyone who acts like they think men in daycare is "creepy" (yes I have interviewed "those" kinds of folks!!)

Yes we have gotten phonecalls from people who aren't too fond of my husband being here. And that's where it ends. No need in enrolling someone who doesn't trust us.

[Meeko]

Yes we have gotten phonecalls from people who aren't too fond of my husband being here. And that's where it ends. No need in enrolling someone who doesn't trust us.

I think it's weird how a parent will call up a FAMILY daycare and then make it clear they don't want any FAMILY around!!!

[Blackcat31]

I think it's weird how a parent will call up a FAMILY daycare and then make it clear they don't want any FAMILY around!!!

...because most feel it's THEIR family you are taking care of/focusing on.

I don't think they always recognize the caregiver has a family too.

[Lovisa]

My dh doesn't involved himself in the business aspect of things, but he does say hello to the parents when they are dropping off or picking up if he is here. He says hi to the kids, stuff like that. He works from home a few times a month but usually stays in the back of the house for the most part.

A few families have wanted to meet my husband prior to their kids joining my daycare. I totally understand that since this is our home and he will be around the kids here and there.

No way would I take a family though that wanted my family never to be around their kiddos. Clearly, if they ask that, a home daycare isn't the right fit!

[DaveA]

I don't think they always recognize the caregiver has a family too.

But I thought all daycare providers were celibate saints with nothing better to do than be on call 24/7to watch my children while they are waiting for their application to the convent to be approved?::::

[AnneCordelia]

My husband is friendly in passing. And he does work from home a few days a week.

But this is MY business. I make the rules and enforce them. I do the hard stuff because it is my job.

[Baby Beluga]

It has been interesting hearing how individual everyone's business is run.

Yes we have gotten phonecalls from people who aren't too fond of my husband being here. And that's where it ends. No need in enrolling someone who doesn't trust us.

About 2 years ago I have also had this. Although this mom was weird anyway. She asked how many girls I had enrolled because her daughter's current daycare had "too many boys." Then she said her child liked to be naked and asked if that would be a problem (yes, it certainly would!) Then she asked who had access to my house. When I told her my husband worked from home 1 day a week (he was only home 1 day a week at the time) she got very weirded out. Interview ended quickly after that. Looking back on it it seems as if she had a problem with males in general.

[Thriftylady]

I think it's weird how a parent will call up a FAMILY daycare and then make it clear they don't want any FAMILY around!!!

A few months ago, I saw a facebook post somewhere, it may have been shared on a daycare group. The lady basically had a post saying she was looking for "daycare that didn't cost an arm and a leg", but there could be "no men in the house and I will kill you if a man harms my daughter". I thought wow providers will be lining up for that one! I understand that maybe something happened to her in her life, but people really need to get help to get past their issues and understand that not every man is evil. I had something happen to me growing up. And I had an abusive ex husband. That doesn't make every man evil. If I hadn't give current hubby a chance to prove he would never mistreat me, I would have missed out on a great man! (our marriage is far from perfect, but he is a great man).